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- 5y ago
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- 5y ago
Go see a therapist...I literally just got done with mine..she tells me the straight up truth no matter what... She told her eyes and laughs at my gay intrusive thoughts all the times and attributes it to a lot of factors 1) my ex girlfriend was gay before me 2) a gay guy hit on me 3) extensive porn watching And she just says..stop googling and be yourself... Between all the compulsions I’ve done..can’t be denial lol. No mind is that strong You understand you. Don’t do the forums
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- 5y ago
@b13 There are days where I also spent a lot of time on this app but sometimes I just need to know that I‘m not alone with this... I think you shouldn‘t be so hard on yourself for using this app so often because it‘s better using this app than spending time on forums and google all possible things
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- 5y ago
They like to say that because it’s not in the DSM-5, and they want as many people to be like them as much as possible. But here’s the thing, HOCD is not a separate diagnosis from OCD so saying it’s not a real thing is like saying broccoli isn’t a food because it’s not listed in the category of foods in the USDA. With OCD, you can pretty much obsess about ANYTHING. And with the second point, they want more people to be like them. Which isn’t a bad thing, but the way they go about it is extremely vile. They reject scientific literature and go for Freudian theories that are extremely outdated. They like to say anyone who has HOCD is just questioning or in denial when they have done absolutely zilch research on the topic of OCD and HOCD. Let me clarify, not all gay or bi people are like this, but the ones you find on Empty Closets, and other forums are about as credible as dung.
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- 5y ago
I just hope in near future we will laugh at the thoughts we have now, and I spend my life with my girlfriend without guilt and these thoughts
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- 5y ago
I watched Chrissy Hodges yesterday and in her video she said something really important: People who disagree with HOCD or believe that it’s nothing but a “coverup” didn’t take the time to actually educate themselves about the matter. We can educate them as much as we want but if they still don’t budge, leave them be. And btw, “HOCD” is the slang term for describing this particular theme (like ROCD, POCD, etc.)
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- 5y ago
Suffering from HOCD and actually being homosexual are two very different things. The ppl on those forums probably don’t understand at all. I’d try to find a forum for ppl who suffer from HOCD. There they will understand. Here is a good place. We understand ❤️
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- 5y ago
Yeah if it was easy, it wouldn't be ocd. Its okay let the stress and the anxiety pass.
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- 5y ago
There is a forum called supportgroups that has a HOCD discussion. I used to use it a lot before I chose to use this instead because it’s more active here. Be careful though because I became addicted, checking the website multiple times every hour for either a new post or a comment under my post.
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- 5y ago
@shiv00 I hope that for all of us! I will pray and hope for all of us
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- 5y ago
@b13 yes, I know that forum, I was also addicted to this forum and I like this app better because I don‘t know why but it isn’t such addictive
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- 5y ago
@MentalHelp Really? I disagree, I think I check this app an unhealthily amount of times too to be honest
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- 5y ago
Guys thank you all so much! I try so hard to avoid such forums, but you know sometimes with HOCD its just very hard.
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- 23w ago
So I was on a hat chat gpt and it said that people who are non-offenders experience distress and anxiety and disgust and depression and they feel ashamed of being a non-offender like WHAT like that's honestly terrifying and I'm so scared because that's how I've been feeling like when I'm out I get anxiety too especially when I see a younger person I always been attracted to MEN my whole life can people turn into monsters and I don't even care if they have problems if there attracted to kids then there sick in the head like don't care like this has been sharing me soo much and the worst part about it is that they said some are in denial or suppress their attractions I'm so done...... I can not do this this is too much I would rather be gone from this earth than find out that I might be one like you have to be kidding me if you're attracted to young people and desire that you're sick and dead to me you're a monster I don't care like its disgusting. for this eole some people are suffering from POCD like me are scared to think about that and I'm terrified.
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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- 7w ago
Ok so I just downloaded this app like two days ago because I was looking for a OCD specialist. Maybe this is just my opinion but the posting’s on this app can be super triggering. If feels like even sharing your experience on an app like this can contribute to fueling OCD. So many people I see reassurance seeking, confessing and posting the same things multiple times to gain certainty. Makes me wonder if this app is counterproductive to the point of OCD treatment. I’m guilty of spending hours scrolling through the post trying to find people who relate to me, but in the end it makes me more anxious and fuels my OCD. Idk what do you guys think.
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