❗️I spend some time on this forum called „emptyclosets“ where gay people can come out and search for help. And it was a big, big mistake. When I searched for HOCD in this forum I found so much people there who don‘t believe that something like „HOCD“ exists and that our symptoms are the typical signs of denying. This hit me just so hard and triggered me so, so much. My biggest fear is that it isn’t actually HOCD.

Go see a therapist...I literally just got done with mine..she tells me the straight up truth no matter what... She told her eyes and laughs at my gay intrusive thoughts all the times and attributes it to a lot of factors 1) my ex girlfriend was gay before me 2) a gay guy hit on me 3) extensive porn watching And she just says..stop googling and be yourself... Between all the compulsions I’ve done..can’t be denial lol. No mind is that strong You understand you. Don’t do the forums

@b13 There are days where I also spent a lot of time on this app but sometimes I just need to know that I‘m not alone with this... I think you shouldn‘t be so hard on yourself for using this app so often because it‘s better using this app than spending time on forums and google all possible things

They like to say that because it’s not in the DSM-5, and they want as many people to be like them as much as possible. But here’s the thing, HOCD is not a separate diagnosis from OCD so saying it’s not a real thing is like saying broccoli isn’t a food because it’s not listed in the category of foods in the USDA. With OCD, you can pretty much obsess about ANYTHING. And with the second point, they want more people to be like them. Which isn’t a bad thing, but the way they go about it is extremely vile. They reject scientific literature and go for Freudian theories that are extremely outdated. They like to say anyone who has HOCD is just questioning or in denial when they have done absolutely zilch research on the topic of OCD and HOCD. Let me clarify, not all gay or bi people are like this, but the ones you find on Empty Closets, and other forums are about as credible as dung.

I just hope in near future we will laugh at the thoughts we have now, and I spend my life with my girlfriend without guilt and these thoughts

I watched Chrissy Hodges yesterday and in her video she said something really important: People who disagree with HOCD or believe that it’s nothing but a “coverup” didn’t take the time to actually educate themselves about the matter. We can educate them as much as we want but if they still don’t budge, leave them be. And btw, “HOCD” is the slang term for describing this particular theme (like ROCD, POCD, etc.)

Suffering from HOCD and actually being homosexual are two very different things. The ppl on those forums probably don’t understand at all. I’d try to find a forum for ppl who suffer from HOCD. There they will understand. Here is a good place. We understand ❤️

Yeah if it was easy, it wouldn't be ocd. Its okay let the stress and the anxiety pass.

There is a forum called supportgroups that has a HOCD discussion. I used to use it a lot before I chose to use this instead because it’s more active here. Be careful though because I became addicted, checking the website multiple times every hour for either a new post or a comment under my post.

@shiv00 I hope that for all of us! I will pray and hope for all of us

@b13 yes, I know that forum, I was also addicted to this forum and I like this app better because I don‘t know why but it isn’t such addictive

@MentalHelp Really? I disagree, I think I check this app an unhealthily amount of times too to be honest

Guys thank you all so much! I try so hard to avoid such forums, but you know sometimes with HOCD its just very hard.