- Date posted
- 2y
Moral OCD comes before my partner
Sometimes it's hard to differentiate between PTSD and OCD. I am very specific about rules and I was taught my whole life to always abide by rules. I feel like sometimes my sense of what is "right" can overpower my loyalty and it can hurt my relationships. My partner seems to have a very privileged life, where his parents ALWAYS back him up and always support his side of everything. My parents would straight up tell me if I was wrong in any given situation, and I feel like this helped me learn lessons. Examples: Last night, my partner downloaded a soft aim bot in a competitive FPS game. He claimed everyone else uses cheats, so that should excuse his use of cheats. Being a gamer myself, the existence of cheaters doesn't bother me too much because I have some sense of karma, and I know I am gaining more from any experience in which I am honest. His account got banned and he was really upset last night about it. I kind of had an attitude that he got what he deserved. I hope every cheater in every situation is caught because rules are important to me and without them, life would be even more chaotic then it already is. He was upset that I didn't have any sympathy and made me feel like I was doing something wrong for not agreeing with him. I told him if he appeared to have learned a lesson (don't cheat) and if he showed that he was sorry for his actions and felt bad, I probably would feel sorry. The vibes I got from him were that he was more upset that he was caught. My OCD brain constantly wonders where his sense of entitlement comes from. I wonder if he just has that entitlement from being a white male, if his parents just always back him up, if he is a sociopath, if it's normal and I am just traumatized, if it's normal and I'm a sociopath for not empathizing, and a hundred other possibilities. His sense of entitlement mixed with my strong sense of justice and equality ends up with me putting my morals before him in situations like these. Any insight?