- Username
- mmartinez015
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yes, this fear is very common with ROCD. You’re not alone.♥️
I’m literally in a vicious cycle of my feeling towards my boyfriend and his feelings towards me.
If you don’t mind me asking, has he given you any reasons for feeling this way? The reason I ask is because sometimes talking through it helps you realize that the OCD thoughts are irrational. That’s something that helped me with my ROCD at least. But everyone is different!
I feel the EXACT same way. What’s been assisting me is the understanding of the Obsession and Compulsion cycle. It’s sitting with the uncertainty and the uncomfortable feelings/thoughts and let them just pass by instead of concentrating on them. That’s how I’ve been going about my ROCD
I have suffered with HOCD and POCD. I’ve been able to get over the POCD Fairly quickly because as soon as I started feeling scared of being a pedophile I knew that I needed to get professional help. Whereas when I was suffering with the fear of being a lesbian I started having those fears when I was in eighth grade and they used to come and go and I never really attacked it as soon as it started like I attacked the POCD. Now I have ROCD with small hints of HOCD
Well, in the aspect of being cheated on... in my eyes I think our co-worker likes him, and that his family friend likes him too... so every time we are around either one I get paranoid that he will like them, I also get upset if I see his family friend’s name on his phone. I don’t know... maybe it’s just my brain amplifying normal things. The reason for my fear that he is losing feelings towards me is that ever since I told him about how I think I was developing ROCD and how I felt like I was losing feelings for him... he’s been very irritable towards me whenever I tried talking about it... just Friday night, we got into an argument and he mentioned how he was tired of my ocd and my “BS ?” (later on explaining that he was just saying that out of frustration because he feels helpless). Anyway, after that horrible argument; my ocd flipped and now it transitions between fear of me losing feelings and of him losing feelings.
Can relationship ocd not just be doubts about my partner of my feelings for them? Cause my ROCD started as that like “what if i didnt love them as much” or something then it translated to more things like “she’s a slut” or “she’s ugly” even though she’s NONE of those things. things like “i will cheat on her” and such. Plus feeling like i like somebody else, imagining myself with other people. Fear i might fall for someone else and overthinking that and feeling guilty. Just my thoughts, my ex was always involved and it made me feel guilt and doubt and anxiety and i HAD to confess it to them. Cause someone asked here whats ROCD and someone simply said doubting feelings and it makes me nervous cause i’d like to think i had rocd but seeing that makes me nervous that what if the thoughts were true?
Hey beautiful people 🌈 Anyone else have cheating ROCD ? Constant fear of being cheated on and cheating ? How do you cope with it, and with your partner if you have one ? I need some coping advice please 🥺🫠🫠
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year coming this May. I have never had feelings for someone like this and I genuinely see myself living the rest of my life with him. Talking to him comes effortlessly. He sees me for all that I am and works with me. My family has already begun developing a connection with him as well as I have with his family. I’ve never felt so at home until meeting him. Lately my ROCD symptoms have been playing on the narrative of him either finding a new girl that interests him and is somehow “better” than me OR me ruining our relationship because of potential cheating I have absolutely no actual interest in cheating because I know he’s my person and so am his. I know I’m going to marry him and I know that I want him to be the father of my kids. I want to see him grow and I want to build a foundation of unconditional love with him. So why do I shame myself? There’s this shop that him and I go to quite frequently, and the last time we went an employer that we typically see every-time we come began talking to me personally. We were all just talking about movies but my boyfriend mentioned that he felt like he was flirting with me. I begun feeling bad like I was doing something wrong. My mind started telling me that I liked having him “flirt” with me and that it made me feel desirable and confident in knowing that I was still considered attractive. I’m scared because now everytime we go the employee seems to be staring at me and when I went today he actually gave me something for free which led to me thinking I was playing into the flirting narrative and that this would lead to something worse (Though I still have no interest in doing so, just anxiety about that happening is the best way to put it) Has anyone else experienced something similar? Is there any advice that can be given? I don’t think anything’s going to happen, but what If I do like knowing someone likes me even if it’s not reciprocated? Does that make me a cheater? Or is that the product of unresolved self worth issues?
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