Obsessed about a thought but not anxious?

@Philipp2024 I just don’t understand cause sometimes I’m not anxious but I’m med that I have those thoughts and doing compulsions to get rid of them

@OrMsB Honestly I think that it doesn’t matter if it is frustration/fear/anger or whatever feeling as long as you have some kind of feeling accompanied to the thoughts.

@Philipp2024 Oh so it’s not only have to be the anxiety feeling but it’s can be other feelings?

@OrMsB I think the feeling has to be unpleasant, so it can be fuel for compulsions which try to get rid of the feeling. If you would feel happiness from the thoughts I doubt you can consider those thoughts obsessions.

@Philipp2024 That makes sense thank you, I guess I just don’t understand my emotions. Or how to get rid of those emotions because they may cause the thought to stuck

@OrMsB The idea of treating OCD works by sitting with the feeling and not trying to get rid of it. This is important to understand, because if you try to get rid of the feeling you fall into doing compulsions which will make your OCD worse.

@Philipp2024 But I can’t sit with this feeling, because what if this feeling never pass?

@OrMsB The feeling will only pass if you open up to the feeling. Let me give you some accepting responses to use: “Thank you for giving me this feeling this will help me learn to sit with it” “Oh hi feeling, long time no see” After you did the accepting response you refocus back onto life. There is also this great metapher where you sit in a car at the steering wheel and your feeling is allowed to be in the car with but it’s not allowed to control the car.

@Philipp2024 Thank you I will try

Yep that's it...that's definitely it but my mind will definitely go what if In a moment. 🥲

@Devanshu And that’s totally fine, because you can’t control where your mind goes. You can only control how you react to the what ifs. I recommend reacting like this guy: 😎

@Philipp2024 Yes definitely, but sometimes the thoughts combined with visuals is so horrifying that this guy:😎 feels like this guy: 😵 from inside 😂😂

@Devanshu But to be in the “back door spike” I heard I have to be in recovery and I’m clearly not. I’m still anxious most of the day but when I’m not the thought still bothering me and I have to do compulsions I just don’t understand

@OrMsB Hey, I would definitely suggest you to get started with your recovery process, and I'm telling you this from my experience that when an intrusive thought is present in our head for a period of time and if we are aware of the thought being irrelevant our anxiety tends to settle down and when it comes to pure O we may not be doing any physical compulsions but there is definitely constant rumination, the what ifs the checking, so staying true to that fact about OCD and pure O in general, what I have seen with my ocd is that, when I'm less anxious about the thought there is definitely some sort of compulsions or rumination attached to the intrusive thought, and as the days go by, I can definitely see what they are, and try to sit with the anxiety, but as im getting used to the thought there is a part of me which is still anxious about what if it's not OCD, but I tend to look at it as background noise and try to work my way through. So I apologise to predict your situation and think that you are in recovery, and hence the "back door spike hypothesis". But the thing about intrusive thought is that we have to move forward even if we are anxious and let that thought be there and slowly you will realise and accept the presence of that thought and still carry on with life ik it's hard the toughest thing to do but I don't see an option here, not even dying would help cause trust me have tried several times. So yeah I would say it would help you to accept the presence of the thought and choose not to figure it out. Hope this helps,and while your at it, I would suggest you should definitely check out chrissie Hodges and her video on "Anxious about not being anxious" or "OCD or Denial" by a channel called " They call me Jesse",Have a good day.

@OrMsB And triggers can make you more anxious if you are not getting proper treatment.

@Devanshu I don’t think I have triggers like I just having thoughts all day

@OrMsB You should definitely check out those videos and start your recovery process, I wish you get through this soon and live a happy life.

@Anonymous Yes but I’m still obsessing over the thoughts this is what’s weird

@OrMsB I’m like that today sometimes you get stuck in a cycle where the thoughts stick and you obsess so much like I obsess to the point where I can’t think about anything else I wake up thinking the same thought I go asleep thinking the same thought

@Anonymous Yea it’s actually what’s happening to me and it’s not stop