Rocd and relationships

Had for ocd for years about loyalty towards my gf would feel awful if I thought bad off my gf and thinking other girls r goood looking missing my ex ect but now I’m almost better and now don’t avoid looking at girls which I did for a year I find my self wanting to look at girls and get an overwhelming attraction feeling that I don’t get towards my gf? I find every girl attractive now and feel awful like I’m better off alone as I feel Numb a lot towards my gf but thY would be because of all the trauma towards her from ocd. Any one else struggling with this ? We have been together almost 24/7 for 2 years is this normal the lack of attraction ?

Username: soumya soumya

Date posted: 1y ago

Also finding other people attractive is normal and natural in humans, you’re not the only one

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

I have this exact thing too

Username: daisy1728383daisy1728383

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous Can u tell me more ?

Username: kyledionne722kyledionne722

Date posted: 1y ago

Struggling with this as well. It literally happened to me yesterday. As I was shopping for my Girlfriend of 4 years’ birthday- as soon as I went to checkout, there was this overwhelming sensation I had, looking at this attractive woman & it was extremely overwhelming. I feel numb a lot towards my gf as well, for the same reason I guess of trauma from OCD. Really hard to engage with what my “true” feelings are. Everything is so paradoxical

Username: soumya soumya

Date posted: 1y ago

connection and infatuation with your partner is not gonna be there 100% of the time that’s just not realistic, feelings flow they come and go they rise and drop they change so much throughout the day, it’s all chemicals in your brain basically, so love isn’t just a feeling, love is a choice, relationships are not perfect and are not 100% lovey dovey all day everyday, you choose to love your partner even on those days you dont feel connected to them or excited to see and spend time with them, you dont always wanna hug and tell your parents you love them! Same goes with your SO! You choose to express love to them even when it’s not the first thing that comes to mind, its normal, i advice you to watch this channel : https://nocd.page.link/shUMAiFzBziQQyKR7 They share a more realistic view of love and relationships

Username: daisy1728383daisy1728383

Date posted: 1y ago

@soumya Thank you so much !!

Username: soumya soumya

Date posted: 1y ago

@daisy1728383 You’re welcome !

Username: 6756

Date posted: 2y ago

Relationship ocd

Hi ... so im suffering with relationship ocd... my partner is the best and I love her to bits... but I'm constantly checking my attraction towards other women to see how attracted to them I am and constantly imaging that if I were put in a situation (erotically) where I had to say yes or no to cheating would i 100% be able to say no? And then I'm not sure if I could... (this is all Purley based on attractiveness) which scares the crap outa me!! And sometimes I feel.like I'm more attracted to some other women rather than my partner (physically) and question if this is normal? Is it? Is this relationship ocd? :( :(

Relationship OCD

Username: TT2022

Date posted: 1y ago

ROCD? Cheating OCD?

Is it normal to find someone else attractive. When I get this thought or feeling.. whatever it is.. I feel as though I’m about to act on something. Or I guess my fear is that I WANT to act on something even though I know I don’t want to because I love my partner and family and I don’t want to jeopardize it. But I still get this urge when I find someone attractive and so my best idea is to avoid them. Does this happen to anyone else in a long term relationship/married? It makes me feel horrible and I hate having to confess this.

Username: daisy1728383

Date posted: 1y ago

Rocd

My ocd was about loyalty towards my gf every bad thought I had towards her had to tell her or felt guilty for thinking somsones better looking and have to tell her now I’m over that and in my next stage of ocd after help I feel overwhelming attraction towards girls I used to not be able to look at them for a year and now I feel bad and like I should be single if that’s how I feel

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