ROCD and being extremely triggered

So I have been in a WONDERFUL place lately. I love my boyfriend so fricken much. I was bragging about him to my friend, and how he is my world and no matter what I know he is my person and I choose him. Tell me why it somehow turned into her dissecting our relationship and why we aren't married yet and why we don't have kids yet. Talking about how there's got to be a deeper reason behind why he is waiting and how I am ready but he isn't. SHE LITERALLY HAD SOMETHING NEGATIVE TO SAY FOR EVERYTHING POSITIVE I SAID. She is aware I have ocd but she doesn't fully understand that when I say something is triggering me that it is TRIGGERING ME. She doesn't understand how hard I had to fight my way out of that dark cloud that ocd had me in. She even brought up something I said last summer when my ocd hit HUGE and was at its most terrifying place. I had mentioned how I never lived alone because we got together The year after high scool, and I was kind of mourning the fact that Id never have that, but that was also weeks of rumination piling on top of the other and my compulsion of avoidance. I was in a depressive haze of ocd and I didn't even realize it. To bring up such a TERRIFYING THING when I am telling you I am triggered, like UGH. I am now at a place where yes, its true I never had that girl vs the world life where I had an apartment of my own and all that, but my life now with him is so much better, and is the goal I would be working towards anyway even if I had not moved in with him at that age. I KNOW HE IS MY PERSON. I am not giving him an ultimatum, or a time limit, I am not forcing his hand, I love him enough to have patience for when the time is right for marriage and kids. We have been together for just under six years, but we are still very young and everyone's timeline is different. I am not going to leave him for the one difference we have and it is all to do with time. He wants marriage and kids to we talk about it all the time. However he wants to join the police academy, and he wants to impress my father, etc. I have told him countless times I love him the way he is and ill marry him no matter what, but he is old fashioned and that is okay. We are bestfriends. I don't want anyone else. I choose him. I have chose him. And ill choose him over and over again, despite what ocd says or tries to make a big deal of. He doesn't abuse me, he doesn't yell at me, he doesn't try to hurt me, he takes care of me in every way. Just because I want a ring and a baby and he wants to get a few things sorted before that happens does not mean I should leave. I promise I am not trying to self reassure myself. I am just painting a picture of this situation. It is just extremely frustrating when you tell someone they are triggering you and then they continue to talk about something that is a TRIGGER. This is why I purposely don't discuss deep relationship stuff with people who don't know me and Steven, or dont have ocd, because they don't get it. they just don't. I CHOOSE HIM. I FEEL THE FEAR OF OCD AND I LIVE ANYWAY!