Ridethewave
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- 5y
AruphabetoAruphabeto
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- 5y
Yeah, but not finding girls pretty anymore is so unbearable that it's complicated even knowing that.
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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- 5y
Yeah I understand. Just try to distract yourself. Gain some hobbies, go to the gym, read some books. Just to take the focus off the thought
Ty94Ty94
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Yes? the gym and fitness have been my savior for years, and it’s one of the healthiest hobbies I think you can turn to. Remember you’re not alone. OCD is a monster but it’s also a blessing. Some of the most successful people in the world have mental issues/ disorders. They just learned how to use them to their advantage. My psychologist said that the other day and it gave me some motivation ✊?
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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@Ty94 Did you notice a massive difference in your mental health since going to the gym? I used to go alloooott about 2 years ago but then I suddenly stopped and my mental health plummeted ever since ? I need to go back but school is so hectic
AruphabetoAruphabeto
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- 5y
I'm trying but you know.. The fear of sequelae doesn't help. Thanks for your amazing answers btw.
Ty94Ty94
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- 5y
NocturnalGyal, 100%. It’s amazing what consistent rest and exercise will do not only for an OCD brain, but anyone who suffers from anxiety, depression etc. Even if you don’t have 3 hours a day to be in the gym, be open to just doing something that clears your mind and releases some of those chemicals that counter what’s driving OCD. All I can tell you too is try new stuff both with your exercise and your life. When I finally began to step out of my comfort zone with everything, the OCD storm came to a calm. I know it’s hard to be uncomfortable at first but force yourself. Do it for you. For the future you that will thank you for being strong and breaking through the wall of change.
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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Thank you for the words of encouragement :) it's true, stepping out of my comfort zone right now seems so risky because I fear that my OCD will become worse, or my OCD will be proven correct somehow. The hardest part of overcoming mental health is the first step to recovery! You've inspired me to try going back to the gym :) thank you again!
Ty94Ty94
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- 5y
Glad to hear it helped!? I agree, the fear is in stepping out you think it means you are going to make it true or become real. That’s OCD’s lock it has on you. That is the chain that must be broken to see the light. Trust me, I’ve broke it before! Facing the fear physically or mentally is OCD’s kryptonite. That feeling you get after you do an exposure, or face it purposely, that is OCD starving and weakening ✊?
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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I needed to hear this today ? thank you again for the advice! I'll definitely be taking more action toward overcoming OCD instead of isolating myself with my own self pity ????
AruphabetoAruphabeto
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I hope. I'm so afraid it will not come back :(
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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My theory is that they tell you this so you're not as fixated on the attraction anymore. If they tell you it probably won't come back, that's one less thing to worry about. And it'll come back naturally and slowly. Just stop checking and comparing your feelings of attraction to both sexes. It'll be okay, I promise
AruphabetoAruphabeto
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My situation is a little different. I'm no longer afraid to be gay, I know I'm straight, but after I understood that and made intrusive thoughts, ruminations and anxiety about being gay disappear, I had two normal weeks, then overnight I lost my aesthetic attraction to girls. It's been like this for eighteen months, I'm afraid it'll never come back entirely, that it'll be a sequelae.
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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- 5y
Have you been fixating on this loss? Can you leave the house without with trying to "check"?
AruphabetoAruphabeto
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I check less girls to see if it's back, but I think about it almost constantly.
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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Yeah, so because you're constantly thinking about it, you're in a constant mode of anxiety and therefore your perceptions are all out of wack. I watched this YouTube video and the guy gave an analogy of what's happening : imagine you're at a club, and you see an attractive woman. You'd probably want to talk to her and get her number or whatever. But imagine if that same attractive woman threw herself at you and forced you to dance with her and give her attention. You'd probably be like "wtf, get away from me". So when things are forced... They probably won't have a desired outcome. Same with groinal responses. When you focus some much on that area to check if it moved, even though you don't want it to. The groinal moves. So we pretty much receive the exact opposite response to what we want.
Ty94Ty94
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- 5y
Anytime ? goodluck, keep in touch, and never settle
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miss_anonymous
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- 24w
ROCD *long post*
I’m looking at old pictures and videos of my ex and I didn’t feel a spark or anything looking at them. During our relationship there were times I found her attractive and other times I didn’t. Almost like her weight triggered me and I felt guilty about that because I really tried to not focus on that. I don’t know why I was/am so fixated on her weight. I was doing the “what ifs” as a form of ERP. I was saying in my head, “what if she’s big what if she’s not” while looking at these pictures and videos. And then looking at it again, I was trying to remember what I felt when I was with her and took out the physical and it made my anxiety go down a bit. But I don’t wanna force anything or get myself too hyped up but for that second I felt at ease. I’m ngl I’m a little more confident then I was a year ago w/ myself. Sometimes I ask myself, “was I fixated on her weight and certain people seeing her bc I was uncomfortable about how I looked?” I’m trying to sit with uncertainty. I know this is a process and I am scared what’s gonna happen. “What if she moves on? What if I do?” I feel like I don’t know what love is anymore or if I ever was attracted to her in the first place. I’m also scared that if she does lose weight I’ll like her more and become more attracted. I’ve looked a pictures of her before and it triggers me bc I am attracted a little bit more and that makes me feel guilty. I know looks aren’t everything and they shouldn’t be. She’s honestly the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Does there need to be a spark all the time or does it fade in a relationship? Before getting on this app and seeing a therapist, we were talking everyday and I felt like when we would FaceTime I would look at her physical and my instrusive thoughts would kick in. I noticed that certain ways she layed or turned her head, I felt more attracted to her and I hated that. She had dyed her hair back in November and I felt more attracted to her , but my thoughts got to me and I felt like if I flirted it would come off fake. My thoughts would say, “she’s more attractive bc she has different color.” I kept my distance because I thought maybe if I continue to see my therapist and get on medication i would feel differently. I was hoping something would happen or I would feel something like I did when we first got together. But I’ll be honest when I first met her I wasn’t attracted. So maybe this isn’t an OCD thing? I’m confused. But I feel more confident with myself now, but I know I still have a long way to go. I’ve only been in therapy for 6 months. I’m just getting impatient and I’m trying not to.
faye1010
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- 23w
ROCD
Good morning everyone, I need some opinions or help on what people might think is wrong. March 2024 is when I started questioning everything about my relationship for no reason he is everything that I wanted, but my mind is trying to tell me that it isn't April 2024 was probably one of the worst times of my life I stayed home from work because I was constantly crying and totally sick because I didn't know what to do. The thoughts slowly started to not bother me as much. I feel like since it ever started I never have gotten that. Love feeling back for my boyfriend, but I want it back so bad because when I did have it, it was absolutely amazing. I have no desire to kiss him or be intimate with him either which also scares me fast-forward to today. I am waking up with so many doubts in questioning myself. Is this ever gonna go away or am I ever gonna feel that love back for my boyfriend ever again? I feel like I'm wasting his time and my time because it feels never ending. I went to a therapist shortly after starting to deal with this and she didn't really seem to help so now on Wednesday I have a new therapist that specializes in OCD I think does anyone have any advice? Thank you so much in advance.
Kay89
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- 21w
Therapist triggered me
I told my therapist I had intrusive about my bff and keeps asking me if I’m attracted to her and I’m say I am not he’s keep saying maybe u are .
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