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Ultimately, we have to accept the uncertainty, I think that’s the only real way of beating this. You have to become comfortable with not knowing what your sexuality is, because HOCD is rooted in your constant doubt and questioning. If we just accept the thoughts that come through our heads, hopefully one day the anxiety and stress that comes with them will ease. Sexuality is a much more complex idea than just you’re either straight, bi, or gay. Every single human being is a spectrum, and even the most Hetero people will somehow feel attraction to the sam gender, even if it’s just physical admiration. But because we have HOCD, our sexuality is something we constantly put under the spotlight and we are constantly examining. Other people don’t do that, so they just shrug off those thoughts and feelings - whereas we don’t, we think they mean we’re gay! Hope I have helped. I know i’ve given you reassurance but. Oh well?♀️ just try and remember that you need to just become comfortable with yourself and the idea of not knowing?
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You can be sexually attracted to someone, but not romantically, remember that. Maybe you find somebody „hot“ that doesn’t mean you want to be with them. Many straight girls find other girls „hot“ and want to make out with them. There are even many girls who have sex with other girls but consider themselves „hetero“. I think we should separate sexuality and romantic „love“. Just my opinion. Maybe you get nervous around guys because of your low self-esteem? Because maybe you think you are not good enough, handsome enough to talk to boys? I hope I could help you a little bit
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Thank you, that helped so much ❤️❤️
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And like I have like guys before and I reply have only had one crush on a girl. But I really just feel like I’m letting my OCD take over. And at the same I have very bad self-esteem, and I wanna date guys. Like whenever I see or talk to a guy I get so nervous, but whenever I talked it a pretty girl I don’t care. I’m so fucking confused. I think my brain fucked with me. And I got so scared because I didn’t want to be lesbian. And I’m religious and I’m just so scared and confused. I have all types of OCD like you name it. And I have a therapist, and I’m getting medication soon. But I just want my mind to be normal.
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Thank you ❤️❤️
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hi i’m a lesbian! and i have known im a lesbian for a really long time and i have a sweet girlfriend of 1 year. it all started when i saw this masc lesbian come out as straight, after that i had my guy friend over and he’s a sweet guy and he was flirting with me (he didn’t know i was gay) im not sure but i panicked and my brain froze and i was like “do i like him”, ever since my brain has been over worked 24/7 for 2 months now and it’s spiralling constantly. im trying to control it but all these thoughts are so disgusting and my brain tries to put him and i in scenarios that make me uncomfortable and i feel panic and i hate it. i have always been comfortable being a lesbian and i still am comfortable as a lesbian, but i dislike these thoughts i have about him and men and i want it to be over. i do not want to experiment with men even tho my brain is telling me i do, i find it disgusting and i dread it, i have a sweet girlfriend and i want to be with her forever, i do not imagine anything with any men and i hate these thoughts. im scared of becoming bisexual/straight one day and i hate hearing sexuality is fluid. its a whole mix of comphet and so-ocd
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I’ve been dealing with SOOCD for over a year now, and I have been having a very hard day today. I feel like I just need someone to talk too, my whole life I’ve always had girl crushes and always wanted to be romantic with women . Ever since I posted this picture on instagram and one person said I looked “zesty” in it , which is when I started obsessing about being gay . I feel like I put so much meaning to these thoughts where now I’m always checking how I feeling around men. I had a really bad porn addiction for a long time and bad anxiety which fucked up my sex drive. I feel like I doubt if I’m attracted to women when I know I am , but the doubt is so overbearing where I start to believe it . I never was interested in men sexually, and my ocd makes me feel like I like the thoughts even though I feel no pleasure out of it. I feel like I lost who I am as a person . It feels like I don’t even know what my sexuality is and it’s really upsetting to me . I meant this girl the other day and she is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met and I just feel like ocd is getting in the way😭😭😭 please any advice or comments
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I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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