- Username
- Brynnie Bear
- Date posted
- 1y ago
I don’t understand
I don’t know why people don’t respond to me I feel like they think I’m being annoying. I would appreciate if they would just give me a call or text me
I don’t know why people don’t respond to me I feel like they think I’m being annoying. I would appreciate if they would just give me a call or text me
Feel that!! I guarantee your not being annoying though. As I get older I realize I put more effort in people than they give me. So maybe put in the same effort I’m not sure if that’s good advice but maybe something that can help you. Also something that’s been helping very much recently is “don’t chase,attract.” let people come to you. That will show you who’s truly there for you.
I think many of us and I've said this before are Hyper Sensitive individuals that take any relationship whether that be friendship, family, dating, etc. to heart. We value these relationships greatly and if they are broken its heartbreaking. I used to view my friends as "brothers" and as I've grown older and they've started their lives with kids and wives, I rarely hear from them and it's still even at an older age heartbreaking for me. However, I'm pretty confident they don't feel the same otherwise they'd reach out. It's not to say that it's deliberate but it still hurts.
I should add that my view on this kind of goes as follows in its most simplistic form: Me: These guys are my brothers Them: Yeah I used to hang out with him The difference is the value placed on the relationship. And I'd guess the part that makes the difference is they aren't hypersensitive. I'm sure they'd still be there if I truly needed them but maybe not. I hope this helps. God bless.
I second what the person above said. I used to get so bothered by friends and family not responding at times. It really comes down to who cares enough but also worrying about taking care of you and loving yourself or figuring out how to. Because ultimately, we're with ourselves 100% of the time. If that makes any sense.
hey there, i totally get where you're coming from. feeling like you're being ignored can be really tough, especially when you're dealing with the extra stress from ocd. i've got pure o myself, with different obsessions, but the struggle feels just as real, you know? i'm here to listen, and i totally take what you're going through seriously. 🤗 so, my therapist told me about this free ai tool called "unstuck" (www.AIOCDtool.com), and i think it could be a good fit for you. when you're feeling like people aren't responding and it's triggering your ocd, this tool can help guide you through those moments. it's like having an ocd therapist in your pocket, helping you step-by-step. you just type in what's bugging you, and the ai helps you work through it like erp therapy. i'm not into promoting apps either, but this one's been a game-changer for me, and i genuinely think it could help you too. if you have any questions, i'm all ears. just want you to feel supported and have something that might make things a bit easier. 😊
@JenniesOCDBrain Thank you Jennie 😊❤️💕
Sometimes when I post and don’t get any replies, I get extremely paranoid that im the only one with this problem and that no one can help because they don’t understand what im going through and just find me crazy, and I start thinking im a traitor to this app and that i’m just deranged. I feel like a lost cause and im scared that if I tell anyone what I went through, they’ll just be driven away from me and avoid me. It makes me feel so isolated and depressed.
I'm not sure how to explain why I feel this way but someone I no longer have on social media messaged me out of the blue after four years. I'm worried they messaging me to find something out about me or cause me harm for some reason. I'm not a very trusting person due to events growing up. Why can't I just except this person could just be messaging me, it just scares me that they must have had to search for me to message me.
it’s always like this. I get to talk to someone, we chat, then stop chatting or get very slow replies. but I can’t complain when I said that if I don’t reply, I’m busy or dealing with stuff. everyone has their life & no one is obligated to reply to me. I have learned that I really am just alone. I don’t want to force anyone or be obsessed. this goes for online friends. I only have 4. but they haven’t replied to me in days/weeks/months maybe. honestly, this has helped me not becoming dependent and wait for a reply like I used to. I would go on worrying for a while if someone wouldn’t reply for a certain time. I wouldn’t tell them ofc but I would become anxious. as for real life, I guess I can say 1. maybe 2 but one of them was a friend from elementary and we only met up once after sophomore year of high school. we’re now in college (actually, she graduated already) & have met up with her that day. we updated each other on our lives. it was nice, but I don’t think it was the same ‘best friend’ friendship we had as kids/teens. we don’t talk anymore. (only if I view her stories on instagram and say something) the other one I could say is half online/half real life. I met him online and we met irl a month in. he’s a good guy and honestly the first person that I like as a friend. someone I can trust, I guess. not fully, but definitely can be a lot of myself around. he’s been busy with life as well. he’s not obligated to reply to me. this one, I rlly like talking to but again, life happens. so I stopped being ‘excited’ for a response. in the end, it’s just me. my pain and myself. if I can’t make any friends irl (or maybe new friends online)(don’t get me wrong, I like the 4 online friends I have. they’re dear to me. they are just busy) at the end of this year during school, I will just give up. I tried before in my previous semester but it never happened. I am just going to accept my solitude. all I want now is either to not be here (sometimes), get a bike and ride by myself, or I don’t know. I don’t find anything appealing at the moment. sometimes there will be a spark but it goes out quickly. I genuinely do not see a happy life in the future. even after I told my dad of a ‘plan’ I had to retire early and keep learning in college to feed my curiosity, I just think maybe I’m not fit for living. I’m just tired. I try. I don’t find joy in many things anymore. it’s just not interesting. I just want to crawl up in my bed (as I am now) and move to a different place. I just want peace. will it be death that I find peace? or maybe living by a lake? who knows. life needs to let me rest.
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