Hieronymus
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- 1y
OCD and other people
Do you ever worry that other people are up to something? Like cheating, how do you manage the fear of a partner possibly being bad or possibly doing something bad?
Rissa94Rissa94
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
I never knew this was a subtype of OCD for years. I remember the day it hit me and I thought it was PTSD. I spent some years getting that reinsurance from my husband if he was doing something behind my back and if he loved me. I knew he loved me but that uncertainty I wasn’t good at with sitting with. When I finally got the help I needed with the help of NOCD I had to learn to sit with that uncertainty. I will say my husband is a trooper because I had my bad days but you will see the light at the end of tunnel. Sit with this uncertainty they may or may not be be doing something. You can’t control what happens but you can control to live your life to the fullest and at the end of the day know you are doing your best. Don’t let these thoughts consume you like they did me for way to long.
Misstama65Misstama65
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5w
Are you still on this ap? I have the same issue and would love to talk if you have time. I currently get therapy here
Rissa94Rissa94
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- 5w
@Misstama65 Yeah I’m still here 🙂
Misstama65Misstama65
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5w
@Rissa94 I would love to hear things that worked for you
Rissa94Rissa94
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5w
@Misstama65 Well tbh my obsession was that my partner was cheating on me. It went on for a few years.my mind kept telling me he was. What helped me was searching more into ocd. I started therapy and she had me watch the show cheaters for an ERP. What helped to was reading a book called relationship OCD by Sheva Rajaee.
Misstama65Misstama65
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5w
@Rissa94 I'll look into that. That's my focus also but it's getting better. I'm trying " maybe he is... I'll worry about it when there's proof". Stuff like that
Hieronymus Hieronymus
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- 1y
I love my boyfriend and I think he’s a good guy but I sometimes worry that he’s hiding something from me and I don’t really know what to do about those feelings. I doubt he is actually hiding anything from me to worry about but the fear is intense sometimes.
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