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You wouldn’t shame someone for catching a cold off someone they had sex with, right ? STI’s are no different. We associate STI’s with “sluts” and being “dirty” because society has had a really awful relationship with sex that includes shaming people, particularly women, for catching something. And these attitudes still creep into culture today. One of those attitudes is our bias against people who have caught sti’s. But medically, they’re just infections you caught off another person that can be treated successfully (majority of them) with antibiotics. No biggie. You did the responsible thing by getting checked. The likelihood of one of those six people passing it on to you is extremely high. Meaning they’re shaming you for being informed about your health when they chose not to be. You did the responsible thing and that isn’t hard.
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I don’t have a story but I am sorry you feel this way or what happened to you. These events don’t define who you are as a person and I am sure your partner respects you also, no matter what. You did your thing and informed them of what you had, so they took the risk also. I hope that you find a solution for condoms. They are the best thing for protected sex and it sucks that you can’t find any comfort. Good luck. Don’t feel ashamed. It happened. It went. Eventually, this feeling will pass too. Hope you can solve this out!! ?
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I go every six months to get checked and six months ago I was fine, so it was one of those six people but I don't judge any of them, I just am glad that who ever it was is also cured now or almost cured. Guys you are so so so lovely!! Thank you two so much ❤️❤️ I feel better about it today, and yes I think people shouldn't be ashamed of STDs, I think people should be more open if they feel brave enough. But I also agree that condoms are best to use and I will never be so promiscuous again. I have learnt from my mistake, and now I have a boyfriend, I'm ganna make sure fully that we are both free from everything, and then have unprotected sex, and be sensible and instead of keep taking the morning after pill, there is a reason why I haven't looked into contraceptives, because so many people in my family have bad reactions to them and my mum has a history of blood clot, but I will seriously consider it even tho the guy I'm with is absolutely perfect, buys me absolutely everything and is kind and caring, and he said he'd be here for me if I ever did get pregnant from the pull out, but I will wait 4 months being with him until we go unprotected again. I have been risky and this is a wake up call. Xx
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I’m so glad you’re feeling better ! The pill isn’t the only option for contraception if you’re worried about blood clots or how you might react. Look into iud’s !
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Thank you, will definitely do this xx
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Huge tw I’m so scared I’m a r*pist people have told me I am. I wanted to lose my virginity when I was 19 I felt embarrassed and ashamed I hadn’t. I decided to get drunk and find someone in a club to lose it to. I don’t remember much other than I was happy it was finally happening and remember thinking my plan had worked. I was told by friends that the other person was drunk and possibly on drugs. I must be a r*pist as I knew what I was doing and instigated it, I took advantage and used someone. I feel sick and don’t deserve to move on I can’t even apologies as it was a complete stranger what if they’re living with trauma because of me.
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In September I had unprotected oral sex. I haven’t had sex in five years because even before that I was so ashamed and worried about sex. I finally did it and then a few weeks later while I was at work I started to be very itchy all in my underwear area like up to my butt. I didnt see any blisters or anything but when I googled it, herpes came up. Eventually I thought maybe it was the new underwear I bought and it went away after I stopped wearing them. However it’s returned twice, mostly when I’m really worried about herpes. I know this makes little sense because I don’t thinking about it would cause an outbreak but, either way I’m really nervous to go get tested because I heard there’s a high false positive rate and if I get a positive there’s a huge chance I will just become a recluse and never speak to anyone again. I already have so much trauma with sex, vaginismus, etc. I can’t imagine telling anyone I have herpes and then they 1) don’t want to be with me 2) now know this and could tell anyone they want Even if I don’t have it I was reading it could be asymptomatic and 80% of people who have it don’t even know, so now I’m worried I will get it no matter what sex I have. I can barely handle staying alive with just OCD but now with social stigma with herpes I will feel like I can not even live a normal life. I am already freaking out about it and don’t know what to do. I am worried to go get tested and it saying I have it, and then I’m worried to not and potentially spread it, I’m not even having sex with anyone right now so it’s not like I would. But I’m worried I will forget to wash my hands and touch something and someone else will touch it and then get it. I’m just having a really bad time.
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When I was single, I watched a lot of porn, specifically lesbian porn even though I’m straight. When I got into my current relationship I dwindled down and eventually stopped watching porn of any kind, around six or so months ago. I had a flare up recently that has caused me to question every part of myself including my sexuality and my identity, my relationship, and other things that are important and valued to me, and porn keeps popping up in all of these things. I feel like my porn usage was me cheating on my boyfriend, especially in the early parts of our relationship. I broke down to him last month about it and he said it was okay, that he forgives me, but I’m still hung up on it because I can’t shake the feeling that I’ve wronged him and that I’m a terrible person and that I need to leave him because of this. This is so excruciatingly painful. I don’t want to keep confessing over and over and over again, but I don’t want to be a dirty lying cheater, which I feel like I am.
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