I have a big fear of dying and death. Is there anyone out there that isn’t afraid of this? If so, can you please give me your perspective on it?
Sharing my experience here since I've had the same fear when I was younger, I was petrified of idea of death but what I noticed is that fear slowly started to fade with time as I grew older and my perspectives about life started changing and I realized that death isn't as bad as people think, it's apart of life and there's no way around it, sooner or later we gonna hit that stop and get out of the bus which is life.
Yea, I can relate! I’m not a super religious or spiritual person which makes me more fearful of death. I’m actually struggling with an episode right now of harm OCD which a big part of it for me is being scared of dying so much that it causes a lot of panic and anxiety. I’ve tried to become more religious to become more familiar with the concept of death, which has helped a little. Overall, it’s definitely scary, so I do try to live day by day and think about what I can control in the present rather than worry so much about the future. The truth is we don’t know when we are going to die, but I rather keep living and be in the present than have this fear consuming my life. Still working on taking my own advice tho lol.
@Anonymous I’m the same way. I would love to believe that something is out there, but I’m not necessarily religious. I wish I was because i probably wouldn’t fear it as much! But I’m glad you can relate with me. 🤞
If u need any kind of advice to dismantle this fear I'm here, you'll be alright.
@Moha🍃 Thank you I really appreciate it. I noticed it kind of comes and goes. But everything related to my OCD is related to death or losing someone. So in a way, I’ve been indirectly thinking about death my whole life. I hate it though, I hope my perspective can change
@Anonymous Oh it will, but it won't be overnight, it'll take longer than we'd like and you gonna have to sit with discomfort now and then but it's doable!!
@Moha🍃 Thank you 💕
I’ve definitely struggled with this, sometimes I still get random waves of realization that holy crap, death is completely inevitable and I have no clue what’s waiting on the other side, or if there even is one. I think I just started to realize that it’s normal to fear the unknown, and the things we can’t control, but if there’s absolutely nothing I can do about it, is stressing really going to change anything? If I spend my life worrying about death, I’ll still die, and if I don’t worry about it, I’ll still die but at least I didn’t spend my life worrying about it. I know it’s all cliche to say, but if we can’t fix the outcome of our lives, we might as well just focus on all the things we can do now, right? I also found reading up on different cultures/religions perspectives on death a helpful thing, even if I don’t completely believe in any specific religion, I found it fun to learn about instead of only viewing death through a negative lens!
@Uphamia Thank you! This helps change my perspective a little bit! It’s definitely still really hard but I do want to try to stay in the moment. Thank you :)
Hello, I am a young girl struggling with OCD, specifically existential related OCD. I feel constantly like my life is pointless, like my goals aren’t significant, because, I’m just going to be forgotten and die. What is the point? I don’t want to get old and not be able to do what I love. Sometimes I wonder if not existing would be easier, but I don’t want to die yet. It’s really confusing, and I’d love some tips I could get for motivation. I really want to be spiritual, but I struggle in believing in stuff so…?
I haven't been officially diagnosed with OCD but when I learned more about it, I never related to anything more. A little back story: when I was younger, there were a couple of youth suicides in my area and the schools felt the need to have someone come in and talk about suicide. Well the person they had come in did a horrible job teaching it and basically made it seem like the smallest negative emotion or feeling or change in behavior made you suicidal. This ended up scaring me so much that I got horrid anxiety. Fast forward to now, Everytime I feel anxiety and panic, I fear I'm going to kill myself. Everytime I feel down and depressed, I fear I'll end it all. I'm scared to be around anything sharp because the "What if" I hurt myself comes into my mind. There are always intrusive thoughts at almost every point of the day. And it's not only for me. Everytime I hear someone being negative, I fear they will be suicidal. I know in my heart that none of this is true but it's terrifying me that it's stuck around so much that it makes me scared that maybe it is true. I've had a lot of death in my family in the past year and a half and a lot of other family drama that I'd never had before that is now also bringing up existential intrusive thoughts. And I'd never questioned anything about life before but now I get the "why is life like this?" and "does anything we do matter?" and I hate it. I don't want to think like that. I just want to go through life being able to handle things normally again. It terrifies me even right now going "what if you give up?"
Really bad theme right now is death, I keep thinking about how one day or at any moment my heart will stop my brain will stop & my memories & everything I know will all fade away. It is giving me so much anxiety I’m only 18, but I realize it all happens to us it is bound, we are born to die. I know it’s a silly thing to be scared because it’s not helping the quality of my life worrying about it and even when I do die, I won’t care , if you don’t have a working brain then how can you care 🤷♀️. It is tainting my everyday life currently & honestly making me terribly depressed & it is giving me derealization & making me feel nihilistic, I’ll remind myself it’s okay but then with my ocd i don’t stop thinking and thinking about it and it’s seriously so hard to stay present in the moment because this thought just feels like I can’t scrub it away it’s miserable I struggle with religion, but I do pray to anything that’s out there possibly listening, because it is comforting, it just feels like this whole experience Is pointless & I am afraid of the unknown and what is to possibly happen but I’m subjected to it anyways so why should it matter
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