mmartinez015
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- 5y
bellabeanbellabean
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- 5y
Yes, this fear is very common with ROCD. You’re not alone.♥️
mmartinez015mmartinez015
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- 5y
I’m literally in a vicious cycle of my feeling towards my boyfriend and his feelings towards me.
bellabeanbellabean
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- 5y
If you don’t mind me asking, has he given you any reasons for feeling this way? The reason I ask is because sometimes talking through it helps you realize that the OCD thoughts are irrational. That’s something that helped me with my ROCD at least. But everyone is different!
Carm28!Carm28!
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- 5y
I feel the EXACT same way. What’s been assisting me is the understanding of the Obsession and Compulsion cycle. It’s sitting with the uncertainty and the uncomfortable feelings/thoughts and let them just pass by instead of concentrating on them. That’s how I’ve been going about my ROCD
mmartinez015mmartinez015
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- 5y
I have suffered with HOCD and POCD. I’ve been able to get over the POCD Fairly quickly because as soon as I started feeling scared of being a pedophile I knew that I needed to get professional help. Whereas when I was suffering with the fear of being a lesbian I started having those fears when I was in eighth grade and they used to come and go and I never really attacked it as soon as it started like I attacked the POCD. Now I have ROCD with small hints of HOCD
mmartinez015mmartinez015
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- 5y
Well, in the aspect of being cheated on... in my eyes I think our co-worker likes him, and that his family friend likes him too... so every time we are around either one I get paranoid that he will like them, I also get upset if I see his family friend’s name on his phone. I don’t know... maybe it’s just my brain amplifying normal things. The reason for my fear that he is losing feelings towards me is that ever since I told him about how I think I was developing ROCD and how I felt like I was losing feelings for him... he’s been very irritable towards me whenever I tried talking about it... just Friday night, we got into an argument and he mentioned how he was tired of my ocd and my “BS ?” (later on explaining that he was just saying that out of frustration because he feels helpless). Anyway, after that horrible argument; my ocd flipped and now it transitions between fear of me losing feelings and of him losing feelings.
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Anonymous
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- 21w
Rocd
Heyy so has anybody ever experience in rocd like ur scared that what if u liked somebody else or had a crush on somebody else even tho u never had no romantic or sexual feelings for anybody else only ur bf but u still question urself?
cmax20
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- 13w
ROCD
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ellij
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- 13w
ROCD flare up
Lately my ROCD has been flaring up, making it difficult to even be around my partner. I’m having so many troubling thoughts with the one that bugs me most being, “maybe this isn’t my OCD, maybe I’m just in a bad relationship and I’m trying to cover it up and blame it on OCD”. This thought really scares me because there are valid doubts in my relationship but my boyfriend and I have openly talked about them and are trying to work through. My OCD won’t take that as an option tho. It makes me feel like I need to be 100% certain that these things can NEVER happen again or else we need to break up immediately. So anything he says in that moment about trying to do better, my OCD will not trust anything he says and just wait until the next “bad thing” happens. When I continuously bring these things up to my boyfriend even tho nothing has happened between these conversations, it exhausts him making it feel like he can never do enough. I feel so bad because I know it’s just my OCD getting in the way. But then that thought creeps in saying I can’t trust him because I need to protect myself. It’s just an ongoing cycle that is so tiring. I don’t even know what I want anymore. We are very opposite when it comes to emotions. I am very in tune and very emotionally intelligent, and he is not. He is the opposite. I do recognize that my anxious attachment style may be hard for him too but I can’t stop thinking about all of his flaws and all of the things he needs to do to make our relationship better. It makes me feel like I’m the only one putting in effort when in reality that is not true. But my OCD does make me feel like he doesn’t really love me or want to be with me and that he feels forced to be with me or do things for me. It makes me feel like him being with me is like a chore. Can anyone relate? My OCD just makes me feel like I can’t trust anything he says to make our relationship better.
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