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Iām dealing with this same thing. Got into a relationship quick and I wasnāt sure how I felt about her at the beginning. I feel like I started liking her but then ROCD comes in and gives me all these thoughts and I just donāt know whatās real and whatās not
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Yeah!! it sucks frfr Ita hard too because this bout of ocd started thr first time he stayed over and we got together coz its new i guess? But now its attatched itself to him and i get scared about seeing him :((
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I'm experiencing the same thing! Severly! Intensly and totally out of control! I'm having panic attacks and I'm taking pills for it. I totally get it but you need to have therapy sessions as I'm also having. You don't need to give your relationship up! It's not the answer because it keeps happening again and again with other people as well! You only need to treat it!
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Im trying to use my tools I learned in therapy - its harder when he stays over as I cant really do much as i dont want to wake him up, but im trying to get myself a bit more under control then ill face having him stay over again
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@Doot šŗ I lost a relationship because of these thoughts and I regret it deeply! But I'm not gonna let it happen again.... I hope you can also manage these shitty stupid thoughts that are not even slightly true!
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- 19w
Do you ever feel like you wonder if your ocd would be less if you were with someone else? Or would it be better if you were with someone else? Iām really upset because I used to be able to enjoy myself even with the anxiety and now itās like i am just analyzing and I donāt have feelings and Iām irritated because thereās things that frustrate me about him that I donāt like and my brain says if I was with someone else I would be able to deal with those things better and that we just arenāt right for each other. And the thoughts that used to make me anxious about breaking up donāt like itās really me that feels it. I know no relationship is perfect but itās like my brain keeps saying with someone else I wouldnāt feel like this or I would but Iād be able to handle it better. It feels like I have to just start fresh with someone new cause the ocd got too into this to the point where I donāt feel or even know whatās real. It feels like fear and anxiety and just being so into this has just made me feel not into this anymore but idk if Iām thinking right. Itās also just warped the way I see him like I only see the negatives and my brain keeps saying you donāt feel this cause itās wrong. And itās depressing bc of how happy and safe I used to feel. Iām supposed to see him soon and itās like I want to but also donāt because I feel like things have changed unless thatās just something I made in my head and cause I donāt feel the feelings I used to. But then I think I will just be this way with someone else but then my brain says otherwise and itās so confusing. People keep telling me not to make decisions because Iām fogged but it feels like Iām not. Like my brain is manipulating me. And also like all the things I used to like Iāve somehow turned into like distaste which is so upsetting. I would like to think this is just ocd taking control and confusing me and distorting my perspective but Iām scared itās not and that my feelings are gone. Has anyone experienced this but it was still ocd?
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I know itās long but plz read :( have been having really bad ocd about my relationship and my partner and it has gotten worse and worse over the span of like about nine months Iād say. I do acknowledge there are flaws and legit issues about him and the relationship like there are with anyone but I also know ocd has clouded my judgement and perception by analyzing everything and compulsions. For a while I kept feeling this need to get out which I know was ocd. I was really scared to spend the weekend with him because I thought I would just be annoyed and irritated cause itās been that way for a while but he also was going through a period of high stress so maybe I was resenting him for that and I also wasnāt communicating how I should have been when I was upset because Iāve done that too much in the past. This weekend I was told in therapy to just be in the moment and not have to worry about trying to answer the question of do I love him or should I break up. It did help but Itās weird cause this weekend ended up better but I also was kind of numb? Like I was enjoying myself but didnāt feel what I always have felt in the past? Anyway, I am really anxious because i feel like if I loved him I would be supportive of when his parents compliment him or when he does well at something when instead all I think of are that Iām not happy or annoyed because of things he does that upset me or make me mad and itās like thatās the only way my brain wants to see him as a person. Or when he is upset it feels like I donāt care like I used to because I think of how he doesnāt deserve this when he does this or he shouldnāt have this when he is like this etc. Why does my brain automatically go there? Thatās horrible! I feel like I should be excited for him, rooting for him. But it also feels like I do care for him? But my thoughts keep changing. I am afraid I only am with him because I love that he loves me and how he treats me. This makes me feel selfish cause I canāt do that. I notice I still like when he cuddles me and is sweet to me and does fun things watching movies etc. And thatās not how it used to feeel which scares me because I donāt want to be without him. I also love his parents am I only with him cause of how his parents treat me? I feel so selfish and like I have to tell him and break up with him cause itās the right thing to do. I never used to feel like this. Iām scared. Is it possible Iām just Iāve been mad and resenting how itās been cause heās been stressed mix with my ocd? My therapist said relationships can go through phases. Can I fall back in love with him again? I feel like I have to try to start with someone else like this is too far gone. I donāt want to stay in something where I donāt feel toward him the way I want to but I really donāt want to leave him. I feel like such an awful person cause he doesnāt deserve this and is so caring and loving despite everything the major thing that bugs me is how he gets irritable a lot which is an imperfection that makes me get anxious and question himš trying not to read into this and just follow what the therapist said but this is scaring me because I feel like if I loved him I wouldnāt think like this or feel like this.
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- 17w
for a few days now Iāve been super anxious about my relationship. Iāve been anxious about it before but lately itās been worse than normal. Iām in a very healthy and loving relationship, I love my boyfriend so much and he treats me so so well. The only thing is that Iāve been having scary thoughts that what if Iām lying to him and donāt actually love him? What if I donāt find him attractive? And like what if the only way to stop being anxious is to break up with him? I donāt want to leave him and I am so scared. I feel like Iām lying to him by not telling him whatās going on because he might think Iām actually going to leave him, which Iām really not going to. I have had anxiety since before we started dating and incestual and sexual ocd, then I got into a point where I started having religious ocd, and now I have ROCD on top of that I think. Iāve never been diagnosed but Iām going to therapy and figuring things out but Iām so scared. Idk what to do and I feel like if I talk to anyone theyāre going to say I have to leave him.
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