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Have you already done some exposures?
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What are somethings that helped you get better?? Also I’m happy you’re getting better!!
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I find that watching coming out videos on YouTube and reading lesbian coming out stories on websites on curve magazine.com have really created some good exposure for me
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http://www.curvemag.com whoops this is the link!
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Ok I’ve actually done both of those and they make my intrusive thoughts go crazyyyy. Sorry for all the questions but what are some of your compulsions? I’m trying to figure out some of my so that would really help!
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No worries I totally understand! My compulsions have changed over time but I would constantly check myself when talking to people, worried that I would be appearing like I was into them romantically, I would always obsess over whether or not my feelings of love for people of the same gender meant that I was gay, I would take “am I gay” quizzes like daily, watch YouTube videos of coming out stories and comparing them to my life to test myself and see if I was experiencing the same things as they were, looking at pictures of women on social media to test whether or not I found them attractive, just stuff like that ?
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I do a lot of checking, I always say to myself do I like that girl? Am I attracted to her? Things like that, or I will do it will the opposite sex. Like I’ll see a cute boy and notice him and then check to see if the feeling are real. Yesterday me and my mom were watching Frank Ocean perform and she was talking about how good looking he is and I thought the same but the whole time I was checking to make sure I actually felt the same and I wasn’t lying. I used to do a lot of tests, “am I gay” “how to know if you have hocd” just to prove to myself that I was fine. I’ve kind of stopped with the taking tests but I used to do it a lot. I do get urges to look stuff up a lot but I don’t let myself do it. Thank you for your help! That helped identify some of my compulsions!!❤️
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I completely know what that feeling is like I was just doing that the other day while watching a movie with Leonardo DiCaprio! When I was younger and don’t have hocd I would usually just think he was really attractive and stuff, but when I started questioning everything it’s almost like my “usual” feelings of attraction would go away and I would have to test myself, which was constant! I’m glad that you’re resisting the urge to do the tests, I know it can be really difficult! Of course! Reach out to me anytime, I don’t know anyone else personally with HOCD in my life so it’s always comforting to talk to someone who knows what it’s like- thank you!! :)?
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❤️we all just want it to be over already, but do not set a deadline for your recovery (e.g. "i give myself 3 months to get better") and let yourself go at your own pace ❤️accept that healing is a very, very non-linear process with highs and very dark lows.. it's a lifelong process for us those with ocd, when you stop suffering you start learning ! ❤️WITHOUT ruminating on this, identify the root of your obsessive themes. they hurt so much because they go after your deepest wounds. clearing out the fear or pain that stands at the base of your obsessions will help (e.g. my sexual ocd came as an emotional outlet for my inability to accept a new family member in my life) (e.g. my solipsism ocd came from the deep fear of being alone and abandoned) ❤️the truth will always surface. even if you have no hope anymore and not even asking for reassurance helps, put that last bit of your trust in the other people that are in good states of mind and who are trying to help you. remember that you're living by a distorted mind and if you can't trust your own brain, have trust in others. those who love you are your life net when you're down in the slumps. trust me. ❤️ocd can be caused by chemical imbalance. if you feel like you need it, don't be reluctant to try medication. it's important to have the correct dose and the correct meds. it may change a lot before finally being effective, but it can help A LOT. it was lifesaving for me. (I personally took 125 mg sertraline at 14 years old) ❤️cliche, but the exposure part of erp is in you already. we get exposed to relentless obsessions and terrors already by our minds, our part is the response prevention. throw yourself into the depths of uncertainty and fear by refusing to act upon your compulsions. any learned behavior can be unlearned, our brains are changing! 🧠 it does feel like we can't risk because we can't "know for sure" and we better be safe than sorry, right? well, screw this. unlearn these behavior and live life your own way. ❤️connect with other people with ocd. community is our pillar as humans, especially those communities who share our suffering. ❤️we tend to ask for reassurance a lot and other just reassure us because it's rational to them, not being aware thar it only causes us more pain as we have distoerted thinking. teach your loved ones to respond to your reassurance in a way that doesn't feed the cycle. (e.g. reassurance seeking- "hey, are you ABSOLUTELY SURE that I didn't hit an animal on the way back home??" ❌️wrong response- "no, you didn't, I already told you, I don't remember hearing or seeing anything!" ✅️better response- "I can see you are really distressed right now, why don't we go cook something together/watch a movie/paint together/etc.." ❤️keep your faith close to you. there is something bigger around us that surrounds us with love and takes care of us. even if you don't believe in a god, spirituality goes beyond religion. for me, this higher being was the sky, and everytime I saw the giant clouds I'd tell myself that they felt my emotions and they're watching over in my suffering. strangely enough, this pillar i built in the clouds was strong and really did give me a helping hand. who's to tell these connections we make are not real?
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Hi all, I deal with HOCD and been seeing a therapist for about 3.5 months. It has definitely got better but still affects me very much. Was wondering there is anyone out there who has dealt with HOCD as well and has recovered. I would love to message or even chat just see how your experience was and hear what was beneficial to you.
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Hey everyone, just wanted to post an honest update on where I’m at in my HOCD recovery. Right now, I'm stuck in what feels like a 24/7 spike — nonstop thoughts, intrusive sensations, identity doubts, and hyperfocus. The worst part? It feels real. Like I’ve “lost,” like I’ve accepted it, like I am gay. The thoughts don't feel like anxiety anymore — they feel like truth. I’ve been trying to do ERP, but the spike has been so constant I don’t even have to “do exposures” — the thoughts, feelings, and sensations are just there all day long. It’s like living inside an exposure. And it’s exhausting. BUT — here’s what I’ve been doing (and what I’m sticking to now): I say once: “These thoughts and feelings are welcome to stay for as long as they want.” I let the doubt, the feelings, the hyperfocus exist. I don’t check, test, or analyze — even when it screams at me. I live my life anyway — folding clothes, watching TV, eating, walking — with the storm in my head. Even when it feels 100% real. Even when I’m fully focused on it. I’ve stopped trying to feel better. I’m letting it all burn — and just not fixing it. It doesn’t feel good. It doesn’t feel right. It doesn’t feel like progress.
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