My bf is agnostic, I am a believer/christian. Obsessing about the fact that if we get married, who knows if it will work out? Do I need to worry about this now? I don’t want to break up but maybe we should?
I have this same worry but the other way. I’m an atheist, my partner was too until recently, now he’s Christian. Really not sure how this will go.
i’ve thought about this a lot too. my boyfriend is also agnostic and while i don’t know where my religious views lie, I did grow up in a religious household. now, I don’t necessarily believe 100% of what my family does but I am more religious than my bf. I’ve thought many times about if this would work out because of that. i didn’t realize that was apart of ocd but now i can see that it is. i think that if there is understanding on both sides and respect from both that it’ll work out. i wouldn’t worry about it too much because ocd is a beast and will cast doubt into your mind about any and everything. think about it in the way of would your boyfriend be respectful of your religion even if he doesn’t believe it?
I am a Christian and my boyfriend really doesn’t believe anything. He started going to church and reading the Bible and even doing devos. He has told me that he’s doing it for himself, it might just be my trust issues but it’s hard to believe him. Another big thing is, I’m extremely against abortion. However, he believes it’s okay in certain cases. I am worried about our future together if we don’t share the same beliefs. I love him but I constantly have doubts
It's a very fair question - one I faced while dating too. I would ask your therapist this question (if you have one). Personally, I don't believe it's necessarily OCD - many people without OCD raise similar questions about compatibility with their partner. My take is that it would be obsessive if you had intrusive thoughts frequently about this and there was some compulsion that you performed to help you feel better. For what it's worth, I came to the conclusion that I needed to date someone of the same faith because of how important faith is to me and because I knew I would want to raise my kids in the same religious beliefs. Because of this, I recognized there would likely be later disagreement if my future wife believed a different religion & wanted to raise our kids in her faith. As a fellow Christian, I would also recommend you pray about this for clarity / speak with priest or pastor you know. God bless!
hey there, i can only imagine how tough it must be to have these thoughts swirling around, especially when it comes to big life stuff like relationships and beliefs. 🌪️ you're not alone in feeling this way, and it's okay to feel uncertain. i've been down that road with ocd, and what really helped me was this free ai ocd therapy tool called "unstuck" ([www.keepunstuck.com/try](http://www.keepunstuck.com/try)) that my ocd therapist shared with me. it'll be especially helpful for you because it gives you personalized, step-by-step support that can guide you through these tough moments, just like an ocd therapist would with erp strategies. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have qs or just want to talk more! <3
I keep feeling like I’m letting god down Bc I’m dating an agnostic person but he’ll pray with me and he says maybe one day he’ll become a Christian and he’s offered to go to church with me. I keep feeling like “god wants me to leave” but idk if it’s my ocd. Any tips ?
Getting urges to break up with bf Bc he’s not a Christian even tho he prays with me Bc I’m scared to let god down (he’s agnostic) and feel urge to pray “if he’s not the one take him out of my life” but I don’t want to. Any tips?
I'm a big jumbled mess. The hocd has backed down quite a bit to the point where I was starting to have moments of forgetting and my attraction to guys came back. Here's the issue. I'm a Christian and my boyfriend and I are in an unequally yoked relationship. I feel like to any normal person this wouldn't matter but my OCD moved on to this, picking at it viciously. Of course it makes me sad that we don't have the same view about the existence of God, but it's never bothered me THIS much. Also the fact that we have premarital sex is starting to bother me as well when it never did before. It's killing me. I feel like I can't talk to God anymore. I've been obsessing over it all day. What do I do? I don't want to break up with him. He is my other half. I love him so much. I know this is a really sticky subject. Please no anti religious comments.
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