my mom and my sister keep making fun of me for my ocd. when things aren’t a certain way i get very twitchy and upset. my sister always laughs at me and tells everyone. my mom has talked to a number of my therapists about what ocd actually is , yet she yells at me and gets legit mad when i have compulsions. does anyone have any suggestions on what to say back because nothing works and i’m sick of being mad fun of.
I’m so sorry that you have to deal with insensitivity from family on top of OCD. I’m not sure what to say but it might be there way of coping. My sister is a master of avoidance and can be the same way toward me. It hurts but I know she really cares about me and that her reaction isn’t the best when she feels stressed or feels fear of something she doesn’t really understand like my ocd.
I’m sending you love, hugs and hope.
@BalletJay that is so sweet thank you so much !! i’m sorry you have to deal with it too. people should learn to never make fun of mental illnesses, especially your own family members !
Are the therapists ERP therapists? Do they know that she yells at you? Parents are often told how to avoid giving reassurance but doing so by getting angry at you is not productive. And making fun of you is detrimental. If you’ve told the therapists how your mom is reacting and they haven’t worked with her to fix this its either they your mom just doesn’t understand or that the therapist isn’t an ERP therapist or one who is a good match for your family dynamics’s. Just my opinion.
@Erin P i just started a new one and i don’t think she’s an erp therapist but we’ve worked with erp therapists in the past. i think she’s just going through her own stuff and choosing to take it out on me. thanks for your suggestions !
Sorry to hear that you are not being supported. Yes, it's common for families to sort of laugh off something that they don't really understand, my family does too sometimes but I don't think they are trying to be cruel. Plus the term OCD is used so loosely and generally joked about in society that people don't take it seriously and don't realize the torture that people go through that actually have it. It's annoying when people jokingly say they have OCD, because the way I look at it, is if you have it, you know it's nothing to joke about. It's miserable.
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Need to vent... I was at a family event earlier (husband’s family) and my bitch of a sister in law asked me for a Tylenol. I didnt think about it and I told her just grab it out of my purse pocket, the same place I keep my Prozac. Instead of pulling out the Tylenol she pulled out my Prozac and asked me- IN FRONT IF EVERYONE-why I took prozac. She jokingly said “ohhhh these are your crazy pills” i said no I have OCD. She looked at my husband and said “lucky you, most men would love a wife who obsessively cleans and keeps things organized” I was humiliated because I didnt want to sit there and explain the severity of my mental illness to all my in laws, but my sister in law made it look like I take pills because I like to clean too much. She just brushed it off like it was a quirk I was taking medicine for... my husband just stood there not knowing what to say because he knows the depth of my struggles but knew I didnt want him to say anything...
I told my close friends about my OCD a few months ago and they were really supportive at first however there is this one girl who is really horrible about it. She tells me regularly that I should ‘just stop’ and that if she had OCD, she would just find a way to turn it off which makes it seem as though I am making my problems up! As well as this, she will often laugh at me for doing my compulsions even though I have explained to her on numerous occasions what they are and why I need to do them. Does anyone have any ideas about how to explain to her why I am like this? I feel like I have tried everything! Any advice would be greatly appreciated ☺️
I have the worst contamination ocd and I really need help. I told my mom about it and she told me I was crazy and need to get over it. I told my dad and he understands (he also has ocd) but doesn’t think I need to see a doctor. I literally live my life everyday worrying about being clean and I know it’s totally not normal, so I just want to go back living a normal life. And my parents don’t think I need help. What do I do? :(
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