- Date posted
- 43w
ROCD - I’m struggling today 😔
It’s hard today. I’m struggling. I feel so so strongly that I’m lying to myself, like I’ve made up ROCD just so I don’t have to face my true feelings. I’ve been able to manage my ROCD the last couple of months, but today, I’m really struggling with my thoughts. My brain is telling me ‘why can’t you just admit your thoughts to yourself and stop the suffering.’ But, I don’t know what I feel. ROCD has completely clouded how I feel (or is that another excuse?). My ROCD came up quite early on into dating, so I guess love hadn’t truly developed yet. So maybe that’s why I’m second guessing my feelings. I have this really strong feeling I don’t love him (that’s very painful to say) but that could be my ROCD. Someone can be great, kind, thoughtful, make you laugh, but that doesn’t mean you romantically love them does it? Maybe love is a feeling deep down, people say you know when you feel it. I don’t know if I feel it, so maybe that means I don’t 😔 which is so sad because he is amazing; I think I’d struggle to find anyone better. God, this is really tough. I’m totally confused. My brain wants me to admit I don’t love him so I can feel peace of mind, but I can’t lose him. I feel so so guilty. He always says he loves me, and when I say it back, it’s hard to say. That kills me. I feel like a bad person, saying I love you when maybe I don’t? That’s so cruel 😔 (comments that say ‘that sounds like you don’t love him’ are very triggering for me, just supportive words would be appreciated 🙏🏻)