I hate retail.

Last night I was closing the store just like every other night. It was really late and I take public transportation, and I’m not comfortable taking the train alone as a young female late at night, so I take the bus. This bus comes just after my shift ends and whenever I ask to leave a bit early for my safety all the other managers say it’s okay. Except last night apparently. The manager I had was picking apart everything I did that day and giving me so much disrespect and attitude. I take it every time because I can’t afford to stick up for myself. She gave me permission to leave early and when I was about to step out she told me I needed to do more shit because I didn’t do enough during the day(I did my best). I stared tearing up because I got really bad images of me getting assaulted on the train or like me getting stabbed or something like that.(I live in a big city and crime on trains is too often). I even stared thinking of what to say to doctors and nurses about what happened and why I got hurt. To top it off she took away the days I was supposed to work this week. I hate retail. One day I’ll be able to afford school and work for respect in a field I love.

Anonymous

Date posted: 23w

its unfair that she gave you permission to leave early, waited until you stepped out then called you back, especially when you did your best. I've had my share of overly bossy retail managers in the past so i understand. It's nice that the other managers allow you to leave a bit early for your safety, which is of course important. It might be worth trying to reduce your anxiety over this feared consequence though, because your mind seems to jump from "late shift" to "attack" with no evidence to suggest this is likely to come true. There's also some overthinking and rumination, since you mention "thinking of what you would say to nurses". - this makes the thought seem more real as you are scaring yourself by extending a thought into a story, rather than not reacting and letting it pass by naturally. So the manager should be more respectful, then as a side note, you could look to practice reducing anxiety around unwanted thoughts.

FWann~

Date posted: 23w

@Anonymous Thank you for your advice! I cried a lot today, I’m not sure if it’s because I ended up getting home safe in the end and felt stupid for scaring myself, or if it’s because I feel helpless when it comes to people stepping on me. I have an issue with not practicing what I preach when I tell people “ stick up for yourself “.

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