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Iâm dealing with this same thing. Got into a relationship quick and I wasnât sure how I felt about her at the beginning. I feel like I started liking her but then ROCD comes in and gives me all these thoughts and I just donât know whatâs real and whatâs not
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Yeah!! it sucks frfr Ita hard too because this bout of ocd started thr first time he stayed over and we got together coz its new i guess? But now its attatched itself to him and i get scared about seeing him :((
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I'm experiencing the same thing! Severly! Intensly and totally out of control! I'm having panic attacks and I'm taking pills for it. I totally get it but you need to have therapy sessions as I'm also having. You don't need to give your relationship up! It's not the answer because it keeps happening again and again with other people as well! You only need to treat it!
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Im trying to use my tools I learned in therapy - its harder when he stays over as I cant really do much as i dont want to wake him up, but im trying to get myself a bit more under control then ill face having him stay over again
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@Doot đș I lost a relationship because of these thoughts and I regret it deeply! But I'm not gonna let it happen again.... I hope you can also manage these shitty stupid thoughts that are not even slightly true!
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- 19w
Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.
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- 17w
for me itâs getting to the point where i donât feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. iâm trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. itâs like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i canât catch a break. itâs like i want to be with him so bad but my brain wonât allow me. any advice?
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- 16w
Iâve been really struggling the last week and I need some help. Iâve been seeing a guy for about 2 months who checks a lot of my relationship boxes. Heâs so kind and we have a lot of fun together. The first few weeks I was totally smitten but had moments of fear about being committed. We talked about it and decided to take things slowly, and then I would have days of feeling like every thing was perfect with some fearful feelings in between. Two weeks ago now my SO-OCD and ROCD started to come back a little as well as my more anxious-avoidant behaviors. I started to get more scared of the future and it was more intense. At the end of last week, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. He is exactly the type of person I see myself marrying and has great values and is so secure about me. Until last week, he generally made me feel so safe and secure. Ever since saying yes, I feel so scared and anxious and my SO-OCD and ROCD is on max. I also find myself getting more annoyed and irritated about things that were minor annoyances or non-issues before. Iâm having intense physical responses to both OCD themes, and the nagging thought and feeling that I need to end things with him because we arenât right for each other. It makes me feel so sad and guilty. Sex is becoming harder because of the thoughts too, whereas at first it was perfect. I donât know who I can talk to about this without them telling me to just break up with him. Everything is so new so I think theyâd chalk it up to my intuition. But I do want to be in love and have less fear around relationships, so I donât want to give into the fear. I think it could help me to set boundaries and have space for myself more often. I think I need some advice or insight. I know I shouldnât ask for reassurance, but having some around how other people have felt at the beginning of a relationship would help. Why is it that the label is freaking me out so much? How do you guys set boundaries to prioritize yourself when you feel this way?
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