Struggling

I’m finding it really hard to comfort my long distance boyfriend he’s really low but I’m also feeling so low and I feel really guilty because he says I’m not there for him I’m trying to comfort him I’m getting so angry at myself because I just am finding it so hard to be there for someone when I’m getting sh thoughts Feel guilty and he thinks I’m making it about me Idk what to do I have no one to talk to because I can’t talk to him about it as he’s going through stuff

Username: Ocelots are coolOcelots are ...

Date posted: 33w ago

This seems like an unfair dynamic. I hope that your boyfriend can support you while he’s going through things the way he expects you to support him while you go through things. It’s not healthy to expect partners to manage our emotions and it wouldn’t be right for you to adopt that role in his life… I hope this situation changes for you.

Username: ambermayxambermayx

Date posted: 32w ago

@Ocelots are cool Yes he’s been so supportive but I just didn’t want to go to him because he’s going through things I just thought it was unfair because it’s always me with a problem and he’s always there for me but I feel bad because he’s going through a lot I didn’t want to bother him with my problems I told him one of the things and he was there for me , he’s amazing it’s just hard to be there for him and act like nothing is going on with me

Username: thebubblyonethebubblyone

Date posted: 33w ago

i'm really sorry you're going through this tough time. it sounds incredibly hard to juggle your own feelings while trying to be there for your boyfriend, especially with the distance between you. it's okay to feel overwhelmed and to need support for yourself, too. 💔 by the way, have you heard about this new AI-powered OCD therapy tool called "unstuck?" when i was in a similar situation, feeling really low and struggling to support someone else, this free AI OCD therapy tool (unstuckmyocd.com/try) that my NOCD therapist recommended really made a difference for me. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it provides personalized, step-by-step support when things get difficult, just like an OCD therapist would. it's a way to find some grounding and support for yourself, which might help you feel more present and able to support your boyfriend, without feeling overwhelmed by your own emotions. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have Qs or just want to talk more! <3

Username: ambermayxambermayx

Date posted: 32w ago

@thebubblyone is unstuck the app? Because I have an ocd app called unstuck but it’s stopped working for me now and says I have to pay for it which I can’t so not sure if this is what you mean Thankyou <3

Username: thebubblyonethebubblyone

Date posted: 32w ago

@ambermayx - yep!! that's the app i'm referring to.

Username: ambermayxambermayx

Date posted: 31w ago

@thebubblyone Okay it’s stopped working for me but I will try it again

Username: sams07

Date posted: 5y ago

Currently dealing with thoughts that my boyfriend doesn’t care about me based on our interactions last night and this morning via text (which I shouldn’t even read into). Usually I would confront him and he would assure me that’s not the case... but then that feeds the OCD and I feel guilt. I’m fighting really hard right now but it’s hard. Another layer of this is that we have different love languages. I’m words of affirmation, and that’s something he’s trying to work on but some days it does falls flat for me. Helpppp!

Username: c444tmommy

Date posted: 4y ago

my mind is making me feel so guilty for all the shit i put my boyfriend through when it comes to my mental health

Relationship OCD

Username: Anonymous78

Date posted: 44w ago

Feeling so strange and lonely

I was sick all week with the flu and starting to feel better tonight. Was hoping to see my boyfriend, but he’s gotta see his grandma this weekend and, for good reason, doesn’t wanna accidentally expose her to the flu! He’s at a party we were both supposed to be at tonight, which makes me feel resentful, but he’s been calling me throughout the night and even ordered some food to my house for me. We were just on the phone and he asked if it was ok if I called him back later and I said yeah. He asked, “Are you sure?” And I started to get choked up, so I said yes again and abruptly hung up. Which was a weird thing to do. I texted him to say, “Sorry I’m just feeling kinda blue. It’s not your fault. Just call me back whenever.” When he didn’t respond within a few minutes, I tried to call him and he didn’t answer. I followed it up with another apology, and he just responded “it’s ok” and has said nothing since. Both of my roommates are out of the apartment and I just feel so lonely and scared and like I’m a bad and manipulative person, and that this relationship is failing. Can’t tell if I hate myself, hate him, or both. I wish he was here to comfort me, but he has good reason to stay away given that I’m sick. I keep thinking I’m getting this upset because I’m a manipulative person. I’m scared of using my mental health struggles to manipulate others and get them to pity me. AGH I don’t want reassurance; I just want someone to talk to who gets it. I’m just really lonely tonight.

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