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How to cope with guilt from intrusive thoughts during sex?
ocd and sex
how do u deal with guilt caused by intrusive thoughts during sexual activities?
ocd and sex
how do u deal with guilt caused by intrusive thoughts during sexual activities?
i get this, and i already have a lowered sex drive with my meds that i take. so accessing attraction and physical sensations is something that i really struggle with, i definitely understand how isolating this can get and how guilty we feel about it for ourselves and partner!! i would say that the first thing to do is identify the thoughts and label them, don’t try to avoid them or worry about IF you will think them, because you will. but you can begin to turn your focus to the activity at hand (and what a great one ;) this is called relabeling and refocusing. relabeling the thought as a SYMPTOM of a chronic medical condition can put space in between these thoughts. i would also say that opening up to your partner and connecting over this topic with them might be helpful and create intimacy. i have definitely had to redefine what it means to be intimate and sexually/physically attracted after getting my rocd diagnosis, but there isn’t any shame in that. i used to be so so hypersexual and now that i have my meds it’s different and something im working to improve with my psychiatrist. people have different interpretations of all experiences and emotions and sex is way more than what our brains are telling us. sex is energy, sex is connecting; ocd wants to take that away from you. it doesn’t mean anything if the intrusive thought comes during sex more than it does any other time. you won’t let it get to you tho, because you are here and so able! message me if you want to share more!
I wouldn’t suggest drinking but just be patient with your self give your self grace with your response prevention messages don’t put pressure on yourself just enjoy and try to stay as mindful as possible not every thought needs attention this sounds easier then what it is but I practice by using my RPM in every activity I get intrusive thoughts in
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Hang in there. I had the same situation today Sorry for TMI Sucks having intrusive thoughts during sexual activity. It makes me feel guilty and associates the act to the thoughts. As part of ERP i have to face it. Sometimes i have to stop and pause as a compulsion but still engage and ocd makes me feel guilty if i dont stop. I did stop and said mentally its ocd stop but my hand was still in a sexual position making contact with body. I know my intention was to avoid the thought and its unwanted.ocd makes me feel guilty because of my hand positioning touching a specific body part regarding the activity even though the thought distressed me and i mentally said stop its ocd if i recall properly. I have a hard time with sexual activiry because of intrusive thoughts. Sorry for TMI. Thanks for letting me share in a safe space for other adults sharing the struggle. I know my intentions were to imagine my wife and be intimate with myself. I know i stopped to recollect myself and than continue activity. Ocd makes me feel guilty because i kept connected to the body in a sexual way but it shouldnt matter if my hand was places on a body part its no different than if i continued activity without stopping what matters is my intention and its ocd and i was trying to recollect. Im sure You can relate. Hang in there. Its certainly ocd in both our cases. Hope my experience helps and sorry for seeiking reassurance or making it about me. Take care. Best of wishes
From what I’ve seen from quite a few people on here and Reddit, dealing with intrusive thoughts during “private” time seems to be something i and many others sadly deal with. I’ve “sort of” gotten used to it but I wish I can enjoy myself sexually the way I used to before these thoughts took over my mind. It’s literally what started the POCD obsession for me in the first place, and why it’s so hard to believe it’s OCD when these thoughts are so prevalent when I’m engaging in something sexual. I always feel reluctant to actually do the deed sometimes cause of how present the thoughts are before I do it but I force myself to cause avoiding it isn’t gonna help. And honestly, I just want to get it over with before my sex drive and these thoughts clash and make it infinitely worse. I try my best to focus on what I know I want (gay porn) but it’s like windshield wipers during a storm. I see clearly for like 5 seconds then boom there’s something that shouldn’t be there and I have to stop. Over and over again. It’s even worse when I finish and it finds its way back on mind when it should be the last thing on it at such a moment. I can’t believe the one thing I used as a stress reliever is now something that cause me nothing but stress.
Has anyone gone through this or is still going through this and can give any tips on how to make it stop? The intrusive thoughts during sexual activities are simply bothering me so much that I'm afraid to do anything like that because of the thoughts. I couldn't do it for weeks because I was always thinking about some atrocious thing, but yesterday I failed and now I'm feeling bad because even though I tried not to think, it's like I had an open folder in the back of my head and I blame myself for not being able to delete or block it. I'm afraid that avoiding it will become a compulsion and disrupt my sex life, but I also don't feel comfortable doing it often because of the thoughts. Does anyone identify? any tips to improve? I'm repressing myself because of this and I know it's not something that will do me any good. Sorry if this is inappropriate.
18+ please! Sorry if this inappropriate. Does anyone else deal with the consequences of having consumed pornography and has ocd? Can you tell me if you also have a lot of intrusive thoughts during sexual activity? I'm not proud to say that I had access to this type of content at a young age and it grew with me until the first years of my adult life. I only became aware of the extent of the damage when I received my ocd diagnosis and even though my therapist and I believe that I have had ocd since childhood, addiction to pornography was an important factor in making the disorder worse since I suffer from graphic images and sexual content intrusive thoughts I've been trying to learn how to have a good relationship with my sexuality without using pornography for a few months, but it's not always easy to use my imagination when I have some tabs open in my head that get in my way. I really can't and don't want to have access to any type of adult content anymore, but I always think it's easier to be able to "silence" intrusive thoughts. It's happened several times where I try to use my imagination and then I have an intrusive thought and I think I stimulated myself by thinking about it and it's just disgusting and I feel really bad. I've been trying to deal with this for months and with medical help for both problems, I really feel dirty and lost about it and I don't know how to make it stop. I spent days avoiding even thinking about anything sexual so I wouldn't have to deal with it, but my therapist said that this is also unhealthy and can become a compulsion, so I don't know what to do. Anyone who goes through/has gone through something similar?
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