Its become noticeable to me how a lot of my issues come down to me not being able to hold thing’s lightly. I take things deep and personally all the time. Its also hard for me to live in the present moment. Any book recommendations that talk about this?
It says ocd Conqueror, I have hocd. Pls tell me it gets better
@Anonymous Yes it does. I know I’m on this app, but my OCD has reduced by a lot. I take medication now and can go to some things and actually enjoy them. Im able to tell when a specific “feeing” signals that my ocd might be rearing its head, and stop it before it grows. I’ve done a lot of ERP and gotten clarity from it. Its not perfect, but its better. Any progress is worth it
@rooty tooty I have hocd😞 so much stuff is going on I feel like I’ve lost all attraction to girls, my sex drive is gone, I feel attracted to guys when I’m not. I get images of me with that guy or any guy and it jus makes me wanna scream and shout. I used to be able to combat it before by compulsion. But because my sex drive is gone, straight porn don’t do it for me no more. Pls tell me how I can stop this pls
@Anonymous Is someone or something putting pressure on you to figure out your sexuality? At one point I started to think “oh im in an extremely anxious state of mind, i am going to not trust my feelings when Im triggered because it could be a false alarm”. Then sit with the anxiety until it goes away. Over time, as you sit with it, you get less anxious and get more clarity Which is why I ask if someone is putting pressure on you for any reason. If not, then take it easy. Maybe there is no reason to know your sexuality today or tomorrow or the next week or month or year. And whatever answer you get in a state of extreme anxiety is usually catastrophizing. You usually get real answers when you feel calmer- so turn down the urgency on this. No one gets hurt by your picking apart your mind and attraction but yourself (and hopefullly not a partner if youre single)
@rooty tooty I’m in a 9 month rs with my girlfriend. I’m not gay at all. I was so happy until I got these thoughts again. I had hocd in 2021 but it went away in 2022 and for that year and a half I was so happy. I was into girls loving my life attracted to many females and loved sexual encounters with em and desired em. Now it’s come back in August and has ruined my life. I feel like I don’t love my girl anymore when I love her more than anything. I want to marry her and have kids w her. Pls tel me it gets better. I want her and only her. Not a guy ever it makes me feel anxiety and disgusted because ik I’m not into that stuff.
@Anonymous Maybe it would help to approach this as treating rocd instead of hocd. I wonder if it came back because now someone matters to you who being gay would affect, if that makes sense. So instead of treating ocd alone, treat rocd too
@rooty tooty That makes so much sense😭 wow I didn’t see it like that at all. I think I have both of em cuz hocd affects me more but it links into rocd too. I did not see it like that and it makes sense because hocd must’ve came back when I thought nuffin can affect this rs between me n her. But it’s jus bad now because I feel no attraction to girls because of hocd, and it feels iffy now. Also my sex drive is completely destroyed as I feel nothing
@Anonymous It might help to accept that right now it feels iffy with no sex drive, but to say you won’t do anything about that until your OCD is in a better place. Cos OCD tends to cloud how we really feel about things. I know some people may say that’s reassurance, but not exactly, because I’m not saying i know exactly what you’ll feel, but that normalcy comes back if you treat the OCD instead of trying to figure out if youre gay or get your sex drive back (which also tends to get lower the more pressure we put on it). Tldr; it can help to say you won’t make any decisions nor buy what your mind is saying until you’ve treated your ocd to a good place. States of anxiety and ocd are liars that cloud our judgment. I know theres advice out there for how to communicate rocd without hurting a partners feelings too
@rooty tooty I think ima focus on my hocd as that’s been my worst enemy. Rocd links into these hocd intrusive thoughts so once I can battle hocd I think rocd will calm down gradually. That’s what I’ve strted to do noww. Leaving it to uncertainty. “Maybe, maybe not” it scares me a lot but I know I have to go through this discomfort
PS for the others who liked, i ended up getting the book How to stubbornly refuse to make yourself miserable
Today I've let myself go down a huge rabbit hole regarding this phrase and it's stressing me out. Sometimes, yes, it is that deep. But other times, it really isn't. I keep finding myself torn between these two ideals. I've been seeing all these videos regarding the rise of anti-intellectualism and the anti-woke mob, all that. These videos make me extremely worried about cancel culture and moral guilt, and they had me rethinking every morally wrong, gross, questionable thing or thought I ever had. I saw many comments saying that yes everything is that deep and it feels like my mind is on constant security and asking myself "what would the internet think about the things I've thought of or may have done?" On one hand, I feel like if I say "it's not that deep", I feel like a hypocrite or a bad person or an idiot. But on the other hand if I say "it is that deep", my OCD begins to spiral and analyze everything about myself. It's not healthy to overanalyze everything but it's also not healthy to ignore bad things. It's very stressful Does anyone relate to this?
Hey, I’ve been trying to grow in my Catholic faith, but my ocd makes it very hard. I read a passage about a saint going through a great ordeal and start panicking that I need to give up everything and be martyred painfully. I seem to always hyperfocus on unhelpful book passages that make me afraid of God and see Him as a tyrant. I admire those who can read others words on faith, but I get suicidal, self harm, or turn away from God because I get sucked in so deep. That’s the obsessive part of ocd. Do you have any tips on how to get past this?
This morning I was thinking (and talking) to myself about the various issues I have and I noticed how much I mull over these same issues. Even talking to myself, I replay the same problem and loop my responses and ideas about the issue over and over again, wondering if I'm doing the right thing. It reminds me of how we look in the fridge for a snack and, finding nothing, we walk off and come back to look again as if food is magically going to appear 😂 Except I know I can always go to the store. With rumination, I'm trying to make sense of something that is missing key points. I try to plan for every possiblity, but in the end, I still have no idea what will happen. I realized is that my issues have something in common: they are over situations that are BEYOND MY CONTROL. Rather than accepting, I attempt to affect them in what little ways I can, pretty much unsuccessfully and not worth all the effort. Wouldn't it be nice to redirect all that energy into something more productive?
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