- Username
- mmartinez015
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yes, this fear is very common with ROCD. You’re not alone.♥️
I’m literally in a vicious cycle of my feeling towards my boyfriend and his feelings towards me.
If you don’t mind me asking, has he given you any reasons for feeling this way? The reason I ask is because sometimes talking through it helps you realize that the OCD thoughts are irrational. That’s something that helped me with my ROCD at least. But everyone is different!
I feel the EXACT same way. What’s been assisting me is the understanding of the Obsession and Compulsion cycle. It’s sitting with the uncertainty and the uncomfortable feelings/thoughts and let them just pass by instead of concentrating on them. That’s how I’ve been going about my ROCD
I have suffered with HOCD and POCD. I’ve been able to get over the POCD Fairly quickly because as soon as I started feeling scared of being a pedophile I knew that I needed to get professional help. Whereas when I was suffering with the fear of being a lesbian I started having those fears when I was in eighth grade and they used to come and go and I never really attacked it as soon as it started like I attacked the POCD. Now I have ROCD with small hints of HOCD
Well, in the aspect of being cheated on... in my eyes I think our co-worker likes him, and that his family friend likes him too... so every time we are around either one I get paranoid that he will like them, I also get upset if I see his family friend’s name on his phone. I don’t know... maybe it’s just my brain amplifying normal things. The reason for my fear that he is losing feelings towards me is that ever since I told him about how I think I was developing ROCD and how I felt like I was losing feelings for him... he’s been very irritable towards me whenever I tried talking about it... just Friday night, we got into an argument and he mentioned how he was tired of my ocd and my “BS ?” (later on explaining that he was just saying that out of frustration because he feels helpless). Anyway, after that horrible argument; my ocd flipped and now it transitions between fear of me losing feelings and of him losing feelings.
Does anyone every worry about their significant other cheating on them with Rocd?
I’ve seen a few people talking about rocd where they get fears they aren’t attracted to or in love with their partner, I’ve gotten thoughts like this before. However, I also get the opposite where I get afraid my partner isn’t attracted to or in love with me and that they will leave me soon. This leads to a lot of reassurance seeking like asking if they hate me or are sick of me etc. I try really hard to suppress it because I know that can push someone away. I’m just wondering if anyone else struggles with this or could this be something else like attachment issues?
anyone else have ROCD focused on their partner? like worrying their partner is going to leave/cheat or having paranoid thoughts about their partner? a lot of what I see about ROCD has to do with doubting your love for your partner (I've had that in a previous relationship so I know that blows) but just wanted to connect with people whose fears are focused more on their partner's feelings.
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