Hey guys, im new to the community my name is haidar. So i been attracted to this boy in my class for the past month. My minds been so stressed out because im not 100% certain about my sexuality. Sometimes i kind of like girls but im mostly towards men. I fear that im gonna lead this boy on and im not even 100% of my sexuality. Does anybody else relate?
hi haidar! i COMPLETELY understand and relate to this oh my gosh, even with the progress ive made with my sexuality and with being somewhat "out" for about 4 years now, i still have thoughts just like those that i absolutely obsess over, especially when it comes to pursuing relationships with girls.. not much advice on that front since i am also new to the community and to specific OCD treatment, however, i do want to say as a queer person that if you're attracted to someone, its okay to feel that and act on it! (as long as its not one sided ofc pls ask consent always). but, you wouldnt be picking up on this boy's attributes specifically and recurringly if you didnt have some true feelings-- so explore those! its okay to work on discovering yourself, and even though it is so goddamn SCARY to go into something without knowing the outcome, i believe in you :) hope this wasnt unwarranted or anything!! stay strong im proud of you
@minoudesetoiles Thank you so much it means a lotđ. Its just so frustrating like its my first ever crush since i discovered my sexuality 2 years ago and im so attracted to this boy. Then my brain just does anything to think about the potential future with this boy. Even when im in his presence i get so irritated that im not getting a specific feeling kr whatever. You comment means a lot thank you so much for taking the time out of your dayâ¤ď¸
Hey i think this is very common for people to feel. Allow yourself to have these thoughts when you are in a calm state- donât fight them- let them exist. Figuring out what attracts us is a life long journey and it sounds like youre allowing yourself to explore mentally different ideas of what you might find attractive this makes sense! I think for me i got stuck ruminating on these thoughts- i wish I knew how to help but if your compulsive thoughts donât hurt you or anybody around you then let them be :) thoughts will pass and feelings will change over time- allow yourself to feel as though you flow with them
@Genna123 Thank you genna, you are so rightđ¤ definitely i should allow myself. Your words mean a lot thank you :)
Hi Haidar đ we donât need 100% certainty to do anything in life! So-ocd is tiresome to deal with. I struggled with that theme before so I relate to what you are going through.
@hellopeople Hello, thank you for your words. Definitely your right. Thank you for your helpđ¤
I can relate to this! I struggled with my sexuality for a bit outside of my OCD (but as we know OCD loves to sniff out and LATCH to any uncertainty in our life). Something that helped me sit with that uncertainty is reminding myself that it's okay not to know, as many of us are still always figuring it out. The overarching "queer" label has helped so many still feel seen while not having a specific "label" like gay, straight, or even bisexual. Your intentions sound pure even if you're not 100% sure of your sexuality, and that is something that I think all of us can appreciate and understand (even those outside of the OCD community!) When in doubt, honesty is also great, if ever asked it's always okay to say you're still exploring.đđ
@ Thank you so muchđ¤ you words help and mean a lot to me. Its a struggle but a work in progressđ¤ thank you very very much.
Does anybody have Sexuality OCD? Because I am pretty sure that I am straight but then suddenly about a week ago I stopped going guys attractive and it really scared me. I was convinced I was gay! I tried to like a girl but my brain was telling me that it was wrong. That was when I thought âOMG I DONT HAVE A SEXUALITYâ and I got really scared. Then yesterday I thought a girl was really cute but then saw a guy and thought he was gorgeous! And then I was like no I have to be straight!!!!! What do I do? Does anybody have this problem?
Iâm a lesbian and I constantly have intrusive thoughts that being who I am is bad morally. Also, feel like sometimes I am attracted to men but I know I am not. Is there anyone with a similar experience? Whenever the thoughts come I feel stressed. Sorry, if Thai triggered anyone.
Hey guys, I think/hope that this is just ocd and not me but I canât differentiate. I m dealing with uncertainty âam I a lesbian ?â since 3 years and it comes with so many anxiety. I have to say that I like lesb cOrN and exactly this stresses me out !!! I ve been dating men for my whole life and one day the thought comes up that I could be lesbian. It comes and goes month to month. When I m in this âepisodeâ where I m questioning my sexuality i m googling the whole day if this thought could be true. Also I m checking my feelings by visualising myself with a women and it causes so much anxiety. I just donât know what to do I try to meditate or to calm down but I canât go on without having this answer :/ Also I m so anxious to âhealâ myself because then the truth will came out ( my brain says it to me). When I m with men I get aroused and everything works but then my brain says to me that it is just because of the fact of having sex yk? Like it tries to convince me that I m a lesbian⌠Last month I believed in this and outed myself as Bi in front of my friends although I m not really sure that I m into women. I ve never dated a women or felt any kind of attraction that I felt to men, but what if I m just trying to suppress the attraction to them ? Is anyone dealing with the same shit ? Tik tok triggers me everytime thatâs why I deleted this app because everyday I get these videos about people coming out as gay after their relationship.
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