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Anyone who is a female and not straight could you comment down below. I have questions. I’m straight though so don’t be alarmed by this. Just struggled with soocd
Anyone who is a female and not straight could you comment down below. I have questions. I’m straight though so don’t be alarmed by this. Just struggled with soocd
I have to agree with everyone in the thread! I think it would be good for you to bring this up to a therapist and also look into unpacking seeing being bi/gay as being “unnatural”. The resources that I have found on OCD recommend leaning into the uncertainty (which is really really really hard) by reminding yourself “maybe, maybe not”. Learn more about the lgbtqia+ community and expose yourself to media and other things (with the help of a therapist so it isn’t obsessive) so you can be more comfortable with the idea of the maybe/maybe not :)
Also, “turning gay” isn’t a thing, so don’t worry about that :)
Hello! I am a woman and very much not straight :) ask away!
@pothos0_0 Do you know anything about soocd?
@pothos0_0 Is it true that lesbians or people who are bi babe always had intentions or always known since a young age?
@pray for me Have*
@pray for me Don’t do this to yourself, the reply she gives will likely just trigger you. This is a compulsion, trynna figure out if it’s ocd or not
@pothos0_0 I’m a straight female and have never seen a girl like that every but four months ago I had a same sex dream and it has been haunting me since, I’ve been diagnosed with soocd. I’ve only ever compared myself to women wishing to look like them or have their style of clothing or better skin like them or a body like them. But I never ever questioned my sexuality until after the dreams because I thought it meant something. Every day I have anxiety ,over analyze everything, have intrusive imagines I don’t want, I cry every day because I don’t wanna be lesbian or bi. I don’t have anything really against people who are i just don’t like it at all it’s not natural. I have a boyfriend of two years and I really do love him but soocd is convincing me that im lying and my whole life has been a lie and that im faking or forcing my feelings for him and it makes me cry. I only kissed my best friend when i was like 6 for a game. Well she kissed me but it meant nothing to me and I moved on. And then me and my two friends kissed for a picture only and I made it clear to them it’s for a picture only cause I knew they were bi and I told them that I don’t want them doing anymore like I made it very clear it was for a picture cause they kept pushing me into taking it and I was like okay only if you guys stfu about it and that was it nothing more I carried on with my straight life. I’ve always been not crazy and loved attention from boys always trying to impress them. I’m just really worried that soocd is changing me and my sexuality. I wanna go back to my normal life.
@pray for me Look I’m a guy but I’m in the exact same position, I hve HOCD my brown is trynna convince me I like guys. Just think of this, ANYONE on earth if they become hyper focused on a topic, will not even know what’s true and what isn’t. Now imagine us (people with OCD) being hyper focused on something. It gets multiplied x100. If it didn’t feel so real then OCD wouldn’t even exist
@pray for me I'm a woman and I'm bi. I won't answer your question because that would be reassurance and we try to avoid that. What I can say is with OCD you doubt everything, you analyze and ruminate and you lose yourself. I'm dealing with TOCD(trans ocd) I never ever thought about being trans or being not comfortable in my body but out of nowhere I'm questioning it, ruminating, trying to find an answer. I'm in great distress. But this is just OCD playing its tricks. Try to be in that uncertainty 'maybe you're straight maybe you're not', try and not answer these questions
@Pija I have some tips for TOCD Bcz I had it very bad for a while, try to laugh at the thoughts as hard as it seems and cut all compulsions. Ur brain during this will try to figure out ANY WAY to make ur fears seem true, u just gotta stick to the plan. With that being said tbh idk if that’s the reason it went or Bcz my other theme has taken over 😂 but still it helps
@Anonymous Okay! I will try and do that! Anything that can help honestly. Thank you
@Anonymous But the feelings feel super real
@star1232 Yeh that’s what they’re supposed to feel like, if it didn’t feel real ocd wouldn’t even exist
@Anonymous The false memories, false feelings , intrusive ideas , imaginations all of that feel real
@star1232 I know the uncertainty is really scary but try to remind yourself “maybe, maybe not” :) maybe you are gay or maybe you’re not! You don’t need to know for sure, you’re still a good person regardless and it won’t change the love you have for your boyfriend :)
I’ve been dealing with SOOCD for over a year now, and I have been having a very hard day today. I feel like I just need someone to talk too, my whole life I’ve always had girl crushes and always wanted to be romantic with women . Ever since I posted this picture on instagram and one person said I looked “zesty” in it , which is when I started obsessing about being gay . I feel like I put so much meaning to these thoughts where now I’m always checking how I feeling around men. I had a really bad porn addiction for a long time and bad anxiety which fucked up my sex drive. I feel like I doubt if I’m attracted to women when I know I am , but the doubt is so overbearing where I start to believe it . I never was interested in men sexually, and my ocd makes me feel like I like the thoughts even though I feel no pleasure out of it. I feel like I lost who I am as a person . It feels like I don’t even know what my sexuality is and it’s really upsetting to me . I meant this girl the other day and she is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met and I just feel like ocd is getting in the way😭😭😭 please any advice or comments
Is anyone here actually gay and has/had sexuality or religious ocd? I don't have it at all haha I'm a lesbian myself without socd or religious ocd but I'm just curious: what's it like and how did you deal with the whole "biggest fear coming true" thing?
I wouldn’t really say I have SO-OCD, but it manifests in some areas of my TOCD. Like if I see a woman for example my thoughts will go “what if I like her but as a man?” like my thoughts say I’m a straight man instead of a straight woman. And it’s really bothering me. If I see an attractive woman my brain will re-wire and imagine myself as a man looking at an attraction woman and it gets super uncomfortable that I have to like shake my head and say “no no no no no” multiple times to get the thought out. I know that counts as a compulsion but it’s hard to not do it because it’s so triggering. Now I don’t mind if I like women, however I’m really scared that I’m actually a straight man who likes women (or at least a bisexual man, considering I like men) and I hate it because I don’t want to be a man. Like I’ll think of my desired relationship as a woman dating a man but my OCD will switch it up to me being the man dating the woman, which is the opposite of what I want. I don’t want to be a man at all and I don’t want to date a woman, both of those are the opposite of my desires, but I’m still so scared. I’ll accept myself if I actually like women and am a bisexual woman, however I heard that being bisexual can mean being trans which scares me (for the record it was said in reddit by a sub which is mainly focused on a pseudoscientific phenomenon, that is still believed by the members to be true, so it’s definitely not a trustworthy statement, but my OCD will use anything to work against me) Does anyone here relate a little? 🥲
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