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Iām dealing with this same thing. Got into a relationship quick and I wasnāt sure how I felt about her at the beginning. I feel like I started liking her but then ROCD comes in and gives me all these thoughts and I just donāt know whatās real and whatās not
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Yeah!! it sucks frfr Ita hard too because this bout of ocd started thr first time he stayed over and we got together coz its new i guess? But now its attatched itself to him and i get scared about seeing him :((
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I'm experiencing the same thing! Severly! Intensly and totally out of control! I'm having panic attacks and I'm taking pills for it. I totally get it but you need to have therapy sessions as I'm also having. You don't need to give your relationship up! It's not the answer because it keeps happening again and again with other people as well! You only need to treat it!
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Im trying to use my tools I learned in therapy - its harder when he stays over as I cant really do much as i dont want to wake him up, but im trying to get myself a bit more under control then ill face having him stay over again
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@Doot šŗ I lost a relationship because of these thoughts and I regret it deeply! But I'm not gonna let it happen again.... I hope you can also manage these shitty stupid thoughts that are not even slightly true!
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- 22w
Iāve been really struggling the last week and I need some help. Iāve been seeing a guy for about 2 months who checks a lot of my relationship boxes. Heās so kind and we have a lot of fun together. The first few weeks I was totally smitten but had moments of fear about being committed. We talked about it and decided to take things slowly, and then I would have days of feeling like every thing was perfect with some fearful feelings in between. Two weeks ago now my SO-OCD and ROCD started to come back a little as well as my more anxious-avoidant behaviors. I started to get more scared of the future and it was more intense. At the end of last week, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. He is exactly the type of person I see myself marrying and has great values and is so secure about me. Until last week, he generally made me feel so safe and secure. Ever since saying yes, I feel so scared and anxious and my SO-OCD and ROCD is on max. I also find myself getting more annoyed and irritated about things that were minor annoyances or non-issues before. Iām having intense physical responses to both OCD themes, and the nagging thought and feeling that I need to end things with him because we arenāt right for each other. It makes me feel so sad and guilty. Sex is becoming harder because of the thoughts too, whereas at first it was perfect. I donāt know who I can talk to about this without them telling me to just break up with him. Everything is so new so I think theyād chalk it up to my intuition. But I do want to be in love and have less fear around relationships, so I donāt want to give into the fear. I think it could help me to set boundaries and have space for myself more often. I think I need some advice or insight. I know I shouldnāt ask for reassurance, but having some around how other people have felt at the beginning of a relationship would help. Why is it that the label is freaking me out so much? How do you guys set boundaries to prioritize yourself when you feel this way?
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- 16w
Do you ever feel like you wonder if your ocd would be less if you were with someone else? Or would it be better if you were with someone else? Iām really upset because I used to be able to enjoy myself even with the anxiety and now itās like i am just analyzing and I donāt have feelings and Iām irritated because thereās things that frustrate me about him that I donāt like and my brain says if I was with someone else I would be able to deal with those things better and that we just arenāt right for each other. And the thoughts that used to make me anxious about breaking up donāt like itās really me that feels it. I know no relationship is perfect but itās like my brain keeps saying with someone else I wouldnāt feel like this or I would but Iād be able to handle it better. It feels like I have to just start fresh with someone new cause the ocd got too into this to the point where I donāt feel or even know whatās real. It feels like fear and anxiety and just being so into this has just made me feel not into this anymore but idk if Iām thinking right. Itās also just warped the way I see him like I only see the negatives and my brain keeps saying you donāt feel this cause itās wrong. And itās depressing bc of how happy and safe I used to feel. Iām supposed to see him soon and itās like I want to but also donāt because I feel like things have changed unless thatās just something I made in my head and cause I donāt feel the feelings I used to. But then I think I will just be this way with someone else but then my brain says otherwise and itās so confusing. People keep telling me not to make decisions because Iām fogged but it feels like Iām not. Like my brain is manipulating me. And also like all the things I used to like Iāve somehow turned into like distaste which is so upsetting. I would like to think this is just ocd taking control and confusing me and distorting my perspective but Iām scared itās not and that my feelings are gone. Has anyone experienced this but it was still ocd?
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I know itās long but plz read :( have been having really bad ocd about my relationship and my partner and it has gotten worse and worse over the span of like about nine months Iād say. I do acknowledge there are flaws and legit issues about him and the relationship like there are with anyone but I also know ocd has clouded my judgement and perception by analyzing everything and compulsions. For a while I kept feeling this need to get out which I know was ocd. I was really scared to spend the weekend with him because I thought I would just be annoyed and irritated cause itās been that way for a while but he also was going through a period of high stress so maybe I was resenting him for that and I also wasnāt communicating how I should have been when I was upset because Iāve done that too much in the past. This weekend I was told in therapy to just be in the moment and not have to worry about trying to answer the question of do I love him or should I break up. It did help but Itās weird cause this weekend ended up better but I also was kind of numb? Like I was enjoying myself but didnāt feel what I always have felt in the past? Anyway, I am really anxious because i feel like if I loved him I would be supportive of when his parents compliment him or when he does well at something when instead all I think of are that Iām not happy or annoyed because of things he does that upset me or make me mad and itās like thatās the only way my brain wants to see him as a person. Or when he is upset it feels like I donāt care like I used to because I think of how he doesnāt deserve this when he does this or he shouldnāt have this when he is like this etc. Why does my brain automatically go there? Thatās horrible! I feel like I should be excited for him, rooting for him. But it also feels like I do care for him? But my thoughts keep changing. I am afraid I only am with him because I love that he loves me and how he treats me. This makes me feel selfish cause I canāt do that. I notice I still like when he cuddles me and is sweet to me and does fun things watching movies etc. And thatās not how it used to feeel which scares me because I donāt want to be without him. I also love his parents am I only with him cause of how his parents treat me? I feel so selfish and like I have to tell him and break up with him cause itās the right thing to do. I never used to feel like this. Iām scared. Is it possible Iām just Iāve been mad and resenting how itās been cause heās been stressed mix with my ocd? My therapist said relationships can go through phases. Can I fall back in love with him again? I feel like I have to try to start with someone else like this is too far gone. I donāt want to stay in something where I donāt feel toward him the way I want to but I really donāt want to leave him. I feel like such an awful person cause he doesnāt deserve this and is so caring and loving despite everything the major thing that bugs me is how he gets irritable a lot which is an imperfection that makes me get anxious and question himš trying not to read into this and just follow what the therapist said but this is scaring me because I feel like if I loved him I wouldnāt think like this or feel like this.
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