Relationship ocd

Has anyone been struggling with their partners or family members in term of their ocd? My boyfriend and I have been going through a rough patch especially since I got diagnosed with OCD. And I try so hard not to let my compulsions and reassurance seeking compulsions come onto him. Especially lately any comment I make or question I make that has some revelance to my OCD, somehow triggers him and causes a whole argument. I try not to cause the argument or even make comments anymore because of how I feel he will respond. And I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m trying so hard not to even say anything while he is rambling on AFTER the fact, that I said “something about my ocd.” Because I don’t want to give into it and I’m practicing so hard on my ERP’s and not giving into compulsion. But he is making is so hard for me and I don’t know what to do. He said he still wants to be with me and what not. I’m just over it, and for once I’d like if someone could support me instead of going against me. Please let me know if someone else is dealing with this.

jhbock

Date posted: 2y

I’m really sorry your going through this right now, it must be so hard. Maybe he’s feeling scared and doesn’t want to acknowledge it because he doesn’t know what to do or what OCD is about. When I was first diagnosed my dad was very anxious and scared and it came out as deflection. Maybe talking to him and sending him videos that explain what OCD is will help him understand. I hope you find piece of mind soon. Best wishes and hang in there!

Yasmin2398

Date posted: 2y

@jhbock It is really hard, thank you I appreciate your kind words! I always try to explain it to him or send him videos that my therapist sends me for family members or spouses specifically. But doesn’t seem like he listens or cares to watch them since he’s so worked up in his own life, so he doesn’t understand what I’m going through. But yes I’ll definitely try, it’s hard when it gets to a point when you’re feeling like the only one putting effort into helping progress and ease ocd compulsions you know?

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Date posted: 2y

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Yasmin2398

Date posted: 2y

@Star1920 Hey girly. Wow that’s a lot I’m so sorry you’re going through that! I wish my boyfriend just simply understand what i was going through. I’ve tried to talk to my therapist about it, she recommended i communication about it but seems like nothing helps. I’m not sure what to do anymore. But thank you I appreciate you sharing your experience! Hope everything goes well for you too.

Yasmin2398

Date posted: 2y

@Star1920 I do try to talk to him about it and seems like he just doesn’t understand the thoughts i have or the severity of my compulsions. Like to him it may seem like whatever bc he doesn’t struggle with any contamination thoughts or compulsions at all, (since he’s a normal person.) so it’s difficult for him to understand and support me through it. I’m just at a loss.

Yasmin2398

Date posted: 2y

Omg i didn’t think about writing it down! Does it help with your ocd attacks and compulsions?

Canes12345!

Date posted: 22w

My life with ocd

I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.

bubbsle

Date posted: 21w

Tips for Anxiety

Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.

lulu2

Date posted: 12w

Relationship OCD - PLEASE HELP

Hey guys, I’m reaching out in a pretty weak spot of desperation. I feel so insane and so sick of my mind recently, I’m completely drained from my mind. I’ve had such bad spikes of RCOD in my relationship of 1.5 years , which kills me because I truly want nothing more than to just be his peace and for us to work out. I love him more than anything and I would do anything for him. I feel like the pressure I placed on making sure I was “perfect” was so counter productive becuase instead I find myself doing everything wrong. I tell myself not to think of the wrong thing, then I think of the wrong thing, then I feel so guilty, and it plagues my mind for days. I feel so guilty it makes me feel detached and like I’m a bad girlfriend. I feel so bad for always burdening him with my anxieties and my “wrong thoughts” becuase he doesn’t deserve it, he’s so amazing. Recently, I began overthinking if I “love him” which I KNOW is so silly because when I’m calm, I laugh that I even got so worried , but when my anxiety creeps in, it feels so debilitating. I spiral and then try to prove to myself that I do love him , which then makes things in that moment feel “forced” because I’m acting out of intent to win the battle in my head. My RCOD has been a persistent issue, but this particular theme is pretty new and I hate it. I feel like I’ve been placing pressure on myself to overly appreciate him and it’s so counterproductive. I feel so bad because I told him about everything and he now thinks I don’t love him. Which is so wrong. I just want this to be fixed. Sometimes I feel like he’d be better off with a girl that isn’t such a headache and wouldn’t drain him all of the time but at the same time , I could never accept him being with anyone but me. Also, I have seen a psychoglist but it just didn’t feel right and I hated vocalising my thoughts because I felt it gave them more power - it feels like the only person I can truly be raw with about this stuff is my bestfriend. If anyone has any tips , PLEASE help me.

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