- Username
- MissLovely
- Date posted
- 5y ago
You wouldn’t shame someone for catching a cold off someone they had sex with, right ? STI’s are no different. We associate STI’s with “sluts” and being “dirty” because society has had a really awful relationship with sex that includes shaming people, particularly women, for catching something. And these attitudes still creep into culture today. One of those attitudes is our bias against people who have caught sti’s. But medically, they’re just infections you caught off another person that can be treated successfully (majority of them) with antibiotics. No biggie. You did the responsible thing by getting checked. The likelihood of one of those six people passing it on to you is extremely high. Meaning they’re shaming you for being informed about your health when they chose not to be. You did the responsible thing and that isn’t hard.
I don’t have a story but I am sorry you feel this way or what happened to you. These events don’t define who you are as a person and I am sure your partner respects you also, no matter what. You did your thing and informed them of what you had, so they took the risk also. I hope that you find a solution for condoms. They are the best thing for protected sex and it sucks that you can’t find any comfort. Good luck. Don’t feel ashamed. It happened. It went. Eventually, this feeling will pass too. Hope you can solve this out!! ?
I go every six months to get checked and six months ago I was fine, so it was one of those six people but I don't judge any of them, I just am glad that who ever it was is also cured now or almost cured. Guys you are so so so lovely!! Thank you two so much ❤️❤️ I feel better about it today, and yes I think people shouldn't be ashamed of STDs, I think people should be more open if they feel brave enough. But I also agree that condoms are best to use and I will never be so promiscuous again. I have learnt from my mistake, and now I have a boyfriend, I'm ganna make sure fully that we are both free from everything, and then have unprotected sex, and be sensible and instead of keep taking the morning after pill, there is a reason why I haven't looked into contraceptives, because so many people in my family have bad reactions to them and my mum has a history of blood clot, but I will seriously consider it even tho the guy I'm with is absolutely perfect, buys me absolutely everything and is kind and caring, and he said he'd be here for me if I ever did get pregnant from the pull out, but I will wait 4 months being with him until we go unprotected again. I have been risky and this is a wake up call. Xx
I’m so glad you’re feeling better ! The pill isn’t the only option for contraception if you’re worried about blood clots or how you might react. Look into iud’s !
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Thank you, will definitely do this xx
After being sexually assaulted I developed a fear of sex and as a protection my OCD became obsessed with STDs and I’ve been tested a million times for everything they will test me for (they strongly recommended against testing me for herpes because everyone has it in some form and if you’re not showing symptoms and using protection it is near impossible to pass on so it doesn’t matter until you want to settle down and there is a big stigma) I’ve always come back clean, even for the random shit I googled like mycoplasma that I begged to be to be tested for. I still freak out. And now since I am starting to believe I am ok I don’t want to have sex with someone else Incase they infect me (even though if we use condoms and they get the routine test for HIV, Hep, Syphillis, Gonnorhea , and Chlymidia) the odds are slim. What do I do!!! And I agonize over whether I should disclose I have HPV even though my gyno says no because everyone has it (literally the CDC says that) and it goes away on its own almost always and dude to the lack of education it would do more harm than good. I think I am just finding reasons to avoid intimacy at this point and my OCD is making me intensely fearful about my sexual health in a very painful way to distract me, and I can’t deal. I’d rather just confront my issues.
I went through a hoe phase when I was 18 and I’ve never been tested for hepatitis because I’m too scared to. In a way I feel like it’d be better not to get tested because most people don’t get tested for that so if I had it and knew it would just cause too much emotional harm for what it’s worth. Then another part of me is like WELL MOST PEOPLE DON’T GET TESTED FOR IT BECAUSE MOST PEOPLE ARE STUPID AND THE REASON THE DOCTORS DON’T INCLUDE IT IN AN STD PANEL IS BECAUSE MOST DOCTORS ARE STUPID, BE BETTER THAN THESE IDIOTS AND TEST FOR IT ALLLL, IT’S YOUR HEALTH YOU HAVE TO KNOWWWW!!!!!!! I also hooked up with an older woman right before I went celibate and now I have the EXACT same train of thought about getting tested for herpes again like’ “What is a 59 year old woman with a FAMILY doing hooking up with a 21 year old woman at a bar??? She must be trashy, you probably got something from her!!!! You just ruined your future sex life FOREVERRRR and the head was trash too, good going idiot!!! Now you’ll never be able to have sex with your future boyfriend or husband and IF you do you’ll always be valueless and replaceable and he’ll cheat on you!!!” Ok this whole confession is embarrassing AS SHIT and trashy as hell and I’m super embarrassed to be putting this here, I was young and dumb and a fucking idiot, I’m genuinely SO happy I’m celibate now
Question for men: would you care if your girlfriend tried a sugar baby site in the past? I tried it with a friend when I was in deep credit card debt and I got out of a bad relationship. I was in a self destructive mode. I ended up getting taken advantage of and not given anything and deleting my account after a month or so. I realized after that these men treat women like prostitutes and it’s not like dating at all. I guess when I was in a bad place and naive I believed such things. I now obsess that no one will love me and I have to confess my past. I was raised to be classy and not promiscuous so I get a lot of guilt over this time in my life from a. Few years ago. Nowadays I work full time during the week and part time as a cashier on the weekends to pay off my debt and I wish I always did it this honest way.
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