ROCD ?

@OCDisQUICKSAND Both. Ik i suffered of ocd in the past with different themes since I’ve been 6. I’m now in a relationship with someone who is great and make me happy but because i don’t feel certain standards of love and don’t feel certain things i should I keep on feeling like im just in denial and im not in love with him not matter how much i want to. If you go on my profil you can see posts which explains my situation in more details. It’s pretty tiring and I just want to love him stop doubting and just live happy with him

@Lysaribeiro On days I deal with this, I just force myself to go on the date with him, be affectionate etc and it goes great and I realize it’s just the OCD.

@Hopefloats227 That’s also what I do but then I still feel it and think “if I do things for the sake of the relationship and not for him maybe it means I don’t truly love him”

@Lysaribeiro Maybe you don’t love him… you’re on here looking for reassurance which will make things worse. You need to say “maybe” to everything and just sit in the anxiety.

@OCDisQUICKSAND Just saying this gives me such anxiety tho. It’s like a hit in my chest. I want to love him more than anything I can’t accept that I might not love him

@OCDisQUICKSAND Please tell me that’s not what you truly think 😢

@Lysaribeiro He’s sharing with you the therapy that treats OCD.

@Hopefloats227 I heard about that therapy but I still really struggle with it because this voice that I don’t love him feels so strong so when I practice this exercise of just saying “maybe” I just feel like I’m in denial because I’m deciding to just ignore it

@Lysaribeiro I KNOW you love him by the simple fact you have ROCD but that’s reassurance. You need to accept the uncertainty and sit in the anxiety. It sucks but it gets better trust me.

@OCDisQUICKSAND It does sucks and it is very tiring. It feels so real it is difficult to shake it off

@Lysaribeiro Being on this site is probably a compulsion for you though (it is for all of us). Don’t look for reassurance anywhere. Don’t look for feelings of love. You’ll be alright if you start doing “maybe statements”. What’s your therapist saying?

@OCDisQUICKSAND The issue is that I don’t have a therapist… I’m a student so therapy sessions are way too expensive for me and my insurance doesn’t cover any sessions no matter who it is with

@Lysaribeiro Gotcha. Yeah it’s crazy expensive. Check this out. I made it for exactly your situation: https://youtube.com/shorts/VKujCIZAoXg?si=dIi-L1bWK6syCe36

@OCDisQUICKSAND Yh it and the hardest is when I start thinking “I don’t have ROCD in just using that as an excuse” I just checked this out this is great thank you I’ll give it a follow

@Lysaribeiro Yeah which ROCD does. Remember that you wouldn’t have “ocd feelings” if you really didn’t love him. You’d be bummed and maybe anxious about initiating the break up, but it wouldn’t be like what you are going through now. Try standing in front of the mirror and saying “maybe I don’t love my boyfriend”. And that’s it. Nothing else. Just lean into it.