i feel so gross

i keep accidentally looking at peoples private parts and i don’t mean to but i just happen to glance and i hate it because i feel like i make them uncomfortable. like yesterday my friend was talking about how her shirt made her uncomfortable because it was low on her chest and i glanced down there and i feel so bad cus i made her even more uncomfortable than she was before. i naturally keep my eyes to the floor but sometimes my end up on someone’s butt and i have to look up and tell myself how horrible of a person i am that i did that.

Username: Lisa LeeLou Lisa LeeLou

User type: NOCD Alumni

Date posted: 1y ago

It sounds like it’s OCD up to its old tricks. OCD loves to attach the things that are important to us. It sounds like it’s important to you that friends and others feel comfortable. Therefore not surprising that OCD is attaching to this. It is the doubting disease. Don’t try to fight it just know it for what it is. Things like this do not define who you are and your values. be patient and kind with yourself.

Username: Jeffrey Jeffrey

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

I am sorry you are having a difficult time. Like @lisa leelou said, ocd will try and make a mountain out of a mole hill. Here is an article that may help. https://www.treatmyocd.com/what-is-ocd/common-fears/fear-of-staring-ocd

Username: ivrecivrec

Date posted: 1y ago

I have to add if a friend said she was concerned because her blouse was too low my eyes would go there too. I think that is pretty common. But as said above ocd will make you feel bad but recognize it’s tricks and that may help.

Username: hellopeoplehellopeople

User type: NOCD Alumni

Date posted: 1y ago

Hi there! General looking at people has no meaning unless we attach meaning to it, OCD is trying to tell you that because your eyes glanced at people that *must mean something* bad. There is a motive difference in looking at someone because they are there vs. looking at someone with lustful intentions. With OCD it is very hard to know our motives and OCD will tell us all our motives are completely bad, so we must sit with the “maybe they are, maybe they are not” and wait for the anxiety to go down, not trying to check, or avoid. This takes practices. I’m sorry for the pain you’re in over this. Actively not engaging with the thoughts and making the decision to sit with your fears instead of figuring then out is our way through OCD!

Username: NaggingOCD

Date posted: 5y ago

A few months back I saw a picture of a kid in a swimming costume on the beach but the photo was taken from the back of the kid and I saw it but because of my intrusive thoughts I don’t like to look Past the hip area because it triggers me to have horrible thoughts and I thought no I’m not my thoughts so I clicked back on to it and looked past the hips area but it’s now making me think I’m a horrible person I shouldn’t of looked where I did and it’s just making me feel so horrible but I was just trying to prove to my ocd brain that if I look at a photo and I just happen to see that area that it didn’t mean anything I’m now stuck

POCD

Username: papa.appa

Date posted: 1y ago

is this ocd or am i a bad person? please be honest

i sexualize everything around me and its like no matter where i look im looking at someones chest or their butt or something like that and i dont even mean to and i hate it so much, and sometimes i cant even pull my eyes away and its people i dont even find attractive, even when they are “conventionally attractive” but when they are i feel so guilty because i love my boyfriend so much bc i dont want anybody but him so why do i keep doing this? i feel like i should be able to control my eyes and im just a perv with a bad excuse

Relationship OCD

Username: cmac1339

Date posted: 38w ago

Social Awkwardness

18+ Have you ever said something to someone that came off as very creepy, but it wasn’t intended to be? Like your delivery was super awkward in the moment, and you somehow expressed a compliment, joke, remark, etc. in a way that sounds much different than you intended? I was telling my coworker when she was joking about making an onlyfans that “respectfully she could make bank” but i phrased it in a different way that sounded super suspicious. I feel super guilty even though i know i didn’t mean to make her uncomfortable. I am so tired of feeling disgusted all the time with myself for not being able to communicate like everybody else.

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