Questioning why try to be a good person

This question is from a religious perspective. I know we have to be good, but we cant be all good, we have to stop sin, but we cant stop sinning fully and we are saved either way, cause its not our actions that sends us to heaven, its God's grace. So anyone who accepted Christ as their saviour its saved, he can still sin, he can still be a bad person, unkind with people, have sex before marriage, do bad things, he is still saved. This makes me angry cause i try everytime to eb a better person and sometimes i just get tired cause i get alot of temptation and i fight to not act on it and be kind person but then i get tired of it cause of many things, and i see people that accept Jesus but they still live an earthly life and enjoy their life better than I do, and they will be in heaven too. Im not saying thes shouldnt, im just talking about whats the point of all of this? If i try to be a better person i get hit by how sinful i am,i feel guilt and i want to avoid being sinful but it doesnt work, and i feel guilt repenting, and there are others who just live their life like others. I have really bad sexual temptations, i dont know if i will be able to not have sex with my girlfriend(when i will have one) im always thinking that i will fight somehow, but there are other christian who doesnt wait till marriage and nothing bad happens, they feel a little bad but they still do it, they are happy, and i will be there struggling to not sin, and maybe it will even do bad for the relationship... What's the point? I struggle with this alot, if im saved why do i have to fight so hard to not sin if im unable to be fully sinful but im still saved? It's like we know its bad to steal food from a store but they would say " you wont get fined or penalty for that but pls dont do it" you will say okay but what happens if youre starving and you dont have money? You dont get any penalty, of course you will steal instead of dying by starvation, and then you live freely... they still welcome you to the store. I know this shows how God really loves us and its beautiful, but then why try to be soo good, why try to be like Jesus if we can never be like that... and as i said many "sins" doesnt seem like its really hurted someone, like i know christian people who had sex before marriage and they still live happily. Or i heard people saying they dont feel bad or guilt having sex with random girls and they are christians... Im struggling with having thoughts that many things i do is a sin and i want to think its okay Jesus saved me, but i feel like a bad person, that i use Jesus pain to just sin...

Religion & Spirituality OCD

Username: Tea and HoneyTea and Honey

Date posted: 38w ago

I think that when Christians choose to sin, it’s not that they live happily. God disciplines his children who sin. And a sinful lifestyle always leads to heartache. For example, a Christian friend of mine had an affair. Then she started bringing over the boyfriend when her children were at home, and now the boyfriend lives with them, I think. This has brought damage on the children. One of the children used to love God and play a lot. Now she watches TV all day and seems unsure if she wants to follow God anymore. She’s very lonely and struggling in school. It’s not healthy for anybody when we choose to live in sin. People who choose to do things God’s way often have better lives. For example, another Christian couple waited until marriage to have sex. They have been married over 20 years and have been faithful to each other, and their children are strong and healthy and happy. They are financially stable, and they don’t have “ghosts“ in the closet of past sexual relationships. Instead, they are still in love with each other. They chose not to live a sinful lifestyle, and it paid off financially, with great stability. It also paid off with great, stable relationships and love that will last forever. God gives us boundaries for a reason—because it really is the best way to live our lives. If you choose not to sin, it will enrich your life, especially in the long-term. It will pay off. However, if you do sin, it will lead to pain and suffering (in the long-term). But God can forgive us and use that pain to develop our character. I don’t think people “get away” with sinning, whether they are Christians or not. But God can redeem sin.

Username: PRIV8PRIV8

Date posted: 38w ago

I dont know than why do i suffer more with trying to be good and not sin. Everytime i feel like im being a fraud, im trying to be better than others, im egoistic i just want to be higher than others... its really made me feel tired. I think things i do are sins, but i dont want to stop it cause i enjoy it and it might not be sins tho i just think it is but then i feel like im just trying to make myself like im perfect and i dont sin... its really hard to for me to repent and see actual sins cause i always feel so guilty

Username: Tea and HoneyTea and Honey

Date posted: 38w ago

@PRIV8 I have some some excerpts from Psalm 37 for you to think about, then let’s go deeper. Psalm 37:1-2, 7-40 ”Don’t be upset because of evil people. Don’t be jealous of those who do wrong, because like the grass, they will soon dry up. Like green plants, they will soon die away… Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him; Do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, Because of the man who carries out wicked schemes. Cease from anger and forsake wrath; Do not fret; it leads only to evildoing. For evildoers will be cut off, But those who wait for the Lord, they will inherit the land. Yet a little while and the wicked man will be no more; And you will look carefully for his place and he will not be there. ”But the humble will inherit the land And will delight themselves in abundant prosperity. The wicked plots against the righteous And gnashes at him with his teeth. The Lord laughs at him, For He sees his day is coming. The wicked have drawn the sword and bent their bow To cast down the afflicted and the needy, To slay those who are upright in conduct. Their sword will enter their own heart, And their bows will be broken. Better is the little of the righteous Than the abundance of many wicked. For the arms of the wicked will be broken, But the Lord sustains the righteous. The Lord knows the days of the blameless, And their inheritance will be forever. They will not be ashamed in the time of evil, And in the days of famine they will have abundance. But the wicked will perish; And the enemies of the Lord will be like the glory of the pastures, They vanish—like smoke they vanish away. The wicked borrows and does not pay back, But the righteous is gracious and gives. For those blessed by Him will inherit the land, But those cursed by Him will be cut off. The steps of a man are established by the Lord, And He delights in his way. When he falls, he will not be hurled headlong, Because the Lord is the One who holds his hand. I have been young and now I am old, Yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken Or his descendants begging bread. All day long he is gracious and lends, And his descendants are a blessing. Depart from evil and do good, So you will abide forever. For the Lord loves justice And does not forsake His godly ones; They are preserved forever, But the descendants of the wicked will be cut off. The righteous will inherit the land And dwell in it forever. The mouth of the righteous utters wisdom, And his tongue speaks justice. The law of his God is in his heart; His steps do not slip. The wicked spies upon the righteous And seeks to kill him. The Lord will not leave him in his hand Or let him be condemned when he is judged. Wait for the Lord and keep His way, And He will exalt you to inherit the land; When the wicked are cut off, you will see it. I have seen a wicked, violent man Spreading himself like a luxuriant tree in its native soil. Then he passed away, and lo, he was no more; I sought for him, but he could not be found. Mark the blameless man, and behold the upright; For the man of peace will have a posterity. But transgressors will be altogether destroyed; The posterity of the wicked will be cut off. But the salvation of the righteous is from the Lord; He is their strength in time of trouble. The Lord helps them and delivers them; He delivers them from the wicked and saves them, Because they take refuge in Him.“ ‭‭

Username: Tea and HoneyTea and Honey

Date posted: 38w ago

@PRIV8 I think the answers for you might come when you go deeper. Talking with a Christian who really understands might help. Help me understand more. You are always living in a state of guilt? Unsure what things are sin and what isn’t, I hear you and want to help so much! I think maybe talking to a person you trust might help. You could maybe sit down and have a long conversation and then you could go deeper and process all your questions. That might really help. Just to talk about everything and process everything through and answer all your questions. It’s sad because those people are hard to find. I would would love to talk more if you ever need it. But I think in this world, we try to understand life on our own, but we were meant to process and overcome trials in life with a community and in friendship. :):)

Username: Shubham Shubham

Date posted: 38w ago

I guess that as a Hindu, I'll like to answer your questions. The definition of sin is very vague, atleast when we think about it. It may represent the cultural norms of a community from a distant era. It may represent thier knowledge and ignorance. I guess in today's lifestyle, having compassion, never ever indulging into actions which hurt innocent people or anything , never doing something which promotes negative emotions within you like revenge , egoistism , jealousy etc. I guess that's enough ! In short, be happy always abs let others be happy! That's it. All the best my friend 😊

Username: OCDFamilyOCDFamily

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 38w ago

Would it help you to focus more on helping others? You are saved by grace and not works, but it may help your mindset to do less pondering...?

Username: Magzzz

Date posted: 4y ago

I made a huge mistake in the past. Going into it I didn't know at the time how bad the mistake was until a long time later. I so badly wish I could go back and fix it and change it. I hate myself and I feel like I deserve to die. I talked to my parents about it and they told me that I need to just let it go and stop beating myself up and that I've punished myself enough but I can't seem to shake it off and move on. I'm a Christian so I do believe Jesus died on the cross for our sins but why do I feel so bad. I feel so guilty. I would NEVER make the same mistake again knowing what I know now. Do I deserve a second chance? Is it possible that OCD can make it worse than it actually is? I need help 😭

Username: PRIV8

Date posted: 1y ago

How you accept that you are sinful?

If i try to accept i feel so much guilt and sad and even depressed like im a bad person and i have to fix this, but i realize to that then i become perfectionist, and its really exhausting to always be perfect for God, and you become obsessive with that, its not healthy. But i cant accept im like this and this is okay cause God still loves me... i still feel bad about being sinful... so then i say to myself that maybe im not sinful cause i really avoid many bad things, so i might be good but then i get guilt again cause "who i am to say that im not sinful, im a human too, i cant say that"... This might come from me not knowing what is really a sin, there are alot of things people call sins, but i want to understand why is it a sin. This really makes me not enjoy my life cause i call sin many things i enjoy doing and now i feel guilty about doing them...

Religion & Spirituality OCD

Username: JessiJess

Date posted: 1y ago

Way way overthinking

I have completely lost myself. I was doing so well yesterday. I have absolutely no desire to hurt anyone but why does it bother me that I couldn’t hurt someone even if I wanted to. Like Do i really want to? I know my belief in God fully convicts my heart but why would I want to do it. My heart just wants to praise God but I even question why God made our hearts to praise him. Like why is it bothering me? I loved to be a good person and I truly want to be the old me again but why does it feel like I just don’t want to. I’m so scared. I don’t want to go to hell but why is murder in my mind. Is this existential more than harm OCD? I’m sorry if this is a confusing post.

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