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Anyone who is a female and not straight could you comment down below. I have questions. I’m straight though so don’t be alarmed by this. Just struggled with soocd
Anyone who is a female and not straight could you comment down below. I have questions. I’m straight though so don’t be alarmed by this. Just struggled with soocd
I have to agree with everyone in the thread! I think it would be good for you to bring this up to a therapist and also look into unpacking seeing being bi/gay as being “unnatural”. The resources that I have found on OCD recommend leaning into the uncertainty (which is really really really hard) by reminding yourself “maybe, maybe not”. Learn more about the lgbtqia+ community and expose yourself to media and other things (with the help of a therapist so it isn’t obsessive) so you can be more comfortable with the idea of the maybe/maybe not :)
Also, “turning gay” isn’t a thing, so don’t worry about that :)
Hello! I am a woman and very much not straight :) ask away!
@pothos0_0 Do you know anything about soocd?
@pothos0_0 Is it true that lesbians or people who are bi babe always had intentions or always known since a young age?
@pray for me Have*
@pray for me Don’t do this to yourself, the reply she gives will likely just trigger you. This is a compulsion, trynna figure out if it’s ocd or not
@pothos0_0 I’m a straight female and have never seen a girl like that every but four months ago I had a same sex dream and it has been haunting me since, I’ve been diagnosed with soocd. I’ve only ever compared myself to women wishing to look like them or have their style of clothing or better skin like them or a body like them. But I never ever questioned my sexuality until after the dreams because I thought it meant something. Every day I have anxiety ,over analyze everything, have intrusive imagines I don’t want, I cry every day because I don’t wanna be lesbian or bi. I don’t have anything really against people who are i just don’t like it at all it’s not natural. I have a boyfriend of two years and I really do love him but soocd is convincing me that im lying and my whole life has been a lie and that im faking or forcing my feelings for him and it makes me cry. I only kissed my best friend when i was like 6 for a game. Well she kissed me but it meant nothing to me and I moved on. And then me and my two friends kissed for a picture only and I made it clear to them it’s for a picture only cause I knew they were bi and I told them that I don’t want them doing anymore like I made it very clear it was for a picture cause they kept pushing me into taking it and I was like okay only if you guys stfu about it and that was it nothing more I carried on with my straight life. I’ve always been not crazy and loved attention from boys always trying to impress them. I’m just really worried that soocd is changing me and my sexuality. I wanna go back to my normal life.
@pray for me Look I’m a guy but I’m in the exact same position, I hve HOCD my brown is trynna convince me I like guys. Just think of this, ANYONE on earth if they become hyper focused on a topic, will not even know what’s true and what isn’t. Now imagine us (people with OCD) being hyper focused on something. It gets multiplied x100. If it didn’t feel so real then OCD wouldn’t even exist
@pray for me I'm a woman and I'm bi. I won't answer your question because that would be reassurance and we try to avoid that. What I can say is with OCD you doubt everything, you analyze and ruminate and you lose yourself. I'm dealing with TOCD(trans ocd) I never ever thought about being trans or being not comfortable in my body but out of nowhere I'm questioning it, ruminating, trying to find an answer. I'm in great distress. But this is just OCD playing its tricks. Try to be in that uncertainty 'maybe you're straight maybe you're not', try and not answer these questions
@Pija I have some tips for TOCD Bcz I had it very bad for a while, try to laugh at the thoughts as hard as it seems and cut all compulsions. Ur brain during this will try to figure out ANY WAY to make ur fears seem true, u just gotta stick to the plan. With that being said tbh idk if that’s the reason it went or Bcz my other theme has taken over 😂 but still it helps
@Anonymous Okay! I will try and do that! Anything that can help honestly. Thank you
@Anonymous But the feelings feel super real
@star1232 Yeh that’s what they’re supposed to feel like, if it didn’t feel real ocd wouldn’t even exist
@Anonymous The false memories, false feelings , intrusive ideas , imaginations all of that feel real
@star1232 I know the uncertainty is really scary but try to remind yourself “maybe, maybe not” :) maybe you are gay or maybe you’re not! You don’t need to know for sure, you’re still a good person regardless and it won’t change the love you have for your boyfriend :)
I just need to talk with someone about hocd…it feels so real and i feel like im lying to myself and have been in denial for my whole life. Please help it would mean alot🙏
I really need to talk
I went out last night with a couple of girlfriends. One of them is contemplating divorcing her husband bc of a drinking problem (she is straight) and made a joke about running off and joining the “lesbian island”. She then continues to say “making out with a girl is one thing” but that she could never actually BE with a woman sexually, etc. Well… this has triggered my SO OCD significantly because I’m thinking, well why does she think it’s okay to just kiss/make-out if she doesn’t identity as bisexual? I mean she is beautiful and I’ve heard all my straight friends say the same thing. So I start to worry by thinking, well I find her very attractive - does that mean I want to make out with her and see what she’s talking about? Just to note, I also identify as straight and am married. So this is just so damn frustrating and confusing. Especially bc society shows women kissing all the time on reality tv shows etc (who present themselves as straight). So now I’m having intrusive thoughts and making myself think sexual things to “check” if I’m still straight. Ughh..any advice would be greatly appreciated. And if someone could please explain why a straight woman would make such a comment - that would be very helpful.
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