Givenup

Date posted: 1y

What is there to hope about?

im just losing my mind... im so scared of minors lying about their age online... i dont go on dating apps anymore cause of this, and I was on an NSFW discord server (with age verification) and literotica, a chat site where you have to be 18+ to access the chat and the site... Im so scared and anxious of unknowingly messaging minors online when i dont ever want to... I havent been on these places in a while... but im so so so scared of minors lying about their age... it honestly just terrifies the everloving crap out of me... i dont ever want to ever be involved with men or minors in any way... god im so so scared... i dont have reasons to doubt most. The ones I found suspicious were those who were unverified or suddenly left the server... this one girl gave me her birthday, so that wasnt that suspicious... but then when i asked this one girl what date she was born on, she just said "13😭" before reiterating that she was 18 once more later on when i stopped responding to her after she said "13😭" and said she was 18 once beforehand... im just honestly so scared and anxious rn... idk if she or other women were lying about their age or not... thats whats scaring me... ive only talked to verified women as far as i know... and i get so scared about minors online lying about their age, and it makes me ruminate on whether or not this happened to me... Ive seen so many horror stories of minors lying about their age and it just terrifies me to no end... Im paranoid and just so ready for me to be whisked away into a fantasy land... thats what final fantasy is *chuckles*... but i just genuinely want it to stop... its making me think the girl accidentally gave me her proper age by mistake... and that I indeed accidentally chatted explicitly with a minor... I genuinely feel so alone and anxious... we didn't do anything explicit yet because i was trying to check her age before that... but it was getting there after she said she was 18... I was asking for her date of birth because I still wanted to check, and she said "13😭"... im so so scared...

Studybug

Date posted: 1y

I'm sorry you're going through this. However, it's not your fault if someone lies about their age, how are you meant to know? It's the other person's fault. If you are talking with someone who you thought was over 18 and it is revealed they're not and you leave the chat straight away, then you've done nothing wrong.

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Studybug Idek if she lied about their age or not... she said she was 18 before this... and she said "13😭" when i asked what date she was born on... after i stopped responding, 8 minutes later she told me that she was 18...

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

It fully not your fault. Also if a minor lies about their age that is catfishing which correct me if I’m wrong is illegal. That said, I recommend taking some therapy and ERP my man. I hope your ocd goes down and that you have a wonderful day.

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 Idek if she lied about their age or not... she said she was 18 before this... and she said "13😭" when i asked what date she was born on... after i stopped responding, 8 minutes later she told me that she was 18...

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Givenup So, I haven’t interacted a bunch with nsfw discord servers, I kinda just run my own and talk in a couple that are based around games or belong to friends. You could maybe ask the admins if she is ID verified, or if it just seems skeevy don’t interact anymore. However, this does sound like something that you should seek therapy over and perhaps medication if it is really affecting you this deeply. I am truly sorry for your situation and hope you can feel better ❤️

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 She said she was 18 beforehand... and she asked for my age first... but i asked her for her date of birth and she said "13😭"... i stopped responding to her, before she reiterated that she was 18 after 8 minutes... do you think she was lying about her age...?

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Givenup If she says her date of birth is 13 she could mean a date, but it’s a bit of an odd response so honestly, I am not sure. If she is lying about her age then it wouldn’t be your fault

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 She said she was 18 once again after I didn't respond for 8 minutes...

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Givenup Honestly, I’m just not sure. I’m sorry I haven’t really interacted much with nsfw sites like that, and I’m not really one for RP (assuming that’s what you were planning on doing) I just kinda google stuff or use Reddit if I wanna find material.

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 Chat GPT says that she doesnt seem like she was lying, but the odd response scares me... i hope she wasnt lying about her age... (she said that she was 18 when i asked for her age, after she asked me... and reiterated that she was 18 after I didnt respond for 8 minutes...)

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 And I accidentally made a typo "was" when i was trying to write "wasn't" so i deleted to post and wrote it to fix my grammar...

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Givenup I don’t recommend using chat GPT as a measure. If you wanna measure it contact a moderator of the site and ask them if it seems like she’s lying

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 This was two years ago... she's deleted her discord... idk if thats in indicator or not about whether or not she was lying about her age, cause im genuinely honestly scared

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 HOWEVER, if you feel this is a compulsion, DO NOT interact with it. Feeding a compulsion will only make it worse

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 I left the server years ago... since then she has deleted her account... idk if her deleting her account means she was lying about her age, but its got me anxious...

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Givenup I’m confused, was this interaction 2 years ago or did she delete her discord 2 years ago

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 The interaction was two years ago. She's deleted her account in that time.

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Givenup Ohh ok I see what you mean. Honestly, it doesn’t fully sound like she is lying but I would watch out during the conversation. I’m sorry that this is happening to you

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Givenup I’m sorry this is making you anxious. It sounds like she was 18, and most likely this is just OCD being really stupid.

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 Sorry if i upset you with my measages

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Givenup You did not at all my man, it’s perfectly fine. I hope you have a lovely day or night. If you ever would like to talk to me again feel free to comment on any post I do or friend me on discord.

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 Assumedly man you could be a woman sorry

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 Im a man

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 One more question. i stopped responding to her and she said again that she was 18 after i didnt respond to her for 8 minutes... keep in mind, she asked me for my age first and said she was 18 before this all went down... does her saying she was 18 before and 8 minutes after the incident mean she was lying to me?

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Givenup Ah ok, sorry didn’t want to get any pronouns or anything mixed up ❤️

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 Its all good. Hope you saw the last question...

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Givenup Also in response to your question I don’t know, I don’t think that really changes anything.

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 Im sorry for the constant questions... i know you said you dont think she's lying, but the possibility of it scares me... i threw up in a restroom cause the intrusive thoughts were so bad

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Givenup It’s alright, you should really consider seeing a psychiatrist for some medical treatment. I take escitalopram and it heavily reduces intrusive thoughts for myself. Therapy and ERP will also work

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 Did you mean what you said when you said you honestly dont think she is fully lying?

Endexer929

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Givenup Yea, I mean I don’t have incentive to lie lmao

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 Forgot to ask... did you mean that she wasnt fully lying about being 18?

Givenup

Date posted: 1y

@Endexer929 And does the delay in her response mean she was lying about her age?

FoxMan

Date posted: 23w

Worried about something…again

Hey, so I wanted to ask about something that is trying to bother me right now. I just thought to come on here before letting my mind ruminate over and over and over. So a year ago when I was 22, I did not have many people to talk to aside from my roommates who were either not home during the summer or just to themselves so I decided to try out Omegle. I talked to a few different people on there, but there’s two people in particular that kind of made me worried. There is this one girl I was talking to from Canada and she told me the story about her and her friends smoking weed, and I told her about how my female roommate used to sleep in my bed. But the way I told her that was by asking for her Instagram so I could DM her that rather than say it out loud because my roommate was in the next room. At some point during our conversation, she told me that she was 16, and I’m not even sure how we came about that but she told me. Before I continue, we were not flirting at all. We were just sharing stories, that was it. My intention was to not flirt at all with anyone because of age and the fact that they probably nowhere near me. Also, I just kind of thought it would be weird too. But now I can’t remember if she told me her age before I told her about my roommate or after I told her about my roommate, but I feel like it was before because I kind of felt like I should’ve unfollowed her after. And what made it worse is that somehow my roommate saw her Instagram handle and followed her as well. Another instance was when this girl was being very goofy and playing the character and I was joking back and I ended up being invited into their Instagram group chat, where I found out they were also 16 so without saying anything, I left the group chat. So my worries if this was inappropriate or was it just a conversation that I probably should’ve cut short. I’m not sure but it’s starting to worry me. And just for context, I have no idea that girl or anybody else since that day and it NEVER went sexual at all. So yeah, that’s the story

Givenup

Date posted: 17w

Pocd and anxiety

I hope someone can respond... Im genuinely so triggered and so anxious... Dr disrespect was accused of inappropriately messaging and sending explicit images to a minor, and trying to meet up with them at twitchcon... my POCD is saying that my situation with me venting about 18+ explicit HOCD stuff to people in the PM's on an OCD groupchat I found from NOCD, including the minors, when I was 19, means that I am just as bad as they are... or worse... I pm'ed them from the support group and vented to them in private (including the minors) about my 18+ explicit HOCD struggles... one was uncomfortable by it so i stopped venting to her after she told me she was uncomfortable by it twice... the other gave me reassurance so i kept asking her for reassurance for my 18+ hocd struggles... I dont ever want to ever be attracted to minors in any way... I dont ever want to ever engage in any inappropriate relations with minors in any way... i dont ever want to EVER be a MAP, a P, or a gro*mer in any way... I dont ever want to be what my pocd says about me... im so scared... someone said that I need help, that I need to turn myself in, and that im hiding behind a diagnosis because of this situation... i genuinely feel so hopeless... I dont ever want to ever be a monster...

EndOCD!

Date posted: 16w

Just want a response

So one day a couple months ago I saw some posts on threads pop up on instagram and they said I’m 17 and horny and 18 and horny or I think I even remember see a 16 year old one. I’m 20 and I remembered that when those popped up I clicked on them and I don’t know if I did it out of true attraction or out of the urge to make my anxiety go away. I feel like often times if I see something that says any number under 18 even if it has nothing to do with age it could be talking about season 17 of a tv show my mind immediately goes what?? 17??? And then I click on it to make my anxiety go away. So when I remembered all of this I downloaded the threads app because I wanted to see if I could get reassurance and see if I could rekindle how I felt in these moments. When I opened the app all I saw was posts like that but everyone claimed to be 18. The only problem is none of the girls looked 18 they looked like 14-16 so I started to panic I and worry that because I clicked on the threads in the past it popped up more and I was a pedophile for that. All of the accounts all pretty much had only fans links so at that point I was like well they have to be 18 then but now I’m worried that maybe it’s a scammer and they are using underage pictures of girls and putting them on onlyfans. Which I know is out of my control but I just feel like a Pedo and like I did something wrong. Does anyone have any advice? Or have any similar situations/ similarities with this?

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