Are You Mad At Me?

Does anyone deal with OCD in relationships where you’re constantly ritualizing making sure people aren’t mad at you? I constantly ask “are you mad at me?” or I’ll go back and over-clarify things I said and people are always like “dude I didn’t even notice you said something wrong” or “i didn’t even think about it that way”. It’s relieving but I feel like it’s just the OCD getting what it wants out of the ritual. I will say that recently, I’ve been able to let the obsession go in one ear and out the other more than ever before, but I still obsess over what people think of me. Would love to hear some shared experiences or advice.

Username: ocdallthewayocdalltheway

Date posted: 1y ago

OCD clings on the things you care about, no matter how silly you may percieve it to be. I've been struggling with something similar for quite a while. For me the thoughts come in form of an internal battle with my friends and my compulsions are usually just mental, trying to figure out if I said something wrong, if I offended somebody due to me not being thoughtful enough, if I said something that against my own beliefs and so on. I guess one could interpret my thoughts and compulsions through many themes but they are actually really similar to Harm OCD where you fear of unintentionally harming someone or yourself. Compulsing about whether you approached the afghan-soviet conflict through the "correct" perspective in your recent argument with your friends or contemplating whether you accidentally killed somebody in your car on your way to work because of your negligence is for me the same type of thing.

Username: Jordi1220Jordi1220

Date posted: 1y ago

@ocdalltheway Wow that’s incredibly eye opening, the fact that it relationship and harm themes can blend together like that. That makes so much sense because I do struggle with the harm OCD and it tends to come out in relationships. Thanks so much for your insight and thoughts friend.

Username: Liltabby123Liltabby123

Date posted: 1y ago

I always text my friends out of no where to ask if there mad at me

Username: Jordi1220Jordi1220

Date posted: 1y ago

@Liltabby123 That’s so hard. And that’s a lot of work. My heart goes out to you!

Username: trichmeonce…trichmeonce…

Date posted: 1y ago

It’s a waste of your time to make people think about you, like your needing attention from them? Obsessive? Dunno about that but it’s definitely self esteem and insecurity. Pick friends whom are honest, this way you’ll never have to guess or worry. Lastly spend less time worrying if people are ‘mad’ at you and go do something you love/like don’t waste your time caring about what other people think about you. Do they pay your bills? Do your homework? Keep your love relationship steady? Give you a paycheck? Tell y or u what to wear everyday? No they don’t, so why should you care? Life iS WAY too short to not do you and be you. Be confident and like who you are, and automatically other people will follow your suite.

Username: sams07

Date posted: 5y ago

Advice please! I have OCD, and it’s wormed it’s way to my relationship. It particularly revolves around social media, trust and the security of being together “forever”. I whole heartedly trust my partner. However, we all know that OCD causes doubt in the most rational things. Lately, if I get an irrational thought, I ask my partner if it’s true or not true, I get the affirmation I need, and then I feel intense guilt. The cycle begins again because I feel insecure for asking such questions, How do I work through these nagging thoughts and not bring my boyfriend into it? I get super impulsive and just ask him to reassure me. When I don’t ask him and challenge the thought, I’m really moody with him. I’ve had OCD my entire life and have “cured” other obsessions/rituals but for some reason, this one is tough, since another person is involved. Any advice?!

Relationship OCD

Username: froggy123

Date posted: 4y ago

Anyone else have OCD about real life events and have lots of guilt over them? I know I shouldn’t but every time I seek reassurance from people (I’m trying to not do this) they tell me not to worry about it but my OCD tells me that they’re lying. Lol.

"Pure" OCD

Username: lollypop48

Date posted: 1y ago

ROCD

Does anyone else’s OCD take things and run with them? For example, my boyfriend got annoyed with me recently and responded kind of rudely to a question I asked him. I told him that wasn’t fair and he agreed and apologized immediately. But now I keep ruminating on it that maybe this is just him revealing his true self now that we’ve been together for a while. Maybe the real him is aggressive and he’s going to snap at me in the future and I’m going to be stuck in a relationship that is unhealthy! Also I’m fearing everyone reading this won’t believe me that my relationship is good and they’ll be judging me saying it’s not OCD. Struggling right now.

Relationship OCD

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