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@Givenup Yes I’ve seen ur posts. Sorry that ur going through that. OCD is an awful disease and feels like an endless loop of doubt. Like it’s like you don’t want to think about these things. They just pop in your head and you feel a need to either prove/disprove the thought, and because the thought is already there and already repeating you feel a need to prove to ocd that you don’t feel/want those things, it’s not actually wanting to imagine/think them things because I can tell u for a fact I feel genuinely sick to my stomach over ocd thoughts… it’s like I know deep down they’re ocd but ocd causes so much fear and doubt that they feel real and you can feel convinced that ocd may be right, and so you just feel a need to try and prove them wrong/right depending on the thought.

@SadUnicorn3 And your ocd isnt you... your ocd will try to make it feel real... the ultimate gaslighter. The fact you feel so sick means that you arent into your intrusive thoughts. Because if our bodies cant handle how disgusting it is, then our minds certainly arent.

@SadUnicorn3 For context. I was on an NSFW discord server. There was optional age verification but i would only message women who were verified. I messaged this girl whose DM's were open... we talked before she asked me my age first. I said I was 20 (which was true) to which she immediately responded that she was 18. We talked about why we were on the discord server and had playful banter. I then asked her when she was born because I wanted to make sure she was consistent with her age. She misunderstood the question at first and said she was born in Colombia. I then asked her for the date she was born on. At 5 AM when I was asleep, she said "13😭", before reaffirming her age as 18 approximately 8 minutes after... does this indicate if she was lying about her age...?

@SadUnicorn3 I dont even remember if she was verified or not...

@Givenup I’m not too sure. I think everyone has to be careful with things like that. But all I can say (I know I’m not meant to reassure you) but it IS NOT UR FAULT if SHE LIED about her age. I know how that would make u feel, especially cause of POCD, but ask yourself: if you knew she was younger than 18, would u have messaged her? Most likely your answer is no. If someone is aware if someone’s underage and still continue to msg them then that’s wrong. If you are unaware because it says they’re over legal age or they lied then you aren’t in the wrong. I understand why you’re overthinking and worried, but please just know that you haven’t actually committed any crime or intentionally done anything wrong

@Givenup If you had continued to talk to to her knowing she was underage , then I don’t feel that’s appropriate… but if you just messaged the person while thinking they are of a legal age then you haven’t done anything. Once again, not your fault if that person had lied… and classic ocd trying to make u doubt something again after you’ve figured the first thing out (gotten some reassurance)

@SadUnicorn3 Idek if she did lie or not... she deleted her account in the two years since the incident, so im not too sure... do you think she was lying about her age based on the information ive given...?

@SadUnicorn3 She said she was 18 twice. (Once before the incident, and once more 8 minutes after she said "13😭" in response to my question of her date of birth.), but im scared about what if she accidentally said her true age, but then corrected herself? It was 12 AM when i asked her for her date of birth, 5 AM when she responded to me with "13😭" and 8 minutes later, reaffirmed that she was 18...

@SadUnicorn3 What do you think...?

@SadUnicorn3 Do you think she was lying about her age?? 😞😞

@Givenup I’m sure if she was verified she wouldn’t have been underage… but once again, why would u have messaged someone that was underage? Like as in to be flirty… some people on discord might be asking a gaming question to someone underage which is fine because you aren’t flirting or have any intentions… cause discord is actually used for gaming usually. If she said she was 18 she would have meant that, and if she lied then that’s on her not you, you didn’t know? I’m sure if she was 13 she would have said, actually I’m 13, not just the number 13. She might have said 13 as in the 13th of a certain month?? Bit weird she didn’t say full date. But once again, that isn’t your fault at all… you would not have talked to a 13 year old girl, I’m sure, even without knowing u, u are worried by these thoughts, and I’m sure you wouldn’t have had intentions of messaging an underage girl

@SadUnicorn3 Idek if she was verified or not... but its looking like she wasnt...

@SadUnicorn3 CHATGPT keeps saying she was lying about her age 😭😭😭 Do you personally think she was lying about her age...? Someone flipped their opinions from "it doesnt seem like she was fully lying" to "i dont know." And its triggering me... do you think she was lying about her age...? 😭😭😭

@Givenup What is CHATGPT? And if she was lying- as I said that is not your fault you had no idea…. It’s like if a guy slept with an underage girl but she was lying about her age, as much as that guy would feel horrible it isn’t his fault the girl lied, that is on her and I feel like there should be consequences for a girl lying about her age. I don’t know if she was lying or not, I can’t tell you that I suppose but as I said it’s not your fault if she did lie because that doesn’t make you a P… you’re not interested in underage girls, a P is… and if she said she was underage to begin with you wouldn’t have talked to her?? I understand you’re triggered and overwhelmed. But try to not worry as you literally didn’t do anything wrong, it isn’t on you if she had lied.

@SadUnicorn3 But based on what ive told you, do you think she lied about her age?? She said she was 18 twice. Once before the incident and once more she reaffirmed it after the "13😭" thing.

@SadUnicorn3 And chatGPT is an AI

@SadUnicorn3 I asked her to confirm her date of birth.

@Givenup You could even mention that you have a mental condition that makes you overthink and worry and that you know girls can lie about their age which isn’t uncommon, but once again not your fault if she has lied and don’t feel at all like that makes you whatever ocd says you are… if you were actively wanting to chase underage girls then you’re a P, but I can tell from our brief conversation and other posts of yours that you aren’t and your themes are POCD related, so ofcorse this affects you a lot