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You might be confusing reassurance with support. Reassurance will NEVER be positive since you don't ever learn to deal with uncertainty. Support is when people help you feel acknowledged and help you see things more clearly. Please don't support reassurance here. It might be hurtful to many people who are new in their path to recovery.
You are probably right, and I am very sorry but I am just new here and I don't really know much other than struggling and searching for reassurance. I am trying to learn.
reassurance isnt some big, bad criminal. the problem lies in the fact that no reassurance ever satisfies for long when you constantly doubt yourself and youre being insecure. so essentially reassurance is okay, as long as it calms you down for good and doubts won’t come crawling back seconds later. all the reassurance us ocd sufferes need is within ourselves, we just need to learn how to believe and trust ourselves! thats reassurance enough for a lifetime!
I respectfully disagree with you. Reassurance is something big and bad (criminal? Probably not) as it perpetuates the endless cycle of suffering. It's like cheating at the gym while lifting weights by having someone else doing it for us or using steroids. If we want to become masters of our fears and be in a position of power, we need to become fully independent from any external sources. Otherwise we become emotionally crippled. --- I am amazed at the fact that despite the proof of research, the continuous posts by administrators here, etc. people here keep saying stuff like that: That reassurance is O.K. - My mind is blown at the power of this disorder. It is truly like and addiction in that the addict always finds ways to justify their actions.
Compulsions and reassurance might make you feel better momentarily, but that doesn’t mean they’re not bad, you’re just getting a temporary relief. That’s not helpful cause eventually, your thoughts will come back, and you’ll need more reassurance/compulsions to neutralize them. It’s a never ending cycle. I’ve had ocd for 23 years now, so no, reassurance and compulsions won’t make your ocd go away.
I am doing the same thing over and over, I couldn't live without reassurance. I am constantly annoying my sister with the same things over and over...
Ik I said reassurance helps mine personally for certain periods of time. I can’t speak for everyone else but I know for me personally it makes me feel good
Can someone explain to me why reassurance is bad for OCD?? I often have overwhelming anxiety that my boyfriend is upset with me. So I will sometimes ask him if we’re good. Even though nothing has happened to suggest anything is wrong. He knows I have terrible anxiety so he never makes me feel bad for asking. And as soon as I’ve asked I feel better.
Is it possible to seek reassurance from oneself? Because sometimes I try to combat my obsessive thoughts by telling myself, "this is just my OCD. There's no need to be anxious or upset over this unwanted thought. My OCD is telling me things that aren't true." Or if I have an intrusive thought, I'll tell myself, "this is just an intrusive thought, it doesn't reflect who I am as a person. Just because I'm having an intrusive thought about doing something awful doesn't mean I actually want to do that thing. It's just an intrusive thought, it doesn't say anything about my character or desires." Is it okay to do this, or is this another form of reassurance-seeking? I guess basically my question is, is it okay to comfort oneself and remind oneself of the truth, or is this a form of compulsion in itself? I'm just trying to figure out how to respond to my intrusive thoughts and obsessions in a healthy way.
When OCD strikes, and you turn to someone who knows you struggle and they say, Oh come on, you’ve been through this one before, and you always beat it. You know what to do. ^ This right here gives you some encouragement and makes you feel not so alone in battling the mind demon. And for the people who say yeah but that makes the OCD come back and you shouldn’t rely on others blah blah blah Well guess what? OCD comes back anyway. It always does, whether you tough it out or ask for some reassurance that you can, have, and will beat this thing Why not ask for support and comfort, when the struggle is real. It’s almost like not telling your problems to a therapist, and forcing yourself to suffer alone. Just my thoughts..
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