Rocd and relationships

Had for ocd for years about loyalty towards my gf would feel awful if I thought bad off my gf and thinking other girls r goood looking missing my ex ect but now I’m almost better and now don’t avoid looking at girls which I did for a year I find my self wanting to look at girls and get an overwhelming attraction feeling that I don’t get towards my gf? I find every girl attractive now and feel awful like I’m better off alone as I feel Numb a lot towards my gf but thY would be because of all the trauma towards her from ocd. Any one else struggling with this ? We have been together almost 24/7 for 2 years is this normal the lack of attraction ?

Username: soumya soumya

Date posted: 1y ago

Also finding other people attractive is normal and natural in humans, you’re not the only one

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

I have this exact thing too

Username: daisy1728383daisy1728383

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous Can u tell me more ?

Username: kyledionne722kyledionne722

Date posted: 1y ago

Struggling with this as well. It literally happened to me yesterday. As I was shopping for my Girlfriend of 4 years’ birthday- as soon as I went to checkout, there was this overwhelming sensation I had, looking at this attractive woman & it was extremely overwhelming. I feel numb a lot towards my gf as well, for the same reason I guess of trauma from OCD. Really hard to engage with what my “true” feelings are. Everything is so paradoxical

Username: soumya soumya

Date posted: 1y ago

connection and infatuation with your partner is not gonna be there 100% of the time that’s just not realistic, feelings flow they come and go they rise and drop they change so much throughout the day, it’s all chemicals in your brain basically, so love isn’t just a feeling, love is a choice, relationships are not perfect and are not 100% lovey dovey all day everyday, you choose to love your partner even on those days you dont feel connected to them or excited to see and spend time with them, you dont always wanna hug and tell your parents you love them! Same goes with your SO! You choose to express love to them even when it’s not the first thing that comes to mind, its normal, i advice you to watch this channel : https://nocd.page.link/shUMAiFzBziQQyKR7 They share a more realistic view of love and relationships

Username: daisy1728383daisy1728383

Date posted: 1y ago

@soumya Thank you so much !!

Username: soumya soumya

Date posted: 1y ago

@daisy1728383 You’re welcome !

Username: Emily Soares

Date posted: 1y ago

rocd

Ever since my rocd got bad, I have no attraction or feelings toward my partner which is what my ocd wanted. Now, I’m constantly being tortured with thoughts that I want to/need to be alone and that Im just staying to not hurt/lose my partner. In my heart, that hurts because I know that is not true and that I love my partner. I’m struggling to determine what is real and what isn’t. My reality and life does not seem real anymore. It’s terrifying and it’s getting worse.

Username: cam1724

Date posted: 1y ago

Please help, rocd

I genuinely concerned. I have relationship ocd and see all these posts more so of partner focused, it being attracted to other people. I don’t have this at all. All my ocd is relationship focused and I’m starting to think it’s not ocd anymore!! Every single second I feel like I want to or should break up with him. I don’t feel that spark or infatuation and haven’t since the beginning. What if we just aren’t a good match? Even though he thinks we are. He’s my first healthy relationship. I feel sick. I feel like I’m prolonging the breakup because I just don’t wanna be alone or hurt him 😢

Relationship OCD

Username: MMchugh1

Date posted: 40w ago

Losing attraction and obsessing over flaws

I have been in a serious relationship with my girlfriend for a little over a year now, and for the first six months I loved the way she looked and never questioned my attraction for her. She is currently over seas studying abroad and the distance has really flared up my ROCD. I catch myself noticing EVERY FLAW about her appearance and comparing them to others strengths. I still find myself attracted to her especially when I see a pretty picture of her, but the not so flattering photos of her seriously make me contemplate breaking up with her to find someone more “attractive”. It seriously tears me apart as I can’t help but know her flaws will always be there and will only become more prominent with age. She always tells me how handsome I am and I can’t say she’s beautiful anymore without hesitation and the ROCD talking in the back of my head. I love her so much and can’t imagine being with someone else, which is why it is so upsetting. I just want to love ALL OF HER including her flaws as she does for me. Can anyone relate? If so, have you been able to get over it?

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