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How can i know that im not actually faking my attraction to hide my denial and hiding my real attraction like its so scary and confusing
How can i know that im not actually faking my attraction to hide my denial and hiding my real attraction like its so scary and confusing
Bro I feel the same and ask my self the same thing tbh with you I don’t even know
@JohnKit Yeah like i can acknowledge when a guy is good looking and i know I don’t want anything sexual but then my thoughts go like ur only faking it
I’m dealing with the same exact thing. My therapy starts weds but I’ve been trying some things on my own for erp therapy. At my job now when a man comes up to order instead of looking at the screen I stare right into their face and let whatever feelings or thoughts I have just come and go you can’t control these things. But you can get past them. Now if you’re worried you’re gonna look at a man and become attracted to him this could be a good step. It’ll be hard not to reassure yourself in those times but you have to tell yourself maybe, maybe not. Who cares it’ll help you lose interest in the topic.. anxiety can release dopamine and your brain doesn’t decipher between them. Just that you got a dopamine kick and because dopamine is a good chemical in the brain it’ll try to recreate that anxiety and give the brain its fix
Hi, I was lying on the bed with my female partner. We we laughing and joking and I bed humped (couple of thrusts) pretending that it was my male lecturer. She brought him up. I was just joking, I dont even know why I did it. I've never had sex with a man. I .on Prozac for GAD and am starting Propranolol tomorrow. Now I worry that my gf thinks I'm gay and I can't shake this thought. My nonsensical act and joke might have ruined my relationship and we have a child. My mind won't stop racing and it's convincing me that she is doing the same. She is being quiet though, which is worrying. My anxiety is out of control. I'm anxious because I'm confused about being confused and its making me doubt my sexuality. Help
SOOCD sufferers! Do you sometimes worry that you're true attraction is your false attraction and vice versa? and that you actually dont really know what true attraction is but if you go with the unwated sex you will know? Ima actually really struggeling between finding someone attractive and being attracted to someone.... I'm a straight female (I think) and I recognise a beautiful women more than a handsome men. Like I wasnt really attracted to my bf's body before actually being with him. However since in my mind, the female body has "more" if feels like I'll feel more if Im with a women? ughh soo weird. Like I dont see a men's naked body and automaticcaly get turned on, I have to be intimate with him for that to happen? honetsly between that and the romantic feelings that I feel like are not "enough" it really sounds like denial even if my therapist really diagnosed me. UGH
Ok so I’m a 17 year old female, and I’ve always thought I was straight. But I just really want to know how you would know the difference between so-ocd and actually questioning your sexuality. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community (in fact I am very much a token straight friend, lol) but I saw a video about comp-het recently and it sort of felt like what I was experiencing. I don’t want to be gay, I want to be with men, I want to like men, I’ve always liked men, but now I’m questioning whether or not that’s real? Because people can be gay but not want to be right? I’m single and I always have been. I think women are gorgeous, but when I try to imagine actually having any sort of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman it feels wrong, at least most of the time it does? Sometimes I’m less sure, and I’ve never been particularly boy crazy. I’ve liked maybe 2 or 3 people in my life, (not to say I’ve never found other guys attractive, but it doesn’t seem to be as often as most people) I have no particular reason to be afraid of being gay, very supportive family, safe area ect, but I don’t want to be, does that mean this is ocd, I don’t know what’s going on every time I say I’m straight I feel like I’m lying, but that might just be because I think about it so much. The idea of being with a woman doesn’t feel like something I would want, but is that just because I don’t want to want it? People online say things with so much sureness, if you feel like this it means this. Ect.
I did an erp and I was thinking over and over again “I want to be with girls I just don’t want others to find out” and then it felt like a moment of yeah that is what I want. It felt really real I can’t believe it’s not. I wasn’t anxious about it. It felt completely like me and even when I tried to deny it like it was a true realization and that I wanted it to be true. I can’t do this. What do I do!!! Erp suggestions?
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