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You wouldn’t shame someone for catching a cold off someone they had sex with, right ? STI’s are no different. We associate STI’s with “sluts” and being “dirty” because society has had a really awful relationship with sex that includes shaming people, particularly women, for catching something. And these attitudes still creep into culture today. One of those attitudes is our bias against people who have caught sti’s. But medically, they’re just infections you caught off another person that can be treated successfully (majority of them) with antibiotics. No biggie. You did the responsible thing by getting checked. The likelihood of one of those six people passing it on to you is extremely high. Meaning they’re shaming you for being informed about your health when they chose not to be. You did the responsible thing and that isn’t hard.
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- 5y ago
I don’t have a story but I am sorry you feel this way or what happened to you. These events don’t define who you are as a person and I am sure your partner respects you also, no matter what. You did your thing and informed them of what you had, so they took the risk also. I hope that you find a solution for condoms. They are the best thing for protected sex and it sucks that you can’t find any comfort. Good luck. Don’t feel ashamed. It happened. It went. Eventually, this feeling will pass too. Hope you can solve this out!! ?
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- 5y ago
I go every six months to get checked and six months ago I was fine, so it was one of those six people but I don't judge any of them, I just am glad that who ever it was is also cured now or almost cured. Guys you are so so so lovely!! Thank you two so much ❤️❤️ I feel better about it today, and yes I think people shouldn't be ashamed of STDs, I think people should be more open if they feel brave enough. But I also agree that condoms are best to use and I will never be so promiscuous again. I have learnt from my mistake, and now I have a boyfriend, I'm ganna make sure fully that we are both free from everything, and then have unprotected sex, and be sensible and instead of keep taking the morning after pill, there is a reason why I haven't looked into contraceptives, because so many people in my family have bad reactions to them and my mum has a history of blood clot, but I will seriously consider it even tho the guy I'm with is absolutely perfect, buys me absolutely everything and is kind and caring, and he said he'd be here for me if I ever did get pregnant from the pull out, but I will wait 4 months being with him until we go unprotected again. I have been risky and this is a wake up call. Xx
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- 5y ago
I’m so glad you’re feeling better ! The pill isn’t the only option for contraception if you’re worried about blood clots or how you might react. Look into iud’s !
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Thank you, will definitely do this xx
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Hi, I'm 17,about to be 18. I've been struggling with these thoughts for the past 8 months. I was wondering if someone experienced ever the same because I feel im "different". BACKGROUND: (I'm not diagnosed with Ocd but seeing a local counselor) About 9 months ago I cheated on my boyfriend with this guy S (who blackmailed, manipulated and molested me). Since then when I realized that what i did was very WRONG and so I started ruminating picking apart every single interaction and telling my boyfriend, i tried to remember every single detail because otherwise I felt like i was being a fraud and hiding things to save myself, i had many crisis about it because I had also what i think was false memory ocd. My boyfriend forgave me idk how tbh I still wonder. CURRENT STRUGGLE: Months ago I was sure I didn't wanna S in any way and i was sure even when everything happened. For the past 2 months tho I've been having thoughts like " Do I love S?" "I love S" "S is hot" "Would S find me hot?" "What if I want S?" " What if I don't love my boyfriend enough?" "What if I secretly want S?" "What if I see my boyfriend as a friend only?Do I?" And I tried testing my reaction to intimate scenarios with S, I'm scared I like it i dont really wanna love S or have any secret attraction, I wish I didn't have any of this and I want to be sure of my feelings for my boyfriend because I know I wanna be with him and I see a future with him like he brings me comfort. But a part of me keeps trying to convince me otherwise. Sometimes I think I'd rather die than have these thoughts. Im so scared of not being able to control my feelings, im scared I can't resist S and its giving me anxiety and making me cry. Sometimes when i think of those sexual scenarios with S or I get those thoughts my mind tells me to smile because i like it because I find it funny. It makes me doubt myself all over again. Like I'm always like I need to test if I'd feel aroused to intimate scenarios with S, lately im trying to fight this urge to test and test but my mind is like "just do it this once so you can be sure. I can never watch anything romantic or sexual or whatever because my mind would be like "you and S" or sometimes I'm just enjoying time with my bf and im like " yes we can just have a sneaky cheating thing thats ok" and it makes me want to figure it out to find an answer a solution because idk it just does like I need to find the meaning of it if it means the truth and all. Im worried im just an awful person and these thoughts just ruin my quality of life . Today i had a crisis where i ended up doinf swlf harm, I'm so scared of finding someone that's not my boyfriend desirable or sexual appealing or whatever it is, I also have bodily reactions when I try to imagine and test my reaction to scenarios. Now i keep groing everytime and I dont know why but i have this sensation and I dont want to havebit especially when its something S related. Does someone experience the same thoughts? Am I alone in this? Is this ROCD? What should i do?
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