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Sexual orientation ocd
Can sexual orientation ocd make you act on your fears and make you have same sex experiences ever and then after the experience realize that’s not what you are or want?
Can sexual orientation ocd make you act on your fears and make you have same sex experiences ever and then after the experience realize that’s not what you are or want?
Oh so essentially you did something with someone of the same sex and didn’t enjoy it… Trust me OCD is going to make it feel as real as possible. That’s why it’s a mental disorder it’s gonna make you think you truly are gonna make you think you truly want it. It’s gonna make you feel that you have no idea who you are. I tried to force myself to get off to the thought and actually got aroused and hated it. Other people have to.
@Anonymous Okay. My mind keeps replaying what happened and made me think like ok I got off and enjoyed it but like I am not gay at all
@Anonymous my mind tells me to think about it and like try enjoy it too, but naturally like my brain would never think of that, makes me feel lost right now
@Anonymous I as this something you recently did?
@Anonymous yea, didn’t want to, been dealing with hocd for like 9 months
@anonymous1348 Did you act on it?
@Anonymous wdym ? i’ve never like got with a girl no ?
Of course. Just keep at it with your therapist. I’m sure it’s questioned you to the core and I’ll keep doing that, but you have to sit with the uncertainty.
Hey! I’m glad to see you’re getting support from the community. I can’t say I relate to this specific theme, but I do understand the obsessive need to “know for sure” and then regretting my actions afterward. In my case, OCD latched onto a real event. I felt this intense urge to confess to an old friend why I ended our friendship. We hadn’t spoken in years, but my OCD convinced me that I was a bad person for not ‘owning up’ to it. So, I called and confessed, only to regret it when her reaction wasn’t positive. That experience taught me something; giving into the compulsion didn’t bring clarity, just more confusion. When OCD demands answers, it’s easy to act from a place of urgency rather than values. If you’re questioning an experience, try to sit with the discomfort instead of rushing to label it. Maybe it wasn’t for you this time or maybe it will be in the future. Or maybe not at all, clarity comes when you stop chasing certainty. Delay labeling until the noise of OCD quiets down, so your choices come from who you are, not what OCD tells you to fear. I am glad your seeking Theraphy! It was an amazing tool for me, bring more clarity into OCD!
OCD, especially when it involves themes of sexual orientation, can create intense doubt and distress. It can push people toward compulsions like testing or seeking reassurance, which can sometimes include acting on fears. However, attraction and identity are deeper than any single experience. The key with OCD is to recognize that compulsions (including overanalyzing experiences) can actually reinforce doubt rather than provide clarity. If this is distressing, therapy, especially ERP, can help manage the anxiety and uncertainty without needing to act on compulsions.
Can you elaborate on act on your fears?
@Anonymous Like have a sexual encounter with the same sex
@Anonymous But then realize that after you do it it’s not what you want and realize you’re not gay
If you don’t mind me asking, did you do it with a girl or guy?
@Anonymous It was guy on guy
Also, you gotta live with the uncertainty of maybe you do enjoy it maybe you don’t. You gotta continue living on with your life.
@Anonymous It’s more like I know I am not gay but like it happened and it freaks me out
Make sure you’re seeing a therapist
@Anonymous Yes I am! Thank you
OCD is gonna play so many mind tricks. It’s gonna question you to the core. Trust me when I tell you you cannot allow it to control your life. I’ve had it for four years now and I have it every single day.
@Anonymous Okay. Thank you!!
You have to chip away with the uncertainty of things and work on your beliefs
If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you?
@Anonymous 26
Gotcha and this is the first time you’re experiencing HOCD
@Anonymous Well I have had OCD my whole life but this is the first time this is where the ocd thought have attached to this subject
Gotcha, and when this started the first thing that I made you think of was to act on it I’m assuming. Perfectly normal by the way, so don’t get freaked out.
@Anonymous Thank you. This is so helpful to know that these thoughts and fears are normal ocd thoughts and fears
Hi there! I suspect that answering this question might just lead to more questions for you and that there is not any answer that will be helpful. How would you feel about just allowing yourself to sit in that uncomfortable uncertainty? If you have had the good fortune to experience effective ERP (exposure response treatment, which is the evidence-based go to for OCD) then you may recognize your question as a reassurance-seeking compulsion. If you have not have effective ERP treatment, why don't you give us a call to schedule an appointment? NOCD therapists are highly trained to help you practice interventions to manage your thoughts around your fears. treatmyocd.com Maybe I'll see you on the other side! Best to you!
Anyone else will just be doing anything normal and I’m gay comes in? It’s so distressing and I try and say ok sure ocd but the anxiety over takes me and my mind won’t let me believe I’m straight when I am. I love men I’m Not attracted to women but when I ask myself the doubt is for sure there which sounds like Casebook ocd. I’m just sick of this I don’t want to have to laugh at things in my head that don’t make any sense it’s so hard and unfair
Ok so I’m a 17 year old female, and I’ve always thought I was straight. But I just really want to know how you would know the difference between so-ocd and actually questioning your sexuality. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community (in fact I am very much a token straight friend, lol) but I saw a video about comp-het recently and it sort of felt like what I was experiencing. I don’t want to be gay, I want to be with men, I want to like men, I’ve always liked men, but now I’m questioning whether or not that’s real? Because people can be gay but not want to be right? I’m single and I always have been. I think women are gorgeous, but when I try to imagine actually having any sort of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman it feels wrong, at least most of the time it does? Sometimes I’m less sure, and I’ve never been particularly boy crazy. I’ve liked maybe 2 or 3 people in my life, (not to say I’ve never found other guys attractive, but it doesn’t seem to be as often as most people) I have no particular reason to be afraid of being gay, very supportive family, safe area ect, but I don’t want to be, does that mean this is ocd, I don’t know what’s going on every time I say I’m straight I feel like I’m lying, but that might just be because I think about it so much. The idea of being with a woman doesn’t feel like something I would want, but is that just because I don’t want to want it? People online say things with so much sureness, if you feel like this it means this. Ect.
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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