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ocd and sex
how do u deal with guilt caused by intrusive thoughts during sexual activities?
how do u deal with guilt caused by intrusive thoughts during sexual activities?
i get this, and i already have a lowered sex drive with my meds that i take. so accessing attraction and physical sensations is something that i really struggle with, i definitely understand how isolating this can get and how guilty we feel about it for ourselves and partner!! i would say that the first thing to do is identify the thoughts and label them, don’t try to avoid them or worry about IF you will think them, because you will. but you can begin to turn your focus to the activity at hand (and what a great one ;) this is called relabeling and refocusing. relabeling the thought as a SYMPTOM of a chronic medical condition can put space in between these thoughts. i would also say that opening up to your partner and connecting over this topic with them might be helpful and create intimacy. i have definitely had to redefine what it means to be intimate and sexually/physically attracted after getting my rocd diagnosis, but there isn’t any shame in that. i used to be so so hypersexual and now that i have my meds it’s different and something im working to improve with my psychiatrist. people have different interpretations of all experiences and emotions and sex is way more than what our brains are telling us. sex is energy, sex is connecting; ocd wants to take that away from you. it doesn’t mean anything if the intrusive thought comes during sex more than it does any other time. you won’t let it get to you tho, because you are here and so able! message me if you want to share more!
I wouldn’t suggest drinking but just be patient with your self give your self grace with your response prevention messages don’t put pressure on yourself just enjoy and try to stay as mindful as possible not every thought needs attention this sounds easier then what it is but I practice by using my RPM in every activity I get intrusive thoughts in
@Jodi :) what is rpm?
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Hang in there. I had the same situation today Sorry for TMI Sucks having intrusive thoughts during sexual activity. It makes me feel guilty and associates the act to the thoughts. As part of ERP i have to face it. Sometimes i have to stop and pause as a compulsion but still engage and ocd makes me feel guilty if i dont stop. I did stop and said mentally its ocd stop but my hand was still in a sexual position making contact with body. I know my intention was to avoid the thought and its unwanted.ocd makes me feel guilty because of my hand positioning touching a specific body part regarding the activity even though the thought distressed me and i mentally said stop its ocd if i recall properly. I have a hard time with sexual activiry because of intrusive thoughts. Sorry for TMI. Thanks for letting me share in a safe space for other adults sharing the struggle. I know my intentions were to imagine my wife and be intimate with myself. I know i stopped to recollect myself and than continue activity. Ocd makes me feel guilty because i kept connected to the body in a sexual way but it shouldnt matter if my hand was places on a body part its no different than if i continued activity without stopping what matters is my intention and its ocd and i was trying to recollect. Im sure You can relate. Hang in there. Its certainly ocd in both our cases. Hope my experience helps and sorry for seeiking reassurance or making it about me. Take care. Best of wishes
I spoke with my therapist about intrusivr association ocd thoughts. When i watch porn ocd says the person reminds me of a kid i know or a relative. I told myself repeatedly this is an ocd thougjt its intrusive associations. Multiple times. And i compulsivrly stopped and tried regrounding when the anxiety was too much. My intention was to look at my eofes photo then to look at a woman on pornhub who reminded me of my wife and On the last time i had the intrusive thought of a nephew. I exited the video and went back to my wifes photo and said her name to refocus. Ocd makes me feel guilty flr engaging in sex while having tbat intrusive thought of our nephew and ocd made me doubt “was i thinking of my nephew or was it ocd?” I know its ocd. Its ocd thought number one million. This happens for seven years now when i have sex or watch porn. I know my ocd brain hyperfoxates and worries about grtting intrusivr thoughts during sex so of course ocd is going to semd those intrusivr thougjts sincr my brains hyperworried about it. I know its OCD. I know my intent was to think of my wife and watch the video. Its just engaging in sex while having these intrusive thoughts is very uncomfortable. My therapist said not to stop because its a compulsion. It feels so uncomfortable so i know the intrusive thoughts of the nephew is ego dystonic and the fact inwent back to see my eifes photo and refocsus and say her name repeatedly put lout shows my true intention is to arouse over my wife. I just feel guilty for masterbating while the intrusive thoughts enter my mind. Ocd tries to trick me and say i was thinking of it but i know thats not true. Its my ocd brain hyper worried about getting these intrusive thoughts and them intruding. I often avoid sex and masterbation because of the fear of intruding ocd thoughts so i know its ocd. I cant avoid it or stop. Im doing erp. I recognize its ocd. Yet ocd tries to grt me to ruminate with feelings of guilt ans doubting if its my thoughts or ocd thoughts when i know my intent is to only arouse and think of my wife and i know indont want these thoughts i know its ocd.
Hi everyone I could really use some help on this topic. It’s hard to admit and talk about but after being on here I see that I’m not the only one! Still I would love some support and advice with how to deal with those unwanted sexual thoughts. For me it’s so uncomfortable and honestly gross when sexual thoughts get out of hand with normal people and also do extremely out of hand that even loved ones get involved. Like when I watch tv and all of a sudden I have these gross thoughts that I know if I accept they will go away but how can you accept something so gross? Would love some help!
How do people with ROCD deal with the guilt? I recently started ERP but feel so guilty sometimes when I talk to him or think about him knowing I’m stuck dealing with these thoughts. It hurts me so bad because I love him more than anything in the world but my OCD keeps trying to make me think of leaving him or hurting him.
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