Mental breakdown

My boyfriend left me at the beginning of the year because he couldn’t handle my constant paragraphs or hours and hours long of conversations over my intrusive thoughts. Which I do understand, it all revolved around sexual/relationship/Pocd/a lot more… it began to affect his mental health and well being.. I’ve started doing it again after he’s coke back, multiple times, in the past 2 days I’ve done it twice. He told me he cannot handle this and it’s affecting our relationship. Even when he’s standing there telling me please I don’t need to hear this. Or has told me countless times he understands and trusts me and knows I have ocd, I just keep pushing my boundaries with him. I feel so shit I literally have a whole mental breakdown hitting myself in the face and screaming and crying my eyes out and more if I can’t confess at times. Ocd is the most horrible thing I’ve ever been through. Can anyone give me advice on how to stop confessing? Can anyone give me some ERP techniques for my types of ocd. I’m actually so lost

Anon1020

Date posted: 1y

That being said, I don’t know what to and not tell you because my boyfriend gave me reassurance. But after going through treatment I realized that was reassuring and I didn’t need it.

Anon1020

Date posted: 1y

I don’t want to give you reassurance, but friends, family, and significant others who know about your ocd with support you

Anon1020

Date posted: 1y

Have you talked to family or close friends about this

EDK

Date posted: 1y

I been thru the same thing with hitting myself for not being in touch with reality…but I stood my ground and did erp on my own and I’m much better now some tips that helped me a lot is dealing with anxiety and not getting reassurance or doing compulsions no matter how hard it is it will get better !! I definitely recommend reading the book unwire my ocd brain it helped me a lot

SadUnicorn3 🦄

Date posted: 1y

@EDK What are some erp techniques you have done? Just curious and what sort of themes do u have

EDK

Date posted: 1y

@SadUnicorn3 I let the thought flow with me and technically not pay any mind and do my things that i love sometimes it stays there for weeks and sometimes not even minutes but since I got better thoughts go away way faster . I had set backs but you can’t give up no matter how back you fall. Plus you can’t force the thought to go away and do things as you know i think more of reality . Let the anxiety sit there with you and just continue on bc it will get way easier . The main theme I deal with is my boyfriend dying or me hurting him like leaving something in the food or his health not being right

SadUnicorn3 🦄

Date posted: 1y

I don’t know what’s wrong with me

SadUnicorn3 🦄

Date posted: 1y

Yeah I speak to my mum a lot. I used to speak to my partner heaps and he has really put up with so much. I wish I could tell u the amount he’s had to read or hear about with my intrusions. He used to always give me reassurance but it got to a point where it had been a year almost every single day multiple times a day, I had no control, the only way I could possibly feel better was through confession. It’s not healthy

Anon1020

Date posted: 1y

@SadUnicorn3 I hear you and that is beyond thought for all parties involved. Do you have a therapist you trust and could maybe bring your partner into the conversation? I know it’s beyond scary. I am in the process of doing the same but it’s so worth it

SadUnicorn3 🦄

Date posted: 1y

He wouldn’t want to attend sessions as hes literally already heard it all and understands me even when ocd convinces me he doesn’t…

Canes12345!

Date posted: 21w

My life with ocd

I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.

bubbsle

Date posted: 20w

Tips for Anxiety

Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.

Secretidentity

Date posted: 18w

Please please send advice

I had to do a new exposure with my therapist two weeks ago involving my boyfriend where I had to share some of my intrusive thoughts and I know that it hurt him to hear some of them I could see it in his eyes and now I’m terrified he’s going to leave me my ocd isn’t the worst it’s ever been but it’s now the worst it’s been in a while and I’m back to doing one of the compulsions I had completely stopped and now idk what to do. I feel like I’m in this never ending cycle of doing really bad then doing really good. I just want my ocd gone I want to be normal again and not obsess ever my relation anymore. Sorry for the rant I’m just exhausted from my ocd and feel super depressed and I think it’s from my ocd. I just feel like I’m spiraling

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