- Username
- River_thefish
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Fear
I have a talent for singing and it’s been what my life has been about since forever. My religious mother once told me “you should only use it for God since he gave it to you, if you don’t you’ll be punished.” and “one day you’ll wake up and your voice will be gone, and you’ll be like everyone else.” For the next 9 years I went on to be scared of everything I did, wondering if that would be the reason I would lose my voice and my talent and then I’d have nothing and BE nothing. In my little 7 year old mind, I interpreted that as “you’re nothing without it and God can choose to make you nothing if you mess up.” So now, I live in constant fear that one day God will punish me by taking away the one thing that makes me ‘something’. Today, my little brother started singing and I could hear that it was good. For some reason I began to get so scared that I had a panic attack, thinking I was going to be replaced. I have severe abandonment issues so I always thought I had to preform or do something amazing to deserve love, and singing was that thing. I was so scared that this fear I felt made me narcissistic I began to shove my own feelings down in a way to deny it and prove that thought wrong. I’m not sure what I should do, I don’t know if it’s normal to feel like this, but I feel like an absolute monster for feeling this way about it. Now my OCD won’t let me rest and keeps telling me that I’m such a narcissist for being “jealous” even though I’m just terrified that I’m going to be forgotten. Has anyone else ever been in a situation like this?? Can anyone help me? I’m just at a loss right now.