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Intrusive urges
Can someone explain to me why I’m constantly having intrusive urges or intentions? I have a constant feeling of my brain almost wanting to “act” on these thoughts! I need advice! Medications? What?
Can someone explain to me why I’m constantly having intrusive urges or intentions? I have a constant feeling of my brain almost wanting to “act” on these thoughts! I need advice! Medications? What?
Hello. I'm having intrusive urges as well. From what I've read, this constant feeling of your brain almost wanting to act on the intrusive thoughts is false, because in the moment, you think of an action so your brain alarms your body to get ready to have this action - It's a natural act of the brain so you don't need to worry. It might feel real but remember that they are INTRUSIVE urges. It can be scary as hell, but you got this.
If it feels like you are constantly having intrusive urges or intentions, it is probably because you are doing everything else but ride them out. This could be ruminating, researching, checking, etc. I can’t offer too much advice, because I still have so much to learn myself. I haven’t done a specific form of therapy for OCD, but I’m working on it. I will say, I was on fluoxetine for OCD and I feel like it did help. I did start on Lexipro (before I knew I had OCD) and it did not work for my OCD. However, with medication, everyone is different. Not only with different medications, but dosages too. It’s best to pair up with a therapist or psychiatrist and see what they recommend!
An urge is like any other trigger. You have to avoid compulsions around it. Including ruminating, judging, admitting, reassurance, googling, checking… Just say some form of agreeance or non judgment thought like ‘wow, great’ or ‘whatever’ and try to attach no meaning to it. Sit there, it will pass after some time if you can avoid other compulsions. All the triggers pass — urges, thoughts, sensations, feelings… if we let them. Ask your therapist about urges as a trigger.
@Anonymous I keep thinking what if I was sexually abused then I said is that why I’m attracted to triggers. But I’m not, am I saying that because I feel false attraction and I believe it’s true when it’s not
I have this issue where I can vividly imagine hurting others or animals or say things OUTLOUD that may be disruptive or disrespectful becauss I am overstimulated by soemthing someone is doing or saying. So, Over stimulation with people and animals and things they do can be a big part of it, Sometimes I will see soemthing that bothers me about someone and I just want to either fix it or hit them because they make me so overstimulated I just want to hit the problem. I never act on these things obviously but SOMETIMES it leaks out and I hit my hands together to calm the urges. I really don’t like imagining hurting others but when I get mad I obsess over what I would or could do to them or might or would’ve in a situation in the past, had it planned out differently. I keep thinking about it and thinking about it and then get upset with myself because I know it’s wrong to be thinking about hurting others and it worries me I may someday act on something impulsive and harm someone. Sometimes I cry about it because I never want to hurt people. Really I don’t. Most of these thoughts happen in milliseconds and I have a second part in my brain like a THOUGHT processor/auto corrective thinking reminding me I can’t do that because it’s morally wrong and I am too good of a person to do that and there is nothing to stress over.
I am struggling right now with intrusive harm urges. They feel real and it feels like I am going to act any second. It feels like I have to hold myself back, which is a scary thoughts. I am trying so hard not to compulse, but does anyone have tips on what they do in these situations?
I need advice for intrusive thoughts. I used to feel like I could handle them. They weren’t nearly as bad as the things that related to my actual life. But now, I’m suffering. I haven’t had a sexual experience in over a year that didn’t involve constant intrusive thoughts. Most are somehow related to kids and I keep chasing off the thoughts but it’s so bad. I know you’re supposed to ignore them but I don’t know how I can just ignore that and continue what I’m doing. But they’re coming on stronger. I had one earlier I could not get rid of just as things finished so the thought came on strongly just before my orgasm hit and now I feel absolutely disgusting. I hated the thought and I know it’s not me and it was not enjoyable but it still feels like I was getting off to it. I feel sick. I’m so fucking tired of these thoughts. They’re in my every day life too and it’s all the time. I just want it to stop but ignoring it feels so wrong. What should I do?
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