Moral OCD/ Losing Relationships

does anyone have any tips on managing and controlling this? especially if you have said questionable things in the past or as a kid. A long 13 yr friendship of mine is ending and the ex friend really despises me.I can’t help but obsess and ruminate over what I could have possible done wrong even though they’re the one who said hateful things to me. I can’t help but wonder about all past friendships and ex friendships and whether it’s tied to me being a good/bad person. Does anyone have any advice on managing this? I try to reflect on different friendships and why it ended but still end up ruminating on my morality and self. Thank you ❤️

Username: Wolfram Wolfram

Date posted: 39w ago

Been there multiple times. Accept that it's could be anything that caused it and nobody was entirely to blame. Some people have stuff going on that you don't know about. I know its tough but you can use this as rocket fuel to get better if you feel motivated to not let ocd screw with your relationships again and get therapy

Username: Callum Callum

Date posted: 39w ago

I'm no psychologist so idk how good this advice is. But I find accepting the worst case scenario as fact really helps with ruminating: Not because it's necessarily true, but because when you say something like 'I lost my friendships because I'm a bad person', it removes a lot of the OCD influences. Once you get past the initial jolt of anxiety, you see things a lot clearer - You'll probably see you aren't a bad person and you probably don't care about the thought as much as you thought you did. By accepting the worst case scenario and removing that fear, paradoxically, you see that it was never the case in the first place.

Username: Jessella

Date posted: 6y ago

My ocd convinces me that I’m a bad person because my ex best friend left me due to us fighting because of my ocd :( have any advice?

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Username: Squid Melon

Date posted: 3y ago

Tips for dealing with morality/decisions? I recently found something out about a friend from another friend. It distresses me, but I don’t know where to go from here. My OCD is making it hard to make a choice because it’s saying “this should be an easy, black and white choice. You are bad for not instantly getting rid of this person”. I need help figuring out how *I* feel, not how the OCD feels. Does anyone have advice? I feel like utter trash, I won’t lie.

Username: SparklingCabage

Date posted: 2y ago

Need Help With Bad OCD Spiral Around Guilt

When I was in HS around 10 years ago I didn't have a good understanding around consent and had really inappropriate behaviour towards female classmates. My actions weren't super violent but they were also far from appropriate To this day at times guilt still eats me up even though I know much better now and would never do that. The OCD Obsesses over it to the point it makes me think if people knew I did this when I was a teenaged kid they wouldn't be friends with me today if they knew I touched people etc. When I didn't have a good understanding of boundaries. How can I manage this with my OCD? It won't stop

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