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@Mr. Solo Dolo No problem! OCD is hard to understand and manifests in confusing ways sometimes. You mentioned that you really like her so maybe your brain is trying to detect any possible threats to your potential connection to her 🤷‍♂️. If you are afraid that not remembering her face means that it isn’t meant to be, or you don’t feel strongly enough about her, your brain may latch on to that in an attempt “figure it out” and eliminate the threat. At the end of the day, you know how you feel, and you don’t need to figure out exactly why something is! It’s hard to feel out of control of your feelings, but the more you can simply let something be, the less it will inhibit your ability to pursue what you truly care about.

@Mr. Solo Dolo 😂😂

@logan18roach Old thread but Im so glad Im not the only one! Thank you for the comment because it makes so much sense. I am in the same situation as OP and basically my OCD kicked in right after a really good date/connection. It was so good my brain 'wanted' to think about her so badly in that gushy new love way (bc i hadnt felt that in a very long time) which somehow made it harder to remember and bring back how amazing the date felt. Then ofc started thinking something was wrong with me because I wasn't feeling that 'afterglow'. The more I tried the more my brain/OcD convinced me I wasn't worthy of those positive feelings or recalling the date to bring back those feelings, which included not having a clear memory of her face. Weird but its all our overactive mind trying to take control when we need to let be.

@Mr. Solo Dolo Me too- I would definitely recognize her in-person no problem. Good to hear you're doing a lot better. Care to share anything in particular that helped? Mine is pretty severe I'd say. I really want things to go well with this person but it's hard when anxiety/OCD is bad.

@Mr. Solo Dolo I know you would like an exact answer. But remember when we are engaged in compulsions we are trying to be are about something, to alleviate doubt and uncertainty. The best solution is to not know and to stop trying to remember. Be willing to not know or remember. I know it’s difficult, but it’s ok to not know and feel these uncomfortable feelings. You are teaching your brain a new way to be. This is the response prevention part of ERP. Take care.

@VGH *trying to be sure