Does it get better?

My rocd has been going on for almost 6 months now. I always have something new to worry/ruminate about every day whether it’s an old mistake my partner made or something new he said that triggered rumination, also some things I feel I need to confess. It isn’t just “sometimes” where it happens where I let it all out to my partner, it’s every single day we message/call I’m seeking reassurance from him or asking him 10000 questions, a lot of what I’ve already asked 10 times in the past and it ruins his mood. I have noticed I feel drained every day and some days numb/not much emotion with my partner? ( only since I’ve been having rocd spiral) I love him and he is perfect for me is it possibly just because of the amount of stress in dealing with is absolutely tiring me? He also said he is a bit less excited to call/message because of how I instantly seek reassurance and ask questions every single day for hours and it’s never a normal fun call. He said he knows he will get better if I get better and learn not to reassurance seek. He has been trying to find ways to cope with the stress like constantly gaming. Anyone else been in this situation where both sides feel drained/ a bit less happy? Does the happiness return once the person with ocd is learning to improve? Is it understandable that he is stressed/less exited to call?

L_e_d

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 37w ago

Definitely go to ERP therapy and practice sitting with the discomfort of not asking for reassurance. I have been in the spot you’re in and It was terrifying to try and not have those long conversations and just sit with the uncomfortable feelings, but once you practice it, they do go away and get better

Princess Lorita

Date posted: 37w ago

Me and my best friend sound just like this! It does get better when you take care of yourself!!!

drowdrow

Date posted: 37w ago

I struggle with all of these things as well. I have also been in this situation. I don't have an answer for you but please know you're not alone at all.

Amss

Date posted: 37w ago

It was like this very much so when I wasn’t diagnosed. I thought our marriage was going to end in divorce because I couldn’t not cry everyday and think my wife was going to leave me or didn’t love me anymore. She was just tired and doing her best to be understanding and nothing she did was ever right in my eyes and I knew that I normally wouldn’t be like that. I was at my lowest and tried to unalive myself 3 times last year. After being put on Vraylar and being on it for 6 months now, I can safely say that we don’t have this issue anymore. We talk every day about regular things and don’t fight anymore. You don’t realize how bad it is until you see yourself in that mode. It’s so scary because you know you love that person and would never purposely hurt them so it kills you inside while you’re actively struggling already and taking it out on the one you love most. That’s what worked for me but I still am struggling with intrusive thoughts that she’ll die and our 9 year old and I will be unable to make ends meet and be homeless. I know it’s not going to happen right now but life has a sad way of taking people away from us. I never thought I’d lose my dad and he passed leaving me feeling like I needed to be with him and leave my family. I think there are safe place people in our lives and we just love them so much that we can’t fathom something happening to them or us as a couple so we hold on and have these thoughts that are our fears. It’s so scary and is so real. I hope this helps.

Jellybeans1234

Date posted: 25w ago

Understanding ROCD

hey, my boyfriend recently came to me and opened up to me about him thinking he has ROCD. i am trying my absolute hardest to understand it all, and came to the realization that i might have it too. we have been dating for almost 2 years now and we’ve been on such a good streak lately if that’s what you want to call it. the bad times aren’t truthfully bad at all. but i get so anxious when he goes out to the bars without me every weekend. and then he gets anxious because of how i respond too it. so basically im just asking for some tips i guess, because i truthfully do think he is the one and could spend the rest of my life with him. but there has got to be an easy way to get past this.

Anonymous

Date posted: 24w ago

ROCD

Really struggling lately with ROCD. But also unsure if it’s OCD or relationship dissatisfaction. There is good days then bad. Largely depending on how I’m doing on an individual level. It’s as if small things and some big things are so intolerant at this point. At this point I’m so torn between throwing everything away and sticking it out with someone I do love and cherish. Is it trauma response, anxiety, OCD, dissatisfaction. Ugh! Anyone struggle currently with this or have in the past?

Hailey25

Date posted: 19w ago

Someone pls help w ROCD

I’m really frustrated with myself. I got diagnosed with ROCD about 2 and a half weeks ago and now it’s taken over my life. I was just with my boyfriend who is absolutely amazing and I was obsessed with 2 and a half weeks ago and then a switch flipped and I started questioning everything and have gone numb. I noticed immediately something was wrong and booked an appt with my therapist who sent me to an OCD therapist who I meet with on Wednesday for the first time. I’m frustrated because when I’m with him I know what I should be feeling and can acknowledge how great he is and how good looking he is but I feel this block in my chest keeping me from feeling things. Anyone have any advice or has ever felt this way? I know I’m new to this and haven’t started therapy yet but my god it is so draining and the guilt I feel is insane. Let me know please🙏

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