SOOCD

I am in the process of dating a guy. It just feels right with him and deep down I know the feelings are there - my brain now tells me all the time that I’m lying to him, I’m lying to myself, I’m not allowed to tell my friends about him because I’m one big liar. It also tells me that I actually like women and not men to the extent I’m believing all those thoughts. I just cried because it felt real so I did some mental compulsions to make sure it’s still him I have feelings for. It’s all one big downward spiral today… Does anyone experiencing SOOCD during a relationship? 🥲

Username: AnonymousestiAnonymousesti

Date posted: 1y ago

If it feels good just go with it, dont ask yourself too many questions. I dont want to give you reassurance but if you didnt like men, you wouldnt feel good at all about it and you would be disgusted.

Username: sara_0209sara_0209

Date posted: 1y ago

It’s gotten so bad today that when I look him in the eyes I might start crying, I feel so so so guilty

Username: anonymous1315anonymous1315

Date posted: 1y ago

I’ve been in a long term relationship (over 5 years) and recently started struggling with so-ocd. I don’t know if this is helpful, but I remind myself I wouldn’t be so worried about these thoughts if I didn’t care/have feelings for my partner, that’s why the thoughts are so scary because they feel threatening to my relationship which I care about. It sounds like things feel right, so let the uncertainty be there and move forward with your intentions, it’s not easy but you got this.

Username: meep.meepmeep.meep

Date posted: 1y ago

I struggle with this too and my partner and I are going on a year and a half 💜 my OCD hasn't gone away but ERP, and letting the uncertainty be there, and trying to make decisions not solely based on how I feel are a few things that have helped me

Username: sara_0209sara_0209

Date posted: 1y ago

Thank u. On some days I can put those thoughts aside easily and today - for example - they are so imminent that I actually believe them (even though deep down I know it’s not true, it just sounds so irrational 🥲). I don’t want reassurance but what if they are really true? What if they feel real because if is real. When thinking about this my guilt is just over the top and I feel like I do not deserve him

Username: Meg99Meg99

Date posted: 1y ago

Also struggling with this, have had a good few days but today is really bad :(

Username: OCDwho?

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

Hi! Anyone dealing with SO OCD and have a partner? I am having the hardest time with this. The thoughts and feelings feel so real and scary but there’s moments where I have felt love and attraction for my boyfriend, but right now it feels so hard to believe that was true.

Username: kytalker

Date posted: 1y ago

Help

Hi everyone! I just wanted to see if anyone else felt the way that I did about something related to SO-OCD… I’m finally discovering that I might have this sub genre of OCD and have had it for a very long time. I have always felt awkward around other women especially in more intimate situations (like changing in the same room, laying in bed together or giving compliments about looks). All of this hit me like a ton of bricks when I got into a relationship with my boyfriend 2 years ago and our sex life started to decline after about 9 months of us being together. It makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and I obsess over finding out why I have grown not attracted to him sexually. Am I a lesbian? Am I just depressed? Am I falling out of love with him? Was I ever in love with him? The list goes on and my obsession with it grows stronger. I’m so scared I will have to break up with him because I do love him and love spending time with him. I’m scared to start ERP therapy because I’m worried I’ll realize that it’s best to just let him go 😭

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: My OCD Academia

Date posted: 1y ago

How does SOOCD affect your relationship?

I recently started liking this girl. She likes me and It feels amazing. I’ve been dealing with SOOCD for a while now and I was scared when I first fell for her because I knew how badly my OCD was. My OCD has flared up so much since and it tells me I don’t like this girl or that I rather be with a guy. A lot of what if questions as well. I would like to know for those in relationships and struggling with Sexual Orientation OCD, how has this affected your relationship. I don’t want to feel alone in all this. I’ve had many themes before this one and OCD is telling me it’s different this time.

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