Retroactive jealousy

Anyone here struggling with RJOCD and wants to share?

Relationship OCD

Conner00

Date posted: 1y ago

Your correct it won’t end do it for your self wether or not the relationship ends or continues gotta get better now and yes i understand the details part. Me and my girlfriend would drink and I’d end up asking certain things hoping it wasn’t true and when it was it would send me in a downward spiral best thing that helps me it’s praying and forgiveness and understanding we all do stupid shit and things we wish never happened just keep fighting and looking for different perspectives and if you put in the work you’ll be a better person but I’m not completely over it either but I feel much better and am very hopeful so just keep pushing we got this ♥️

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

My story is very embarrassing and full of shame. I’m in a long distance relationship. I ruminate on thoughts of my boyfriend’s ex fiancé whom he has no contact with - that she is prettier than me and better in bed. I know too many details about their relationship due to asking and wanting to know more information and I compare myself to her to see if I am better. The obsession got so bad that I foolishly ended up befriending her on social media, pretending to be a random person on the internet who liked her posts, then got into legal trouble for stalking. Despite what I did, my boyfriend forgave me and wants to continue to be with me. However, I continue to ruminate and compare. I am going on my 4th ERP session through NOCD, but don’t feel too hopeful. I’d rather just end the current relationship, but I know that is not the solution - no relationship is safe from RJOCD unless I treat it head on.

anonymous127278

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Hey! I struggle pretty bad with RJOCD with my current girlfriend. My friends told me she hooked up with a guy about 10 years older than her and it’s been super hard for me to not think about it and ask her about it. When I’m with her and I’m present she makes me so happy and there’s days I don’t care about the past at all. I feel your frustration though, it’s definitely hard. The gathering information and stalking on social media.

Conner00

Date posted: 1y ago

@anonymous127278 Yeah I haven’t ask questions in a while but what I do know I’m stuck on like what did you do to them or how many times information that you shouldn’t know im struggling bad with that then I struggle with the fact that she told me

Anonymous

Date posted: 41w ago

Anyone here tried ERP for retroactive jealousy? If so how did you get on and did it damage your relationship or sexual desire in any way?

vebbert

Date posted: 38w ago

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issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 20w ago

worried about intrusive thoughts during sex

Hi everyone, I wanted to reach out to see if anyone else has experienced something similar with OCD and intrusive thoughts. I’ve been struggling during moments of intimacy because intrusive thoughts, particularly ones related to POCD, feel so ‘sticky’—like they’re all I can picture. Even though I really want the thoughts to go away, they persist, and I’ve been trying not to avoid intimacy because of them. However, that makes me feel like I’m somehow ‘enjoying’ the thoughts or images, which I really dislike. It’s like my brain is playing this awful trick, and it’s leaving me feeling confused and gross. I guess I’m supposed to not let the thoughts bother me and continue as if nothing’s wrong, but I’m scared that by doing so, I’m almost training myself to get off to them or something. This fear makes it so hard to trust myself in those moments, and it’s been overwhelming. If anyone else has been through this, how do you handle it?

Anonymous

Date posted: 15w ago

Maladaptive daydreaming

Anyone struggle with this with having ocd?

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 13w ago

Help, Meta OCD/POCD?

I’ve been feeling the urge to avoid intimacy or purposefully engage (for reassurance that I won’t give into a compulsion) because of intrusive thoughts and fear that I’ll “check/test” my reactions. My OCD is making me so scared that I’ll purposefully think of a child and try to see if I like it. It’s so complicated but I guess I’m mentally checking if I would mentally check during intimacy. I’ve even envisioned myself checking and it’s making me so nauseous. I know it’s a compulsion like any other but the sound of “touching yourself to the thought of a child” sounds atrocious and vile. I’m terrified I’ll automatically start checking next time I am being intimate. I truly feel so worried. If anyone has gone through something similar, I’d appreciate hearing your experience. Or if anyone has any advice?

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