Needing advice.

TW: suicidal Constantly fixated on the fact of helping people. I’m always doing compulsions like checking social medias to see if people need help etc, it’s exhausting cause I’m so sad I’m unable to help everyone. I just don’t know what to do and if I’m being entirely honest it’s making me not wanna be here anymore. I’m afraid that if i walk away from my phone for even 5 minutes someone will be in need and in danger and I want be there to help therefore it’s my fault etc. how can i cope with this? Obviously I want to help people but I wanna do it in different ways

Username: mellyhsmellyhs

Date posted: 7w ago

Hi friend! When i go through these feelings always remember myself that (especially say it out loud)i cannot control anything.I just assume that.Everything is out of control from us,and days passing by and there is no evidence of our obsessions becoming real.Dealing with ocd for 12-13 years.I absolutely cant say i am healed.I am in a very bad phase actually.But when i see someone like me (which is you :))I really wish that we could have healthy brains.You can understand, i am even stressed writing this.This life is a gift for us.We have to earn our happines with ourselves.We are a little bit different i know but we can heal,change our perspective to our obsessive thoughts.This gorgeous life needs people like you.I believe in you.🤍(sorry for my bad english and typos btw it is not my native language)

Username: Peach_P0PPeach_P0P

Date posted: 7w ago

@mellyhs It’s fine! Thank you so much :) I’m really sorry you’re also struggling hang in there and keep reaching out for help! I always use the 988 site for if I’m struggling so that can be good for u

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 7w ago

I too want to help everyone, but it's not healthy to be looking to help 100% of the time. Besides, we can't be helpful if we are engulfed in anxiety, so it's important to be healthy. Firstly, if someone absolutely needs your help specifically, they can reach out to you personally. Second, some good news is that there are others like you who are willing to help others as well; helping others is a group effort in each community -- not all the responsibility falls on one person. But don't get me wrong, it is very nice of you to want to help! I do agree that the thought of leaving someone in need is sad. One thing to remember is that if you aren't here anymore, you can't help people, you can't help yourself, and it just wouldn't be good if you weren't here for obvious reasons... If you want to talk about it, we can! I don't want to sound like I'm dismissive of your emotions either, because I understand what you mean, and I want to help everyone too.

Username: Peach_P0PPeach_P0P

Date posted: 7w ago

@Anonymous Thank you so much I’ll take that into consideration

Username: MichelleVMichelleV

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 6w ago

Oh I sympathize with this so deeply. First, take this as a sign that you have a big heart. That’s truly a wonderful quality to have. And you clearly value helping others. Second, as others have said, you can’t help every single person. It’s not realistic at all. Which, for me, has been a hard pill to swallow. Especially when I hear others struggling in ways I think I can help in. But it’s also not your responsibility to help so many people. Hyper responsibility is a very very common feeling with OCD. If people want you to help, they will ask. And you can decide then if you are capable to help them. Because you won’t always be able to - financially, emotionally, etc. it’s nice to want to have all the answers, but you won’t. I fear being away from my phone in case an emergency comes through and if I miss the call, I will not be able to stop something bad from happening. It’s a tough battle. But overall, the key is work on not checking, and to learn to sit in/tolerate/handle the uncertainty. Maybe someone does need your help and you missed the opportunity, or maybe not. And truthfully, you have to prioritize yourself. And that’s ok to do! You can’t pour from an empty cup. You can’t stretch yourself to a breaking point. You can live a balanced life where you can follow your values of helping people, in a feasible and realistic way. I am so sorry thoughts of suicide are coming up too. I’ve had those before and they suck. If you don’t already have a therapist, I hope you can find one so you can work through this with ERP. You sound like a wonderful person and the world is lucky to have you here.

Username: Peach_P0PPeach_P0P

Date posted: 6w ago

@MichelleV Thank you so much this actually really helped a lot. I’m working with a psychiatrist and stuff at the moment and I’m on Prozac and stuff and I don’t think it’s helping. It’s just my OCD along with the other mental disorders I have make me tired and stressed 24/7 and I just don’t know what to do because if I know that if I even try to get myself out of a depressive episode, I fear that my ocd will come in and I’ll start getting intrusive thoughts again, that are worse and so I give up and distract myself by watching stuff, etc. I don’t know what to do anymore which is why I feel suicidal I guess

Username: Anais V

Date posted: 24w ago

Empath and OCD

Recently I’ve been struggling with obsessing about becoming depressed and not being able to control myself. It started when I was trying to be empathetic for my friends who are going through depression and suicidal thoughts. After hearing about all of that I started to obsess about those feelings. I bought books about how to not be depressed and listen to music that is anti depression. I’m so scared of becoming depressed and having any negative self harming thoughts. I was so scared of rope that was brought home, that I told my parental figure to remove the rope from the house out of the fear of harming myself. Hi my name is Anais, I am 15 years old and I go to a prep school. Currently I am on summer break.All of these feelings have all suddenly spiked during the summer. At school I had none of this. I am reaching out because I don’t know how to cope with these stressful feelings. I am scared of being depressed and self harming. Every day these what if thoughts about self harm are on my mind. Like example “what if I’m depressed” “ what if I’m like suicidal” and I become super afraid of myself. Do you have ways to cope. I think because of these obsessions I am slowly gonna actually be depressed and that scares me more. Like my mind is trying to put me in the shoes of someone else even though I know I’m not depressed. This literally spiked over summer. I have had obsessions before like constantly being scared that my throat was closing so I avoided foods that I didn’t regularly eat. I don’t know how I got over it. I constantly read books about depression, listen to podcast, and make sure I can do whatever I can to not be depressed. I also talk about my feelings to loved ones and friends all the time. I’m scared of being depressed. Does anyone have advice to overcome fear of harming themselves or advice for overcoming feelings that aren’t mine. My mind is trying to trick me into feeling sad so it can prevent me from feeling depressed ever.

Username: cows12465

Date posted: 21w ago

any advice would help right now

The theme i struggle with most is suicidal OCD. And with September being “national suicide awareness month”, My anxiety is sky high. i’m back in my spiral. I’m back with the panic attacks. My mind keeps comparing itself to all of these people and now i’m convinced i want too or i have these symptoms and im next. i’m freaking myself out and idk what to do. I get scared i have suicidal ideation when i know i don’t because i would never ever actually kms nor hurt myself in anyway. Does anyone know how to comercome this??? I just got out of my spiral not even 1 months ago and im scared im going deeper this time. My mind is all over the place scared im actually going to do it when i know im not and i feel like i have to go to the hospital or something idk what to do.

Username: cows12465

Date posted: 18w ago

Advice please!! needed

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