feeling like i dont wanna be friends anymore..

i feel like i hate my friend and that i want to stop being friends with her. it feels like i desire it or get relief when i think about unfriending everyone. it makes me feel awful because this came out of nowhere and i have no reasoning for this because they’re all really nice to me. there’s not any red flags or anything. it feels like i want to send a message ending the friendships i have and i don’t know what to do.. everytime i talk to them now i get reminded of all of this and feel so guilty. i don’t even know if this is ocd or not because i haven’t even been diagnosed. idk what to do :( it hurts even more because when i think about if i would regret it, i don’t think i would..

Raisa5

Date posted: 16w

Dealing with this currently. Also not diagnosed yet but working towards that. I haven't sent out the message of not wanting to be friends, but they knew I was spiraling and eventually things got to a point where I said I needed space, didn't have the energy, etc. They both said they wouldn't say anything and keep their distance so I have space, but we work together and now I feel the need to avoid them. I don't know how to confront them and I panic every day at work whether they're actually mad at me, talking sht about me, if maybe just sending a message to end the friendships completely would help.... I've also considered telling them I think it's ocd but what if it's not? Or what if they don't understand the absolute depth in me saying that? What if they think "okay but you can't even talk at all? Because of ocd?" and then I loop back around to maybe I just need to cut it off, what if this doesn't end well, what if they hate me already etc etc. But I feel bad because besides a couple things, we had a great thing going and all of a sudden I felt the need to push them out and isolate 😭

Andrea Wells

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 16w

It definitely sounds like it could be relationship OCD! It can latch onto ALL types of relationships including family, friends, and more. If you are interested in getting a formal diagnosis and getting specialized treatment for OCD, you can start with a free intake call with NOCD. I do ERP here and it has helped a TON with dealing with the guilt and distress that OCD can bring on. You deserve to feel better!

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 15w

It sounds like you’re really struggling with these thoughts and the strong emotions that come with them. It’s understandable to feel conflicted when you’re experiencing intense feelings like this, especially when there doesn’t seem to be a clear reason behind it. The guilt and confusion you’re feeling are common when OCD presents with relationship-related obsessions. In cases like this, OCD can make you doubt your feelings and create unnecessary distress about decisions that may not actually reflect your true desires. It can make it difficult to trust your own judgment and lead to second-guessing, which only adds to the pain. It’s important to remember that OCD can cause intrusive thoughts that feel incredibly real, even when they’re not aligned with your true feelings. These thoughts can make you question things you usually feel confident about. Feeling relieved at the thought of ending these relationships might be a temporary way to ease the anxiety these thoughts create, but it doesn’t necessarily reflect what you actually want long-term. How do you feel when you think about not acting on these thoughts? Does it bring any sense of clarity or calm?

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 15w

Hello there! 😊 I know those pesky "what if" thoughts can be really challenging, and it's completely normal to feel the urge to do something to ease that discomfort. The good news is that working with a therapist can really help you develop new skills to manage these feelings and reduce your daily distress, improving quality of life. Getting a proper diagnosis is a great first step. Joining the NOCD platform to learn more is a start, consider reaching out to member services to schedule a diagnostic assessment. Take care. We are here to help🌟

Uypvqcm5

Date posted: 21w

ROCD

For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..

Mariabae

Date posted: 11w

please read

Lately, I’ve been feeling extremely confused and guilty. My boyfriend has been really busy with exams, and we haven’t talked much this past week. I don’t really feel like I miss him, and that scares me. It makes me think maybe I don’t love him anymore, maybe I’ve changed, and maybe this relationship doesn’t feel right for me anymore. A few days ago, a friend invited me to go to a club with her and another girl. I know that if I went without my boyfriend, he would feel bad — not because he’s controlling, but because in our relationship, we’ve always had mutual boundaries and respect. I decided not to go, but ever since, I’ve been spiraling. My thoughts keep going: “What if I didn’t go just because of him?”, “What if I actually wanted to go, but I stopped myself because I don’t really love him?”, “What if I’m holding myself back and this relationship is limiting me?” All of this makes me think I’m bored, that I don’t like him anymore, or that I’m staying out of habit. It’s hard to tell what I really want or whether these thoughts are part of ROCD or some deeper truth. I keep wondering if I’m just attached to him because he’s my first boyfriend and we’ve been together for so long. Sometimes I even think I wouldn’t care if we broke up, and that I don’t feel anything for him anymore — and that absolutely destroys me, because he’s such a good person who truly loves me. He doesn’t deserve to be treated with so much doubt and coldness. I feel miserable. I don’t know what’s real and what’s just obsession. It hurts that I can’t feel any clarity or peace. I just want to know if this is ROCD or if I’m in denial and refusing to accept the truth

helpme1234

Date posted: 6w

relationship ocd

my relationship ocd theme is back and it hasn’t for a while. i keep having intrusive thoughts about a friend even tho i have a boyfriend of 6 years. i like do not like this person they are good looking but im not like into them. i like feel guilty for no reason and i feel like i need to tell my boyfriend even tho like we’ve been through this before and it only gets better if i tell him but if i don’t i feel like im hiding something. AHH like i don’t even wanna see that person anymore

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