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Intrusive urges
Can someone explain to me why I’m constantly having intrusive urges or intentions? I have a constant feeling of my brain almost wanting to “act” on these thoughts! I need advice! Medications? What?
Can someone explain to me why I’m constantly having intrusive urges or intentions? I have a constant feeling of my brain almost wanting to “act” on these thoughts! I need advice! Medications? What?
Hello. I'm having intrusive urges as well. From what I've read, this constant feeling of your brain almost wanting to act on the intrusive thoughts is false, because in the moment, you think of an action so your brain alarms your body to get ready to have this action - It's a natural act of the brain so you don't need to worry. It might feel real but remember that they are INTRUSIVE urges. It can be scary as hell, but you got this.
If it feels like you are constantly having intrusive urges or intentions, it is probably because you are doing everything else but ride them out. This could be ruminating, researching, checking, etc. I can’t offer too much advice, because I still have so much to learn myself. I haven’t done a specific form of therapy for OCD, but I’m working on it. I will say, I was on fluoxetine for OCD and I feel like it did help. I did start on Lexipro (before I knew I had OCD) and it did not work for my OCD. However, with medication, everyone is different. Not only with different medications, but dosages too. It’s best to pair up with a therapist or psychiatrist and see what they recommend!
An urge is like any other trigger. You have to avoid compulsions around it. Including ruminating, judging, admitting, reassurance, googling, checking… Just say some form of agreeance or non judgment thought like ‘wow, great’ or ‘whatever’ and try to attach no meaning to it. Sit there, it will pass after some time if you can avoid other compulsions. All the triggers pass — urges, thoughts, sensations, feelings… if we let them. Ask your therapist about urges as a trigger.
@Anonymous I keep thinking what if I was sexually abused then I said is that why I’m attracted to triggers. But I’m not, am I saying that because I feel false attraction and I believe it’s true when it’s not
I need advice for intrusive thoughts. I used to feel like I could handle them. They weren’t nearly as bad as the things that related to my actual life. But now, I’m suffering. I haven’t had a sexual experience in over a year that didn’t involve constant intrusive thoughts. Most are somehow related to kids and I keep chasing off the thoughts but it’s so bad. I know you’re supposed to ignore them but I don’t know how I can just ignore that and continue what I’m doing. But they’re coming on stronger. I had one earlier I could not get rid of just as things finished so the thought came on strongly just before my orgasm hit and now I feel absolutely disgusting. I hated the thought and I know it’s not me and it was not enjoyable but it still feels like I was getting off to it. I feel sick. I’m so fucking tired of these thoughts. They’re in my every day life too and it’s all the time. I just want it to stop but ignoring it feels so wrong. What should I do?
I deal pretty heavily with this. The last couple days, I’ve had what I think are urges. Something pops into my head intrusively and then what stems from that is me WANTING to just indulge in it even though it’s gross. I get worried bc I used to struggle w thoughts about my dad for a long time until eventually I just purposely thought of him while self pleasuring and got off to it. While that’s something I did, it is NOT me. It all stemmed from my mental health declining a couple years back, I was never this way before. So I get worried that it almost happened or might happen with my pocd cuz I could never live with myself if it did.
Earlier I had what felt like an urge but I’m not sure. I’ve had urges before but this felt different as the object was in front of me (not intentional btw) , I’ve been quite stressed lately and my OCD is latching on to that. I had an urge to harm and within that I had like 2/3 intrusive images that came to mind, I couldn’t rationalise with it, I felt “stuck” when I came out of it I felt scared immediately was trying to work out why I’d even think of doing that & was very upset. A while after I keep getting thoughts like “say your goodbyes it won’t be long until you act out” I cried to my boyfriend and told him everything. How do I know if this was intent vs intrusive urge?
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