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Username: Anonymousesti

Date posted: 9w ago

To all SOOCD sufferers!

SOOCD sufferers! Do you sometimes worry that you're true attraction is your false attraction and vice versa? and that you actually dont really know what true attraction is but if you go with the unwated sex you will know? Ima actually really struggeling between finding someone attractive and being attracted to someone.... I'm a straight female (I think) and I recognise a beautiful women more than a handsome men. Like I wasnt really attracted to my bf's body before actually being with him. However since in my mind, the female body has "more" if feels like I'll feel more if Im with a women? ughh soo weird. Like I dont see a men's naked body and automaticcaly get turned on, I have to be intimate with him for that to happen? honetsly between that and the romantic feelings that I feel like are not "enough" it really sounds like denial even if my therapist really diagnosed me. UGH

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: ChronicoverthinkerChronicovert...

Date posted: 9w ago

Yes 100% i feel the exact same way. I have been fixating on if I’m attracted to this girl who I work with and have classes with for weeks and it’s getting in the way of this relationship progressing with a guy I am super into. I have always pictured myself in a relationship with a man and try to steer away from labeling myself after developing SO-OCD but it makes me so anxious and my anxiety is telling me that I’m going to catch feelings for her and fuck up the (potential) relationship for him and I so badly don’t want that to happen. It’s so hard to trust myself and makes me doubt my true feelings and desire for him. I have started trying to tell myself to just take it day by day and I can always change my mind in the future, and even if I’m not 100% attracted to him all the time(which is normal) I have the power to make the choice to be in the relationship I want to be in. I also feel the same. Something my straight friend told me who doesn’t have soocd is that she finds a lot of girls prettier and notices them more than guys which makes me feel better bc girls tend to be more aesthetically pretty if that makes sense

Username: Iwanttobreakfree🦋Iwanttobreak...

Date posted: 9w ago

I relate a lot, just know you're not alone!🫶

Username: Nicola$Nicola$

Date posted: 9w ago

Yeah I had this several times, most of the times i worry they are the same, but I did had several instances along the years that they were like the reverse

Username: thebeginning thebeginning

Date posted: 9w ago

Definitely not alone!

Username: MidwestmotherMidwestmother

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 9w ago

Not alone at all! I really struggled with recognizing an attractive person or being attracted to someone at the height of my most recent OCD episode though in my formative years (sexual orientation wise), I never had any confusion between the two. There are studies that show most straight women aren't just aroused by images of attractive men. So you're not alone there either. I feel the same about my husband the way you described your boyfriend. I would not have picked him out of a crowd, but it's all the intangibles that do it for me.

Username: AnonymousestiAnonymousesti

Date posted: 9w ago

Thank you so much for answering! How did soocd start for you and when if you dont mind me asking?

Username: MidwestmotherMidwestmother

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 9w ago

@Anonymousesti I've probably had it since childhood. Worries that I was the only person awake in the world, tornado obsessed (I grew up in a prone area), body dysmorphia, etc. This theme had popped up for like a month in my 20s and a month 5 years ago but this episode May/June last year. I think the trigger was listening to audiobooks with steamy scenes (Sarah J Maas books) and thinking wait to I like the description of the women? Am I imagining myself as the man? And then off it went.

Username: Clare ity Clare ity

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 7w ago

@Midwestmother Literally the exact same question after reading a novel this past May/June. Am I imagining myself as the man? maybe I do 🤷‍♀️. I can’t tell.

Username: Idk1111Idk1111

Date posted: 20d ago

@Midwestmother Thats how mine started! I used to love reading so much explicit books and remember seeing “whichever POV you imagine is ur sexuality” something along them lines if you get me and i started to worry A LOT like “am i imagining being the man in the situation?!” And now its developed to this. I went months without thinking about it now its back, usually comes with the wintery months. But hoping it gets better!

Username: Idk1111Idk1111

Date posted: 20d ago

@Clare ity Im the same! How are you doing with that now? Thats how mine started word for word and its developed to worse sadly! But praying it gets better!

Username: Clare ity Clare ity

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 20d ago

@Idk1111 Oh I’m sorry you are dealing with this too. :/ OCD nightmare. OCD has literally attached to quite a few other themes for me that terrified me. this has been my most recent theme. It’s not as scary for me, as say dying… but it still feels so important to my life situation and like I need to figure it out. I understand that doing compulsions doesn’t help figure it out. So I’m trying to accept whatever thoughts, feelings I have as they are and not try to figure out what they mean. And wait for the clouds to part. But it feels impossible not to.. and I swing back and forth between believing it’s ocd or not. Are you working with someone here? Would trade tips and ideas on exposures. Lemme know. Wishing you the best. Take care.

Username: cf05

Date posted: 2y ago

Has anyone else with SOOCD found themselves mentally reviewing literally every interaction they’ve ever had with the sex that their OCD is telling them they are attracted to rather than the want they want and know themselves to be attracted to?? I am a straight female and ever since my OCD flared up about two months ago I have spent every minute of every day ruminating over past experiences and my mind has convinced me that I was attracted to virtually every female figure in my life, even though I have never actually acted on any of these presumptions. Likewise, my brain is pushing away all of the actual memories I have of being in love with past boyfriends and having crushes on guys. Now, when I see a girl anywhere I freak out and automatically assume I’m attracted to them, even though the thought of being gay makes me sick to my stomach and is never something that I want to act on. And also, when I see any guy that I find attractive, I will acknowledge that I find them attractive but it’s like my mind is telling me I’m faking it because I must actually like women. These thoughts are so incredibly painful because I feel like my attraction to men is fading away even though I only ever want to be with men in the future. I feel like I’m numb to everything and it’s making the anxiety soso much worse. Anyone who can relate or provide any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

False attraction for women with so-ocd

Hello all. I am a woman who struggles with what i assume to be hocd and have struggled with it for 3 years now. I have had false attraction on and off and have been able to let them go because i realized the anxiety behind them. Now however, i have a fear that i am secretly attracted to people of the same sex who are masculine presenting or one day i am going to feel attracted to and actuallydevelop feelings for one. Are there women that feel this way ?? Thank you advance.

Username: Anonymousesti

Date posted: 18w ago

SOOCD real attraction

For the people who have SOOCD : do you guys ever wander if your false attraction to the unwanted sex is actually what true attraction feels like and what you actually felt for the "wanted sex" wasn't real and was just forced all your life because of society? This thought is currently consuming me because I feel like its true for me... like whenever I imagine a guy it feels like forced attraction but if I imagine any girl it feel true and intense??

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