My bf is agnostic, I am a believer/christian. Obsessing about the fact that if we get married, who knows if it will work out? Do I need to worry about this now? I don’t want to break up but maybe we should?
I have this same worry but the other way. I’m an atheist, my partner was too until recently, now he’s Christian. Really not sure how this will go.
i’ve thought about this a lot too. my boyfriend is also agnostic and while i don’t know where my religious views lie, I did grow up in a religious household. now, I don’t necessarily believe 100% of what my family does but I am more religious than my bf. I’ve thought many times about if this would work out because of that. i didn’t realize that was apart of ocd but now i can see that it is. i think that if there is understanding on both sides and respect from both that it’ll work out. i wouldn’t worry about it too much because ocd is a beast and will cast doubt into your mind about any and everything. think about it in the way of would your boyfriend be respectful of your religion even if he doesn’t believe it?
I am a Christian and my boyfriend really doesn’t believe anything. He started going to church and reading the Bible and even doing devos. He has told me that he’s doing it for himself, it might just be my trust issues but it’s hard to believe him. Another big thing is, I’m extremely against abortion. However, he believes it’s okay in certain cases. I am worried about our future together if we don’t share the same beliefs. I love him but I constantly have doubts
It's a very fair question - one I faced while dating too. I would ask your therapist this question (if you have one). Personally, I don't believe it's necessarily OCD - many people without OCD raise similar questions about compatibility with their partner. My take is that it would be obsessive if you had intrusive thoughts frequently about this and there was some compulsion that you performed to help you feel better. For what it's worth, I came to the conclusion that I needed to date someone of the same faith because of how important faith is to me and because I knew I would want to raise my kids in the same religious beliefs. Because of this, I recognized there would likely be later disagreement if my future wife believed a different religion & wanted to raise our kids in her faith. As a fellow Christian, I would also recommend you pray about this for clarity / speak with priest or pastor you know. God bless!
I have grown up in a Christian community and kind of always been around people who believe Christianity or even catholic. In the past few years I’ve really dove deep into my faith and honestly felt good about myself sometimes but overall terrified and like I’m a horrible person if I do one thing wrong or make a wrong sin. I’m also not sure if I completely believe in all the traditional Christian practices anymore. But I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 5 months and everything is going great. We communicate and he’s so loving and respectful and I honestly don’t have any major issues In the relationship. I used to have a big fear of men starting when I was like 7 aboit my grandpa or my dad trying to rape me (even though they are good men and showed no real signs of it). But it ruined my relationship with them both for awhile til it eventually went away. I always told myself it was because the “spirit” of ocd was rebuked by Jesus but I honestly don’t know. Now I’m dealing with a more extosential or religious ocd where I’m terrified I’m a horrible person for being in a relationship and almost feel worse about myself if I get closer to God. I also feel like if I get too close to God then I have to choose between Him and my bf and I can’t have both. It’s driving me in San and I feel like if I tell anyone any of this they’ll tell me to just break up with my bf even though there isn’t anything wrong in our relationship. Idk what to do and it’s so draining
I’m obsessing over the future and if my boyfriend and I are going to make it. I know it’s ocd because the thought won’t leave. Discussing the future with my boyfriend makes him very stressed because he is in a difficult family situation. I’m trying my hardest to be patient but I need reassurance that there is a plan and timeline in place. We have been dating for almost two years and I’m not ready to live together but I like discussing it and knowing there’s some form of plan. My ocd gets bad when there is no plan. Are there any thoughts or tips to help?
I have been constantly ruminating about if God wants me to be with my boyfriend. I am so hyper fixated on Gods will for my life that I often overthink every move. I have constant “what if” thoughts or “if God wanted him in your life you wouldn’t be having these thoughts”. I can’t differentiate Gods voice with my thoughts. What if this is God speaking? I also keep seeing TikToks that say if God wanted this person in your life they wouldn’t do blah blah blah. I am just not sure what to think anymore. I want to be with my boyfriend and he wants to be with me. However, as of lately we have been having some issues because we show our love differently. Then I see these TikToks saying that the right person will love you the way you need to be loved naturally, nothing will ever need to be forced, rhat I’m forcing a rib into the wrong man, etc. and then I’m like is this God talking through these videos saying I shouldn’t be with my boyfriend? I am not sure what to think. I just feel like my mind is in a constant spiral and I get so confused.
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