SO OCD + attraction

Here’s my biggest issue. I see men that I think are attractive or I’ll notice a good looking man, but not in a sexual way, I don’t wanna cuddle them, no of that stuff. I simply notice how good looking they are, then the thoughts trigger that ask “I wonder if think he has a good looking face means I gay”, then I keep asking questions along those lines. Then sometimes I’ll put my self in a gay situation in my head to try visualize whether I’d enjoy doing something gay. After all the mental gymnastics, I come to the conclusion of no. Then I proceed to ask myself, “is the answer only no because of what society would think, or how you were raised?”. And I genuinely can’t come up with an answer for that, I can’t tell if I’m just in the closet, or if this is just OCD, or what. I don’t know what to do and it drives me crazy.

Username: ninkaninganinkaninga

Date posted: 20w ago

I can relate to you. I also do it. When i notice a pretty girl. But the thing is..for me it’s like my OCD choose these girls and it makes me think that i have crush on them. Like a secret crush on something. But the thing is that i do not have romantic or sexual scenarios in my mind about them, i mean…i do the same as you that i tried to think about it if I would like it or not. But mostly i just have her face in front of my eyes or i just have the name of that girl in my mind like over and over…..Ofc, i also have thoughts like what if my answer is “no” just because of our society😔 But i dont think that these are my ACTUAL DESIRES. And again, thoughts like what if im just suppress it, and dont want to admit it and when i dont feel anxious and i try to think about it, then im scared that i like it. 😞

Username: yessyessyessyess

Date posted: 20w ago

@ninkaninga It’s almost like you read my mind. I’m experiencing the same thing!

Username: Jesuslovesme777Jesuslovesme777

Date posted: 20w ago

It’s just OCD my friend, don’t pay attention to those thoughts and let it hurt you. Jesus loves you so much. 💜

Username: malalamalala

Date posted: 20w ago

@Jesuslovesme777 Thank you!! I also struggle with this and your comment also helped me. Jesus will always be my side!

Username: Jesuslovesme777Jesuslovesme777

Date posted: 20w ago

@malala Amen, he is the only reason I’m still alive, he gives me hope and never leaves us no matter what sis💜✝️🙏🏻

Username: malalamalala

Date posted: 20w ago

Hey!! I also go through this. You can think the same sex is good looking. I mean that doesn’t mean you’re sexually attracted to them. It’s your OCD trying to tell you that. It gives me a lot of anxiety, but after a lot of deep breaths and I just tell myself it’s my OCD. I feel a little better. I struggle with this a lot. I hope your OCD gets better soon!

Username: Mr. Solo DoloMr. Solo Dolo

Date posted: 20w ago

@malala Thank you very much, I struggle with this greatly. I hope we’re both able to shake this

Username: Gail AmalfitanoGail Amalfitano

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 20w ago

It is the intrusive thought and then additional meaning, value or weight given to the thought or your reaction that leads to more what ifs or as I like to call it Creating Stories based on facts with rigidly applied rules that only fit into the OCD story line that seem logical; however, it is not logical, it is just the cycle of OCD to make the pieces fit to tell an OCD story. The creating of stories with these incorrect/or rigidly applied rules or facts - is a compulsion.

Username: Mr. Solo DoloMr. Solo Dolo

Date posted: 19w ago

@Gail Amalfitano Wow I’ve never heard the OCD story angle, I’ll keep that in mind going forward! Thank you!

Username: Mr. Solo DoloMr. Solo Dolo

Date posted: 20w ago

Can anyone relate to this

Username: crystalwolf1053

Date posted: 5y ago

Does anybody have Sexuality OCD? Because I am pretty sure that I am straight but then suddenly about a week ago I stopped going guys attractive and it really scared me. I was convinced I was gay! I tried to like a girl but my brain was telling me that it was wrong. That was when I thought ‘OMG I DONT HAVE A SEXUALITY’ and I got really scared. Then yesterday I thought a girl was really cute but then saw a guy and thought he was gorgeous! And then I was like no I have to be straight!!!!! What do I do? Does anybody have this problem?

Username: hannah

Date posted: 1y ago

hocd- please help

this is so exhausting. Growing up i was never really attracted to typically attractive men. I remember wondering why i didn’t care about magic mike or damon from vampire diaries, or other example like that (it sounds so stupid but those are just specific examples that used to bother me) Looking back, I don’t know how much it bothered me. and I don’t know whether it’s better if it bothered me a lot (meaning it must’ve been ocd all along) or if it only bothered me a little (meaning i was probably just in denial) I literally can’t get past it. Everytime i have a feeling of attraction to any man, even my boyfriend, i automatically think that it’s probably not real because growing up i think i was worried that i didn’t really like men. I know everyone has different attractions, but that’s not what stresses me out. What stresses me out is the fact that i did used to wonder why i wasn’t attracted to typically attractive shirtless men. If i’ve been wondering this all along how could it possibly be ocd. my brain seems so black and white, like if i did used to think and worry about that when i was younger, then i can’t possibly like boys now. I just don’t know what to do. Do i just not like boys? Or have all of the thoughts (even when i was younger) been ocd? Someone please help. I’m trying to not think about it but i can’t enjoy anything, I can’t relax and it’s so stressful. I feel like i’m lying to my boyfriend and i can’t handle it anymore.

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: mariamaria

Date posted: 29w ago

Sexual Orientation OCD

Hi! I am genuinely so happy and attracted to my boyfriend but cannot stop having extreme anxiety trying to figure out my sexuality. Some days I think I am sexually attracted to women and other days I don’t feel this way. How can I accept the uncertainty? Another part of this OCD is I obsess over what the queer community will think of me since I have limited experiences with women. I am so happy with my partner but the OCD is keeping me in fear of missing out. I keep constantly comparing myself to others and getting down that they have had more sexual partners. Seeing if I’m alone in this.

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