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@jhbishop80@gmail.com Hi I live in the uk, is he a therapist on this app?

@daisy1728383 - Yes he is online in USA. Based in Minnesota I believe. Very nice guy. I didnt follow what he was telling me cause I'm a hard head ocd lol. But see if you can get with him. Lot of experience.

@daisy1728383 - I didnt follow his orders BUT I eventually did and overcame my ocd. You will too but you MUST take on ocd like the devil.

@daisy1728383 - Wait my fault. No he isn't on this app

Just Google him

He works for himself.

@jhbishop80@gmail.com Okay thank you what’s his rates of pay also what sort of ocd do you have

@daisy1728383 - Not sure about his rates but he will work with you on a sliding scale. I have perfectionism ocd. Sometimes called 'just right' ocd. Really messed up my life. I'm 43 so when I was a kid and even through my 20s we didn't have ocd specialists like today nor did we have the internet like today. I went to probably 5 or 6 professionals and none diagnosed me with ocd. Partly because I hid it well and Partly because they weren't trained in ocd.

@daisy1728383 - I take 20 MG of Paxil because I have depression along with the ocd and it makes a world of difference. Need patience with medication. There are different ocd types but ocd I'd ocd. You have to habitualize your brain into living with anxiety and uncertainty. Sounds crazy to you right now but it works. Therapist will explain. It's actually very interesting how it all works . You kinda have to change your personality or become a new person. Chris used to tell me he'd have someone with contamination ocd take a crap and not wipe themselves. Funny right

@jhbishop80@gmail.com Hi I have been to thearpy and they made me do all sorts of bizarre things to  condition, my anxiety to a high level so small things don’t stress me so much but what I’m struggling with is I’m still avoiding any sort of romance with my gf we don’t kiss we don’t do dates we feel flat and distant I avoid everything and I feel like if I did try them things it would feel so so wrong

@daisy1728383 - I am assuming you are young? They will make you do all kinds of bizarre things. To you they are bizarre but you MUST do them if advised by a trained therapist.

@jhbishop80@gmail.com 23 and I did and it helped to a certain extent but 6 months later I’m still obsessing or checking feelings and avoiding stuff

@daisy1728383 - Let me give you a quick story. I've had perfectionism ocd since far back as i can remember. Elementary school. My grades had to be perfect or I would cry like I was being beaten. Then once I hit teen years I wanted to be a perfect athlete. Stronger faster etc. Loved baseball. I lifted weights until I blew out my shoulder. Ruined playing high school baseball. Made me very depressed and anxious because I couldn't be a great baseball player. Once my should got better I got worse with ocd weightlifting. Hurt my body even worse. I've had multiple surgeries because of the weightlifting ocd. It was a horrible obsession. A couple years ago I broke my ankle very badly because my ocd was in full throttle and I was popping antidepressants and went out and got drunk and blacked our and fell and broke the ankle. I couldn't go the gym for a year and during that time was when I was exposed to a life without going to the gym. I got habituated into a life without being able to exercise. That's what they mean when they talk about exposure and response. Exposure to what YOU fear the most. I still wish I could go back in time and have my old body but I live every day with the body I have. I don't have panic attacks anymore. I just live with what I have and enjoy other more important things like relationships and my job and just having some fun.

@daisy1728383 - We all have unique obsessions and compulsions that match our personalities however it's still all ocd. You must expose yourself to what you fear the most. Doesn't mean if you are afraid of fire you light yourself on fire. Don't do anything dangerous. A lot of ocd people have sexual thoughts or violent thoughts. So go have fun with your gf and expose yourself. Go have fun with whoever you want. Expose yourself.

@jhbishop80@gmail.com What would u think is a good exposure with my gf to stop avoiding all them things I said above and to feel less flat. My thesprist said u can’t just do a little exposure you need to do it to the extreme but I can’t think of any good ones

@daisy1728383 - What is it that you are afraid of? Be honest.

@jhbishop80@gmail.com So my ocd started of when she had an abortion I wanted the kid and I remember my exact thought is before I knew she didn’t want the kid is me picturing her giviging birth and I haven’t been totially honest with her about things (I spoke to a girl a week before we got together ) so ever since then my ocd came back after 8 years (used to latch onto my mum having bad thooght of her dying ect) but this time it was aimed at my gf the way she looked checking how I feel avoiding looking at girls for a whole year confessing if I thooght anyone was better looking then her ect ect it was honestly all day everyday after thearpy I got a lot better no confessing ocd dosent bother as half as it used to but now because I have avoided kissing dates ect (idk why I do maybe because I feel like I have truma towards her because my ocd was so bad and aimed at her) that we now feel flat because I can’t allow myself to do them things with her or feel close as if we do go on a date I’ll feel let down that there was no chemistry and if I did kiss her it would feel wrong so I avoid these things all together to save myself from the anxiety and I’m so used to not being so lovey dovey with her now when we used to be romantic at the start of our relationship for about a year (ocd started 3 months into our relationship) we have been together 2.5 years now and I’m so sick off it feeling flat and thinning there’s someone better out there for me and now that I can finally look at girls again I’m none stop looking and feel chesmistry with every girl but her. My ocd was and is basically about loyalty and not wanting bad thoughts towards my girl friend. So I’m just trying to think of good erp to feel less flat and get closer ect

@daisy1728383 - Sorry accidentally posted that

@jhbishop80@gmail.com My fear was and is sometimes if I have been unloyal I would think even looking at a girl would feel like I cheated

@jhbishop80@gmail.com I tried one it made me worse and very suicidal, I don’t belive I need meds because I have made massive improvements ocd would bother me all day long now it’s probs once or twice a week and I can get over it soon enough I’m on about the damage it has done to my relationship and how to stop avoiding and shutting off towards her good erp for that

@daisy1728383 - What exposures does your therapist want you to do?

@jhbishop80@gmail.com She made me do things for social anxiety so made me walk through a busy town dressed like a girl doing all sorts she said ocd is all treated the same u can’t go around the anxiety u need to go straight through it

@daisy1728383 - So you are a man and you're saying the therapist had you dress as a woman walking through town? Why is that?

@jhbishop80@gmail.com To set my anxiety bar high so little things wouldn’t bother me as I was going through bad social anxiety back then and she said it’s all treated the same. My therapist was the no 1 ocd one in the uk and on this morning but I do feel like I need more theapry or help learning about relationships ect

Whatever your greatest fear or fears are you must expose yourself to that however your therapist suggests. They are professionals and know about this stuff. You can't run or hide from these fears. As an obsessive compulsive you are going to want to perform compulsive behaviors to neutralize the anxiety but that just continues the cycle. It takes a long time to reach a sub-clinical state. It could take years. But you MUST continue to expose yourself to what you fear the most. Ocd wraps itself around what YOU fear the most.