ROCD

Hi friends! I am someone who struggles with general OCD but have recently come to question if it is more specific to my relationship(s). In my heart, I feel that I am currently in the most loving, fulfilling and safe relationship that I have ever been in but lately things have been rocky. I find myself questioning a lot. Examples being: Is he really the one for me? What if I am missing out on something even better? Am I actually happy or am I lying to myself? Is this relationship doomed/am I doomed to be miserable in the future due to our age difference (met at 25 & 32, currently 27 & 35) I find myself trying to pick him apart more often than not lately, almost as though I am looking for something to fixate on in attempt to reassure myself of some of my already negative thoughts? I’m just curious if anyone out there that struggles with ROCD finds any similarities to the thoughts I am having? Sending love!

Username: V@lentine2V@lentine2

Date posted: 20w ago

Haha yes! Your thoughts are textbook ROCD. I am going through the exact same thing, and it’s soooo easy to think that mine is different, but it isn’t.

Username: haileyybishophaileyybishop

Date posted: 20w ago

^^^^

Username: SamiellieSamiellie

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 20w ago

Oh absolutely textbook. Keep your values in mind — if he’s not being harmful to you in any capacity, this is OCD saying “oh, you’re happy? Screw you!” Don’t let it take good things away from you, you have the chance to fight back. Identify your fears, resist compulsions. You got this!!

Username: a.42235a.42235

Date posted: 26d ago

@Samiellie thank you for this🫶🫶

Username: haileyybishophaileyybishop

Date posted: 20w ago

I relate to this so much! I'm trying to allow myself to sit with the uncertainty; maybe he is the one for me, maybe he isn't, there is no way to know! But right now I am happy and am not going to let OCD take this from me!

Username: Nocd1997!Nocd1997!

Date posted: 20w ago

Thank you all for your insight, I’m so grateful to have found community here! 🫶🏼

Username: a.42235a.42235

Date posted: 26d ago

thank you so much for your post. i also struggle with this to a severe degree. i also often find myself picking about his looks even though i find him extremely attractive. it’s nice to know that other people are questioning the same things as me!

Username: alyssab12alyssab12

Date posted: 26d ago

I had all of those same thoughts. It’s really hard having ROCD and bipolar 2 and plenty of other problems but it seems like you’re trying to get help while you still have the relationship, which is amazing. I wish I could go back and do what you’re doing before I let it get so bad we’ve now been broken up for a month. It’s really hard struggling with ROCD thoughts when they surround the best thing you’ve ever had, but I have confidence in you that you can beat it, and I will too eventually. You are definitely not alone, which doesn’t fix anything but it does help a lot!

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 25w ago

ROCD

Anybody with ROCD question if it’s really ROCD or if you are in a “bad” relationship compared to your friends? ( I know comparison is an exacerbating habit for ocd). I feel great with partner and then maybe remeber any negatives and ignore the positives about our dynamic. I’ll latch onto something he said that hurt my feelings and wonder if I’m in an abusive relationship and spiral. I’ll totally ignore anything nice he’s ever done and convince myself I’m in a mediocre relationship. I’ll assume he should be texting me more and express his feelings towards me more. Anyone else?

Username: BunnyTailz

Date posted: 19w ago

Relationship OCD

Hello, I recently discovered I may have relationship OCD. I haven’t been formally diagnosed yet but I started experiencing thoughts like “I don’t really love him” or “I’m gonna break up with him”, and sometimes even thoughts that he doesn’t love me or he’s gonna leave me. This all started when I got a text from a former partner, and it was very surprising. I thought since it affected me so much that it meant I still loved him and that I didn’t love my current boyfriend. Before this event, I struggled with intrusive thoughts and compulsions but never about relationships and I didn’t think I had OCD. I wasn’t experiencing any of these specific thoughts before I got that text, and it’s really scary and I’m afraid my thoughts are true. I really do love my boyfriend but these thoughts are really making me depressed.

Username: Jellybeans1234

Date posted: 19w ago

Understanding ROCD

hey, my boyfriend recently came to me and opened up to me about him thinking he has ROCD. i am trying my absolute hardest to understand it all, and came to the realization that i might have it too. we have been dating for almost 2 years now and we’ve been on such a good streak lately if that’s what you want to call it. the bad times aren’t truthfully bad at all. but i get so anxious when he goes out to the bars without me every weekend. and then he gets anxious because of how i respond too it. so basically im just asking for some tips i guess, because i truthfully do think he is the one and could spend the rest of my life with him. but there has got to be an easy way to get past this.

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