how do you guys stay present and enjoy the moment without worrying so much about the future? i have fears surrounding will i find love, get married, etc. in the future, all of which are really important to me so i can’t help but worry. tips?
the future doesn’t exist yet and in truth anything could happen but the present, that’s where your life really unfolds. try mindfulness, think about what’s happening in the NOW with your senses. meditation is what really helps tho also if your thoughts are really stuck maybe try acceptance. as in accepting a life where you may not get everything you want and how you could still live a fulfilling life and be okay regardless. hope this helps:)
I try and remember tom isn’t promised and to just live for the day. Choose happiness and gratitude for the day and be present right here now. Easier said then done but when the thoughts are out of control I repeat that to myself and keep pushing.
Hi there! I know how hard it can be to resist the urge to ruminate about the future. I definitely have had a hard time with this in the past too! While I have tried mindfulness techniques, I found that ERP therapy had the best long term effect. After going through the ERP program my mind is much more quiet and I no longer ruminate about the future like I once did.
whats up guys what are some tips dealing with ocd and what to do when a thought makes u anxious ??
I'm struggling really hard with relationship obsessions. Do I really love my partner? How can I know? Am I really just faking it? That kind of thing. It's making my life and relationship a lot harder than they need to be. I could use a few helpful coping mechanisms, trying to move away from less helpful ones like chasing reassurance.
I used to get caught in a loop with existential thoughts very frequently. Every question made my stomach drop: (TW: existential questions) … … ... "Why does anything exist at all? What will death be like? Is anything even real? Is there any meaning to this? Is the universe infinitely big, and if not, what's beyond it? Are there multiverses? Has the universe been around forever? Will the universe end for good, or will it keep going forever? What is forever like? What even IS reality?" It would get so overwhelming that I remember lying on the floor in a fetal position for hours because I felt like there was no escape. I spent most of my days reading articles and watching videos about theoretical astrophysics and philosophy in a desperate attempt to "figure it all out." Of course that only made me more anxious, raised more questions, and kept me trapped in the cycle. Things started to improve once I learned to turn TOWARD reality, rather than away from it, and ERP really helped me do that. I learned that these questions weren't the problem. I learned that I can actually handle the anxiety that arises when exposed to these ideas and concepts. I don't have to figure anything out to make the anxiety go away; it arises and passes away on its own. Ironically, bringing myself into the present moment and becoming more aware of reality helped me escape the cycle of existential dread. Because of that, this topic no longer takes over my life. If I'm triggered by something I see, hear, or think, I may still feel a little twang of anxiety, but then it just goes away. "Maybe, maybe not" has been the single most useful phrase of my life. Do you ever get trapped in a cycle of existential questions? Are you worried that the ERP approach would be too scary to handle? If so, I'm happy to give my advice.
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