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- 2y
Trauma Bonding and OCD
My wife and I have been married for 5 years. We have 2 beautiful kids. She has autism and adhd but we are thinking she might have OCD as well. She has a history of abuse and is seeing a neurodivergent affirming therapist who has been doing parts therapy with her. I have ROCD. But thankfully through NOCD, I have been doing ERP and it’s really helped my ROCD. One of my fears that I’ve been working on is my wife being in love with her ex and leaving me. Well… guess what came up in her parts therapy… she learned some more abuse that had happened in her childhood and she realized she is still in love with her ex. To the point that she believed he and her were communicating through Spotify without sending each other music. Like she believes that he is adding specific songs to his playlists and thinking she will listen to it. She says it doesn’t make sense which she says is her autism. There are other delusions she’s believing too. She also was thinking of suicide so she is currently at an inpatient hospital. But we are wondering if that’s OCD. Like maybe that’s her ROCD and it’s to the point of her believing delusions. Or is that a trauma response? I’ve heard of trauma bonding relationships and I know they did bond over there trauma when they were together. I’m wondering if that’s coming up now since she is working on her trauma. As you can imagine, this is super hard for me. I love her so much. It’s so hard to be helping support her and her be unsure of being married to me. Any advice you have, please send it my way.