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@blazed How about the false attractions??? I see any pretty girl and my brain automatically goes like you like her? Imagine you date her

@Anonymous Do the same thing. Whenever I get false attraction to girls I’m just like “that’s great but idc, thanks for letting me know tho 😀👍”. 💀

@blazed yep I try:( I get so scared to date a guy and get married to him. I feel like I’m being a fraud and suppressing my true self :( what if it lasts years and never goes away… idk what to do especially when false attraction won’t ago. Is it real attraction or false? I want to be straight so bad. Why does my mind keep telling me bisexuality will suit me better? I don’t even have anxiety sometimes but still get false attractions ….. 🥹 sorry for the rant I’m so lonely

@Anonymous Everything you said is exactly what I experience too 🥲✋ just by telling me this I know it’s classic OCD; doubting yourself and wanting a concrete answer. Anything OCD tells you is irrelevant bc the content of your thoughts doesn’t matter—even your brain doesn’t understand it’s meaning; its logical response is turned off since its only focused on protecting you from harm. That’s why you can’t reason with OCD. I know how hard it is to navigate this theme but you’re never alone in this. You aren’t your thoughts and it’ll never dictate who you are 🫶🏽

@blazed Thank you 🥹 how long have you been suffering this theme … I never had a bf either and I have so many random crushes so now I feel like it’s including girls also

@Anonymous I’ve had this theme for over a year now. I haven’t had any irl relationships either but I always wanted a bf too ☹️ I don’t really experience false attraction anymore, but my attraction for men vanished for a long time

@blazed Omg a year ?? I can’t handle this theme for a year? How old are u if you don’t mind? Is ur attraction to only men back? How did you deal w the false attraction. Sorry so many qs!

@Anonymous It’s okay! I’m 19 now but I had OCD at 9/10. Unfortunately no, my attraction is slowly coming back but it’s still pretty faded rn. As for the false attraction, I started experiencing it towards one of my friends who I saw quite often. It was uncomfortable, but instead of avoiding her I continued spending time her and lived my life regardless. I also didn’t avoid attractive women on social media and whenever I started feeling triggered, I would lean into the discomfort and agree with the thoughts like saying she’s hot, pretty, beautiful etc. It was true that they were good-looking and that’s what scared me lol. But I learned that there’s different types of attraction, not only romantic or sexual!

@blazed You are so young 🥹 yeah my false attractions are legit everywhere and to any pretty female … how long have you been doing erp? I’m working w NOCD and it’s expensive as shit and I feel like it’s not working 😢

@Anonymous 🥲 how old are you now? I hope things get better with ERP, it’s such a challenge and I know, it’s so costly :( what kind of exposures do you have planned on your hierarchy? And I’ve been doing ERP for a few months. At first I felt discouraged bc it didn’t feel like it was working too but now I’m feeling better. It takes some time to get there so I wouldn’t worry too much about it

@blazed I’m scared it’s gonna make me convert to being bi and accept it?? Sometimes the false attractions are still there but no anxiety or dismcomfort so it makes it seem like I want it. I’m 24 gonna be 25 soon. Wasted 4 years of my life from COVID. How long have you been doing erp. My hierarchy is diff cus I have two themes (harm ocd and now SOOCD) and idk my triggers are … :(

@Anonymous I’m so sorry, you’ve been struggling for a long time 🥺 and that’s so interesting bc I had harm OCD and SOOCD at the same time too! I got over harm OCD though, and now I’m left with SOOCD but it’s difficult to tackle. For your triggers, you’ve mentioned that seeing attractive women makes you uncomfortable, so that’s one trigger. Perhaps you find the pride and bi flag triggering too? What about seeing lesbian couples and coming out stories? It can be tricky to identify your triggers, so I suggest thinking about what upsets you and causes and this theme pop up and feel worse.

@blazed Yeah… like I keep getting false attraction and I would see sorryyy girl and tell myself I’m attracted to her or I’m bisexual and it feels so real. When I say I’m straight it doesn’t sound right? Does this ever go away? Won’t erp make me accept I’m bisexual? I wanna be straight badly but idk how one gets rid of false attraction.

@blazed Like I still get attracted to boys but wonder why it’s forward girls now… are they actually false ugh? What if I’m being denial

@Anonymous No ERP helps rewire your brain so it no longer sees these thoughts and feelings as a threat. Acceptance is about acknowledging that the thoughts don’t mean anything, and still allowing it to be present with you in the moment. With OCD you also have to accept that you won’t know bc OCD is never satisfied with any answer you give it. So that’s why it doesn’t feel genuine when you say you’re straight, bc OCD is constantly doubting it. It doesn’t feel right for me either so you’re not alone. I chose to go unlabelled bc that’s how I lean into the uncertainty and not give OCD what it wants; certainty.

@blazed Thank you ♥️ when I don’t label myself it makes me feel like I’m “ open” to any genders because I’m bi? My brain won’t and now is making think and feel that liking one gender is wrong that I can like two….

@Anonymous You’re welcome! 🩷 and I know how you feel; it’s like you’re giving up your identity and are becoming the very thing you fear. That’s bc OCD isn’t used to you being uncertain, so it’ll act up in all sorts of ways. But the key is to ignore it and live your life as if you don’t have OCD.

@blazed I understand!! But idk how to date a guy when I constantly feel like I’m a fraud.. and my mind tells me I’m bisexual and the false attractions 😫😫😫😫

@Anonymous Date a guy anyway! Do the opposite of what OCD tells you. Do it scared. You never know what may happen.